I have a relationship, with a good girl, i love her, we have tons of fun, sex.

But i got this little sticky point, when i see her laughing and having fun with other guys (even if we are on a date, and i know the guys). I think, somehow, they want to fuck her, and they are going to try.

So obviously, this starts messing with my head. I'm having this for a longer time, i can hide it, sometimes i can't, but i talk myself out of it.

But the problem isn't gone.

Inner game is easy said as a solution, but i need practical tips. If anyone has experienced this, or has a solution, let me know!

Thanks in advance

It's really about mental conditioning and self-confidence building. You need to internalize that she's with you because you are the best possible person for her. If she could have anybody, she'd pick you because you are awesome. The majority of other dudes out there are super relationship-impaired. Just by finding these forums, you are now automatically better for her than 95% of other men. The other 5% are cool guys who you could easily be friends with. Therefore, there is absolutely nothing to fear from other guys trying to hit on / sleep with your girlfriend. They should be mostly beneath your notice.

The more you read and practice the advice on this forum, the easier it will be to internalize these beliefs. The advice here WORKS. It is skill-set that only a small minority will ever seek to obtain. This information will give you a huge advantage over other guys. You should feel pity for them.

-Wolf

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I agree with everything Wolf said.

By ending up here, you clearly have a desire to be your best self with regards to women, and where there is a will, there is a way.

Keep working towards the goal of recognizing that jealousy is not productive in any way. The point of a relationship is supposed to be to mutually enhance your lives. If you can't get that from the relationship on a level you're comfortable with, then the relationship should be ended. This is why jealousy is a turn off to her. If you're jealous, you're a liability to her, not an asset. Likewise, if she truly engages in behavior that is problematic, then she is a liability to you with regards to your happiness.

The central question here is whether your jealousy is over valid concerns or if it's just a flaw that you need to work on. If it's the latter, knowing is half the battle, and you've got a great support group here to get where you want to go.

Good luck.

you could always try and make friends with the guys who obviously look like they are hitting on her.

im in the exact same situation, my girl tells me that she dosent have trouble not cheating, and that she only wants me. But when she goes out (like tonight) and i am not out with here, i get really nervous! all these questions pops up in my head, like: what if some PUA decides to approach, will he have succes?
i think that some of the problems is caused by my own succes with girls who was in a relationship

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Honestly I have the same issue. I love my girl very much but (without bragging) she is very good looking and every night we go out there's tons of guys trying to chat her up. It gets to a point where it bothers me because I know that the strangers are just trying to get in her pants.

At this point I get angry, but I (most of the time) suck it up and just walk away. I leave her to it and if she needs me, she'll come find me. On several drunken occasions I've obviously confronted her about my jealousy issues and it's ill-advised. A little jealousy is cute, but constant jealousy conveys the thought that you don't trust her.

I still hate the sight of her having fun with some other guy who is trying to chat her up and I wish I could get past it. I don't want to end the relationship because I would feel worse for sure. As stated above, it's a mental thing we all have to get past and I hope I can move past it soon as well.

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Can your gf cheat? yes she can but the reality of it is that you can't stop her if she wanted to, and life is to short to worry. Would you rather her cheat, you find out and dump her ass? or shelter her and have her resent you, and probably cheat any way?

Do you think any guy wants other men hitting on his girl? no of course not but you have to be secure enough with your self, and confident enough to know that she would never leave you for another guy. If you are truly "alpha" and you are a high value male then she has no reason to cheat.

Listen we all get jealous from time to time, its natural, but you have to learn to control those feelings!

how do I view my relationship? Well my gf could cheat...its possible but I am 100% sure of the fact that I could have just about any women I want, and I am confident that there is no other guy out there like me, so if she cheated I would laugh at her and tell her to hit the road.

that is so true! really really really well said! only problem now is, how do i evolve my self into living like this, i can see the logistic in it, but i cant really change my self just like that to feel that way, even though it is the way i want to feel and it is what i want to believe! so what can i do, in order too change my deeper beliefs?

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Go out with friends, have hobbies like working out, don't get mad if your gf talks to other guys, she can talk to who she wishes.

Now there should be some ground rules in a relationship, for example no hanging out alone one on one with other men, or no giving out numbers ect ect...you have to be trusting but not naive! If she is putting her self in situations where she could cheat then dump her ass! because sooner or later she will...but if she really loves you, respects you, and makes the relationship work, then treat her well and let her know how much you care about her.

Boy am I glad to read this thread!

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Anytime you date a beautiful woman you can be rest assured that many men will try to get down her pants. you cant stop this. You cant be with her 24/7. it's all about you being the alpha and most awesome person you can be. Trying to compete or go head to head with another guy is a waste of time and devalues yourself.

My girl is a model and out doing shoots and shows all the time. In the end I just stopped being so jealous and just got confident that I am the one she will always come home with or return to home to be with me. it's the price you pay for dating a sexy lady.