hey guys, i could use you opinion on this!

Met this girl online, and she lives like 1 mile away from me.. Exchanged numbers and texted for a while. We went on a date last Wednesday, and I think there was a real spark. We connected deeply, had the same humor. I had some light kino going on, and got little kiss on the lips when i dropped her off at her house. Fun times!

yeah, here's the thing. Her dad died 2 months ago. She is obviously busy in her head with that. (sorry for the bad English, i am Dutch) When I text her, there is not always a response or sometimes a weird one. We would have had a second date tonight, but she canceled (with legit reasons). I have no idea how to progress from here, being it such a complex situation.

i am really fond of this girl, and hope to get a relationship out of this.

How do you guys think I can make this thing work?

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Guys? I really need your help!

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I'm guessing the main reason no one has responded is the obvious oneitis you've gotten. Seriously, you should sleep with 10 random girls in the next month, and see if you still feel the same! http://www.fastseduction.com/asf-faq.shtml#q001

I suggest you read up on this link before you continue reading my answer.

Anyhow, one of the first things I look for when girls flake is the Brad Pitt test. If you were Brad Pitt, would she still cancel the date? And since you're not Brad Pitt (as far as I know), let's give it some leeway, did she suggest another day/time? If not, semi freeze out. Go out, meet other girls, have yourself a good time. If she tries to contact you again wait a day or two before responding /returning her call.

If her father passed 2 months ago, she is obviously in a vulnerable place. I'm not a psycologist, so I can't say for sure, but I'm guessing that she is more open than usual for a relationship. She needs to feel safe and protected, and a boyfriend can supply this. Again, it might turn around to "no one can replace my father" and backfire. In other words, she's vulnerable and an easy catch. But proceed with caution.

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Her dad dying is a non-issue. Many girls are bad at texting. Everyone has a mom, dad, brother, friend, co-worker, neighbor, etc, who dies at some point in our lives. Maybe it's last week, two months ago, or two years. It affects people in different ways regardless of who it was or how long ago it happend. But you as an onlooker have no control of that and you can't be expected to act a certain way because of it. You just game the girl the normal way, which is what you should do 95% of the time in any situation.

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Yeah okey fuck, I have oneitis, shit.. Thanks for the insights. My gaming motivation isn't what it used to be, and im going to work on that! Freezed her out, but no response jet. Gonna sit it out till tomorrow, if she doesnt reply then i will ask her out again. Anyway thanks for the advice guys!

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That probably won't work. I usually have to freeze-out girls for about 2 weeks before getting any response from them. Man, does it work though!

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you should give her some time.Don't worry. everything will be alright.Be patients

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To help relate where I'm coming from, my father passed away earlier this year. So I'd just like to provide my you with some insight as to my state of mind while mourning. The fact that she may text things that seem strange and that it may take a while to respond is really normal. You go through some weird and unexpected emotional states after a parent passes away. I definitely wouldn't let that phase you whatsoever. Also, don't be surprised if one day she wants to hang out with you and the next she just wants to be alone.

Just from my point of view, you have to find a careful balance of running your game confidently but letting her run the show when it comes to her own feelings. You can't run cocky/funny aggressively or neg. Just be there, comfort, build rapport. I'd prefer not to tap into her "vulnerability" since to me this seems cold to me. Just take this time to build trust with her and you'll have a solid foundation for a relationship.

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you could try negging her about her dad being dead, best case its a funny frame-interupt and worst case she gets mad at you and you NEXT her giving you some good reference experience.

What I would do in that situation is try some Kino. Try getting into a deep convo about her grieving process and then start giving her a scalp massage with one of those doohickeys from sharper image. This is scientifically proven to work

This is THE stupidest thing I've ever read on this forum.

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hey listen here man, don't try and and AMOG me on the forums. Sure she might react negatively but it's just a girl we are talking about here. If she can't deal with his cocky funny attitude he can just move on to the next one there are like 3.5 billion other women out there.

Hey, save the negs for the females, bub. This is neither the time nor place

I'd fuck that girl then I'd fuck her dead dad, too. That's how much of a man I am

i once scored an 8 after murdering her old man. you just gotta peacock a little - show her the bloody knife you just killed her father with and be confident - neg her a little about her dead dad and score. i've done this a few times across different states and have yet to hear one chic turn me down.