Background:

Her profile description is only about 20 words long and her title is 'looking for fun.' The woman in question is an 8-8.5/10. Below is the conversation to date, my comments are bolded. Her pictures consist of a few candid shots and a few fashion modeling pictures, nothing more suggestive than a bikini pic at the pool.


That guy on the left is definitely gay. Jus sayin.'

9/30/2012 7:27:58 AMThey are both gay, actually!!!!

10/17/2012 2:50:20 PMCalled it.

So what type of modeling do you do? Is it soley fashion?


10/17/2012 2:52:39 PMLots of different stuff... So u dont like gay people?




10/17/2012 2:59:56 PMlol, how did you infer that? I lived with a lesbian for over a year. I'm about as close to gay as gay gets without actually being a member of the club. I even went to a gay club once(for serious.)

10/17/2012 3:01:46 PMI just assumed since that's the first thing u messaged me




10/17/2012 3:15:10 PMYour profile description is nearly non-existant. You don't leave a whole lot to go off other than some sub-par Nashville comment, something pertaining to your pictures, or the old school 'wats up gurl, lemme hold those digits real quick.'

Being that my life experiences have led me to acquire a superior gaydar, it's the one I naturally gravitated to. It was between that or 'lemme hold those digits real quick.'



10/17/2012 3:19:41 PMHonestly, I don't even know why I'm on here. I've never even met up with anyone and most people on these sites don't even look like their pics.




10/17/2012 3:24:39 PMPreach it sister. About a month ago I had some women in her mid 20's invite me to a house party. The house party ended up being her birthday party, her 36th birthday party. Her pictures were taken a decade and 80 lbs ago. Definitely awkward.

10/17/2012 3:55:49 PMHaha that's crazy!!! People are insane! You better get some cougar action



10/17/2012 4:13:15 PMThe said woman strongly alluded to her claimed ability to perform high quality bj's, but I ducked out after about half an hour to try to make due with the remainder of my weekend night.

She didn't look like the type that misses too many meals, I'm not into big-bonded women.

Also, take note that my profile is pretty god awful at the moment so I can't come back too strong. I don't have any type of serious profile description and my picture consist soley of one mirror picture with a pissed off facial expression(when I fake smike it looks extremely weird, and my baseline facial expression is widely perceived as 'angry.' Link to my profile:

http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=36210054

I know how shitty my profile is and I'm aware that my responses are too long compared to her's, but I'm mostly just interested in the best way to schedule a meet-up from here. Thanks!

Edit- And yes, the dates are correct. I took 3 weeks to reply to her first response. It wasn't part of any plan, that is just the way it worked out.

here are some ideas for you
1) you are not leading this to anything, you ask ''where to take this?''

but that really is up to you, there is no ''right direction'' to take it in, only the direction you want and you have to be able to make your own decisions to lead it that way

2) there is not much value in this for her, think of how you can make these discussions better, more of a win/win, rather then you complaining about the past and having the conversations centered around yourself, let her have the attention and bring out the good in her for it, try to keep things present, focus on the right now with her, what you like about her, what you want to see from her, what she is like, instead of blah blah blah met a fat girl and it sucked, I hate fat girls, keep her turned on and liking you, rather then turned off and dis-liking you

positivity breeds positive emotions, and negativity breeds negative emotions, focus on what you want and not what you do not want

3) your pics and profile could probably use some work, I'm not much for online ''game'' since most of the girls are on there are desperate and on there for a reason, but you should get your profile straightened up so it reflects person worth hanging out with, as well as showing off your physical attributes, you want to attract girls not only to the possibility of sleeping with you (not ugly) but also to the possibility of a life with you (looks like you are interesting to be around)

the more value, the better


if you really have no idea where to go with this, letting her know you are interested and want to see her might be a good idea, but so far It is unknown if the impression you have set is a very good one to get compliance for that, just give it a shot and see, and if it doesn't work out, just try to change the convo to something that brings more value for her so that she can see herself enjoying time with you, then give her a couple more shots

This! Don't be so invested in something you are not in control of yet. Just have fun and talk to them!


Peace...

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You've got to back up a few steps. You're getting way ahead of yourself.

Just because a girl responds to your message, doesn't mean she is interesting it meeting up. Think about it; what has this girl said to you that indicated she had any interest in you at all? Nothing.

Her first 3 messages were basically calling you out for mentioning her friend being gay. Her 4th message was her expressing that she isn't really actively trying to meet anyone through the site and isn't comfortable meeting up with people she meets online.
You did a good job of conveying that you understand and can relate to her concern of meeting people online.

But then you kept going with the cougar joke, even though she didn't say anything that required a response, and made yourself appear vulgar and shallow by talking about BJs and a dislike of fat girls.


You only asked her one question about herself, and it was in regards to modeling (i.e. dealt with her physical appearance). She responded with a non-answer and challenged you about disliking gay people.

She didn't offer anything about herself, or ask you anything about you. And it seems she didn't respond to your last message.

I just don't see anything in this interaction that indicates this girl has any interest in meeting up at all.