Greetings everyone,

After 8 months of off-season, I'm finally serious about getting back in the night game scene. I feel like my head is not in the right spot and I'll do what I have to do to fix this.

Over the past couple of months, I was with my girlfriend so I did not focus AT ALL on gaming other girls. I didn't have any time for it since I'd be with my girlfriend every time I went out or basically be with her or with my friends when I had some free time. I ended up cheating on her with my ex girlfriend, who also happens to be my one-itis. She didn't find out about it but I dumped her because she probably deserve more than me cheating on her... Anyways, so I've been single for about a month and a half, I went out a couple of times with my friend but didn't really focus on gaming as I thought I'd get back with my one-itis. Since we live in different city, we can't really see each other often, so I decided that I should get back into some serious night game.

Went out yesterday with the idea to pick up girls, I did some approaches, talked with some girls, took 2 numbers but for some reason I didn't dance with any of them (even though I know that they wanted to). Mental issue? My ex is way hotter than any of those girls I see at the club so maybe.... I don't freaking know.

Ahaha, the good old one-itis remedy, go fuck 10 different girls.

My question is... Does it really worth it to go and fuck with 10 different uglier girls?

Your thoughts?

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Dear Optimist, Pessimist & Realist,

Just to let you know that while you guys were arguing about the glass of water...... I drank it!

Sincerely, the Opportunist

Well, since one-itis usually sits deeper than physical attraction, I believe that it's a question only you can answer.

You need to decide for yourself if fucking 10 uglier girls will be worth it considering how you'll feel after. Since the point is to somewhat kill any leftover emotions you have for your one-itis, you need to figure out whether YOU think it's worth it!

As for getting your head back in the game after a long pause, my best tip is to game as much as you can! You'll soon be where you were 8 months ago. Best of luck.

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Alea iacta est - The die has been cast

Thank you for your reply.

Since I can assume that my one-itis is also interested in me, I wouldn't fuck 10 girls with the idea of forgetting her. Mainly, my goal is to think a bit less about her since I can't see her every weekends. But even if I do hook up with other girls, I will still see her here and then and have great sex with her. Which is why this question is so hard to answer.

When I started night game, I really enjoyed the fact that you can basically be whoever you want to be in these venues. I was having fun trying out different "character" and I did a lot of experimentations. However, I would be lying if I told you guys I didn't change a lot in those last 8 months. I don't see myself trying to be someone for a night just to trick and seduce a girl. I don't think my game will ever be at the same level it was 8 months ago, simply because I am not the same person anymore. I don't have the same goals, I have other priorities in life, etc.

I think that I will be more honest when it comes to gaming. But from what I saw lately, girls don't seem to appreciate an honest guy with genuine intentions as much as they like a "skilled manipulator". That being said, I went out a couple of times with this new mentality, approached and flirted with some girls, and took a number or two every night, but didn't dance or kiss any of those girls. This is no where comparable to what I was doing one year ago.

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Dear Optimist, Pessimist & Realist,

Just to let you know that while you guys were arguing about the glass of water...... I drank it!

Sincerely, the Opportunist

I think the real question here, is if you can keep on going with your oneitis as you do now. Emotions can draw amazingly much energy out of a person, hence you want to relieve some of that by fucking other girls when you can not meet her.

Is this something you see yourself doing 10 years from now? That might've been a tad drastical, but I'm sure you get my point. Somewhere along the line you most likely will have 2 options. A full time commitement (which can be very hard if I've understood the circumstances) or close to no contact. Sorry bro, but I can't see you going on with this forever.

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Alea iacta est - The die has been cast

to answer your question, for me I am always trying to upgrade women. I've never been with a 10 but been close. I guess, I could convince myself that there are certain features of an 8 I like more than a 9 ,ie; she's got nicer tits, nicer ass, better tan, nicer lips, but maybe more of a plain jane look than the 9 and therefore she's equal to the 9. But I don't know why, if you can get a 9, you would starting fucking 6's or 7's

The Dice, you are totally right. This is something I would never see myself doing in 10 years from now. I know that this is not healthy, but to do something is actually easier said than done. Basically, she is the only girl whom I truly enjoyed being with even if I've had other girlfriends. Even if we're not together anymore, we never really stopped talking and I just don't see me having the same chemistry with any other girl. She is the kind of girl I could actually see myself marrying in the future. Which makes stopping contact with her a lot harder.

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Dear Optimist, Pessimist & Realist,

Just to let you know that while you guys were arguing about the glass of water...... I drank it!

Sincerely, the Opportunist

Well, that sure make things hell of a lot harder.

Will you eventually move to the same town, or are your plans to stay where you are?

Is there, in the future, any bigger chance of you getting back together than it is now?

If it is, then you might have to wait for that to happen. If it's not, or if it's still uncertain, you'll have to make a choice between getting over her (which you eventually will, even though it might not seem like it right now) or actually pursuing an LTR asap. Even though you might not enter a relationship with others than her right now, we're not certain she won't. And frankly, from an objective point of view, the wisest to do in this situation is to make a choice, and stick with it.

Then again, you should actually take a step back, do your best to think logical and practical, shut out emotions, and then make a choise. What will be best for YOU?

I'm not sure of his name right now, but some (most likely great) man once said: If you throw a ball down a hill, it will try to reach the bottom of that hill. If the ball had had a consciousness, it would think "I want to reach the bottom of the hill.". Even though the ball thought it did what was right for it, it still don't have free will. Free will, is if the ball had stopped, considered the outcomes, and made a desicion based on observations. Not doing what it naturally felt was right.

It's not completely related, but as a thinking human being, know that you have the power over yourself to make this desicion. It's all up to you.

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Alea iacta est - The die has been cast

Even though I still want to see her, I know that until we're done with university, we'll be living in different city (means at least 3 years), so I'm trying to reduce my emotions toward her. That being said, I k-closed a girl for the first time in 1 month and a half while sarging yesterday night! The girl was just alright and the close was really sketchy, but she really digged it and she wanted to see me tonight! So yeah, slowly getting back in the game ;P

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Dear Optimist, Pessimist & Realist,

Just to let you know that while you guys were arguing about the glass of water...... I drank it!

Sincerely, the Opportunist