Well tonight when I went out sarging I had a horrible night. I couldn't pick up any woman. I either got shut down before I could start or they wouldn't show any interest while I was talking to them. I don't know if it was because it was a small city where I was clubbing but I just couldn't seem to land anything. Another this is my buddies seem to be pressuring me into picking up girls to bring to the afterparty that was going to be at there house. Normal I can comply with that but, tonight was the first night sarging felt like a crappy job you just wanna quite. I ended up calling Mocca and seeing if I could get any advice from her, it seemed to work because right after I went inside and I felt better I wanted to have fun... that is until my buddy came up and said "Shaft, you say you can pick up girls but I haven't personally seen you go up and talk to anygirls". That probley was due to the fact he always sat in the corner the entire night. But this fueled my desire to "show off" I approached a hot 3 set and openned them and kept all of there attention. That is until my buddy informed my AMOG friend that I was trying to pick up girls to "one up him" (I currently hold a high score then my AMOG friend and he wants to be at a higher score them me) so he cock blocked me and tried to take over the set. They both were so boring when there were talking to the girls and it was at that moment I was trying to ponder what I was doing in the game.

Tonight was the first night that sarging didn't appeal to me, it wasn't fun and I didn't like that feeling. I couldn't seem to enjoy myself because a pickup was almost expected of me from my buddies who wanted girls at the after party. I felt pressured and I didn't like that..... so I think I am gonna take some time out of the game. I am not gonna post nor read anything, I need to concentrate on me and not anyone else. I believe this is something serious.... I totally didn't feel like myself.... I felt weak and powerless......So I am gonna take .. I don't know 2 weeks... a month to try and figure out what is wrong.... hopefully I will...

It all started after I tried to fill in an empty gap in my life with random sex.... the last two weekends I went out I had picked up and got a lay close.... It really didn't seem to do anything... I didn't even feel anything from the woman... not connection... it felt like meaningless sex... something that I could have done without almost. So... this will be my last post for about a month.... I am taking "me" time. Good luck in your progress guys....

-Shaft

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Good! Me time is great man, I am a huge proponent of working on yourself and taking care of your own shit in life before you go and do anything else.

That was really dick of your buddy to cockblock you like that. It shouldn't be a competition, friends and wings should be helping you out and encouraging you whenever possible, not keeping you from your goals.

Who knows why your game was off, but I have a hunch that maybe it was your mindset that night. That's all. If you're not feeling it, then you're not going to do as well as you normally would, and I believe that's true for anything. Plus, the added pressure your friends were giving you could further screw up your mindset. When I do anything, pressure/"showing off" never helps, it only hurts you in the end and it only adds unneeded stress. You need to be comfortable and relaxed when you're spitting game. I'm sure you know this already, I'm only trying to give it to you from a perspective that isn't your own. If you didn't succeed like you normally would, it's because you're not in the right mindset, it's only going to stress you out and make you frustrated because you're used to success. Chalk it up as a bad night, and have a better one next time. Check the second quote in my sig, it's golden and might help your attitude about your night.

Take care of your personal life and whatever's making you feel the way you do. Take whatever "failure" you had, and try to find a lesson in it to teach yourself. Hope to see you back here soon, stronger than ever.

~Muse

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I fully agree with Muse.

I never would really talk to my buddies about my pickup skills.
I never would really bring it up... if we were all out, I'd just do my thing.
Always real humble about it.
It prevents them from having high expectations, and creating competition.
I don't have to try and prove myself to people.

Another thing I always remember, from a David D. cd set.
One of the guys he had on there was talking about this.
So many guys get to the point where they'll see a woman,
and think, "I HAVE to approach... I HAVE to say something funny."
The point is..... you don't.
Sometimes, you're just not going to be feeling it.
Everybody has off-nights, or off periods... you can't force it.

You just wanted to have a good time, and your buddies pressured you.
And, although you're very skilled, in your subconscious, it was there.
"Ughhh, this is such a pain. I just want to do my thing."
And it showed.

I was getting all excited, my friend.
I thought you were going to be gone, cause of work,
but then you put up a few posts/replies.
And then this one hit.

Good luck, man.

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