Still relatively new, I'm still in the single digits for cold approaches (I don't count drive thru girls as cold approaches)

I stopped HB8 with earbuds on her way to the gym by tapping her and saying "I gotta tell you something."

Me: "Honestly, of all the girls I've seen, you're like the 4th hottest in the last 20 minutes."
HB8: (laughs for half a second) "Well there's a lot of hot girls around here, so you should...."
Me: (cuts her off) "And you're the FOURTH! don't you feel special? You're obviously not the type of girl to take a compliment well."

(I went on to say it was a big compliment and I hope I didn't make her blush... etc)

We ended up talking for about 8 minutes or so, talked about my Fleur de Lis ring (she knew what the symbol was, so I rewarded her for it) and how she was creative and wrote poetry. I'm a musician, so we shot the shit about that a bit.

This is how I closed:

Me: "____, as much as I've enjoyed this, I know you need to get to the gym and I need to get to rehearsal... but I would love to do this another time." (got out my phone and handed it to her)
HB8: "I don't do that, but you can give me YOUR number."
Me: "I don't play that game" (hold the phone out in front of her again)
HB8: "OK fine, but don't be pissed off if I don't respond (shit test?)." (gives me her number)
Me: "Who says I'll even contact you in the first place?" (passed shit test?)

etc.

She went on to say something like "you're way too young" and "you're different" and "you're just not my type" --- I took these as IOI's but also shit tests and tried to pass them as best I could.

It may also be worth noting that I noticed she had a wedding ring as I was telling her goodbye. I've got mixed feelings about that, but, does it seem like she was interested? We talked on the sidewalk for a good 8 to 10 minutes.

GO!

Update, I texted her saying "hope you had a great workout and got rid of some of that aggression..." etc. We texted back and forth a few times, I didn't seem desperate and did a little push/pull but the conversation died. She called me "Mr. Fleur de Lis" in her last text and I said "speaking of, ever been to New Orleans?" (I was going to work in a routine on how I'm from New Orleans and have 2 paintings of the French Quarter in my place... she's a painter). No response.

Don't know where I went wrong. Don't really care about this girl, just don't want this to happen every time I work up the guts to talk to a chick.

Help greatly appreciated.

haha, i know what you mean about the last part. I got a few chicks numbers before that went cold. I honestly think you handled that approach pretty good. Just got to play your text game and if she's responding well then ask her out! If she flakes and goes cold, get back out there man!

It could also be from the whole married thing. Once she noticed u gaming her she might have been turned off from talking to you since she's married. Plenty of fish in the sea

I think you handled it pretty well, Blues. Nice job. You laid down the law and told her that you didn't play games, and you actually started texting her. Back and forth. Soooo, you definitely passed a pussy shit test or two.

How did it turn out in the end with this chick?

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Keep this mindset and approach more girls... you will eventually hook something. You've got the right idea. Just keep it up bro!! Most girls are going to flake on you... You won't have chemistry with everyone you talk to.

Nice job man really like how you passed the various tests and stuff. I wouldn't worry to much about her flaking on you. If she is married it was always going to be a long shot and you would really need to meet up in person again very quickly to build the connection again Texting and Phone can't let you build a physical connection its just a way of getting back together and crossing the time bridge.

Good job. probably a post for the field report section next time though

Raven

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