Hi there! I need your help here!
These days I met a girl, friend of a girl friend of mine. We met in a college party (bbq actually, on a saturday afternoon), I started talking to my friend and she was with this girl, Bia. We talked for hours and hours, the other girls - her friends - left us alone to talk but, at the end, I didn't kissed her and she asked for my fb.

The next week we talked through Facebook some time and I got her phone. Since then, we talked through messages almost every day all day, sometimes she started and sometimes i started. She always demostrated interest (IOI) and, the next friday, we kissed in a party. She was very flaky cuz she kept saying that " your are not the kind of guy to kiss in a party or club and forget the next day.You are very better than that, you are a guy to kiss in a date and i'm sure you will call me tomorroy cuz you are different and bla bla bla" At the end she kissed my.

Since then, we kept chatting on whats app and, one week later, we hang out in a data. Everything went very fine, we laughed, kissed, hugged and so on. The next day i called her and do some silly talk (about some facts she told me in the date) and i said i liked seeing her and we should do that again. I guess, by her reaction, she was interested and liker me (her eyes were so shinny and she was so happy...)

The problem begun the next week. Sometimes I texted her and she always responded my SMS, but i couldn't see any IOI, i sent some IOI, but she didnt demonstrated as before any IOI (before we hang out, every time i texted IOI to her, she responded with smiles or sayin "you are cute!" or smth like that).
I asked her out last week and she said "If I can finish my paperwork for college I will, else I will not leave my home". Then I stoped texting her since then.

After that weekend, I met her in my college by luck (nothing scheduled), she saw me and came talk to me, leaving her friends. We chatted for some looong time, I used lot of negs and kino on her, she responded very well, mainly when I hugged her and kissed on her cheeks. After 15 minutes chatting, 2 friends of her came and started talking to her (they said "We just came to say hi, we will be very quick, I promise!"). So they started talking and I was kinda of "waiting". I stand there for only 2 minutes and then I tried to leave the set. I said "Well, I have to go know, c you soon!" but she hold me (verbaly) and left all her friends and started again talking to me and we chatted for some time again , she said she was very nervous due work, collage and her PMT, until other friends of her appears. right the way they arrived, she introduced me to all friends and we talked, laughed, etc, etc.. til one of her friends say "Hey Bia, what happened to you? Five minutes ago you were to angry and depressive, now you are so happy and energetic!" We kept chatting and one of her friends suggested going to a bar. I declined cuz I wasnt in the mood of drinking that moment and had some stuff to do too. She seemed a little disappointed and sad, she said "you are so oooold!!" and i imediatly negged her saying "bah... i bet you cant handle me for more than 5 minutes...".. he laughed and I went home.

2 days after i text her saying "you have just popped up into my mind, but i dont know why.... may cuz my brother was paying resident evil.... " (she is a player and fan of resident evil).. we did some silly talk (no more than 5 messages) and nothing more since than (kinda of no contact for 5 days).

Today she came talk to me in fb asking if i knew some info she needed but i didn't invested so much in talk (cuz im kinda disappointed with her).

I like her, she makes me feel good! What went wrong here?
Thanks!!

Dude wtf from what I see she's clearly into you and I have no idea where you fucked up if you ever did.

- Maybe she's on a rush these days with school and stuff.

- Maybe she's testing you (not being so talkative over texte) and wants to see how you react.

- Maybe you fucked up somewhere with her and you didn't mention it in your post.

Sorry, I'm not giving some solide advice but honestly I think that you're doing pretty good. I think you could freeze her out, that's the only thing I could say but get some more advice before you listen to one opinion (like mine lol)

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Hey NorthBoy, I really dunno what I did to her, but after we hanged out, she stopped sending me IOI on messages! No nome smiles, no more nothing. I dunno if she is doing the "hard to get type" as she said so many times that "im different guy, i'm the kind of guy that you live with, dont forget, you are way better then a club guy".

I cant see her in college as she goes there once in a week. Although I have classes the same day, i never find her (i guess i have to look for her more).

I'm not hiding anything and I really dunno where i messed up (if i messed up or if she lost interest), but i'm using a freeze on her (5 days that i dont talk to her). Yesterday she came talk to me, asking some info about a problem she had, i made some funny comments and stoped talking to her...

Thanks for yo help!!

The way I see it is that you may have looked needy. When I'm at school, I have a couple of target, but I never look for them. I do my thing and if I see them, I'll go talk to them.

When you were with her did you do some kino? Did you disappoint her by the way you acted or by being incongruent to your frame? I wish I could tell you what to do to but your situation hard to figure out. I guess the best I can do is give you questions to think about your interactions.

And you did a succesful freezeout? I don't get it either lol

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If there's one thing I can tell you it's when she talks to you (after a certain period without talking to you) DO NOT LOOK MAD. You must act like if it is nothing, you don't mind, in fact you had not even realiser that it's been a couple of days that you haven't talked to her.

PUAs don't get mad for these things because they have abundance mentality. If it's not your case, fake it.

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You didn't screw up anywhere I don't think...

Learn to escalate...DAMMIT!

She keeps talking for hours or whatever is what I keep reading...she wants you make a dam move.

Get a change in scenery...take her out for a quick coffee or whatever you guys do.

Change scenery, then KINO AT ALL TIMES REGARDLESS OF ANY SUBJECT, regardless of it being this time or another.

What else...well I'm presume and hope after a change in scenery to somewhere quieter you can get more intimate and start talking about feelings and experiences with her. Then just do what you have to to get to her house, your house, your car, her car, or behind a bush...maybe go for a ROOF. Flat roof of a commercial building or something, sex is best where it's not been done before. Roofs are great....

You didn't do anything wrong, just change scenery, make out, hold hands, hug and fck.

Good luck! yes I make it seem easier than it might be :/

But that IS your problem CHANGE SCENERY, TAKE IT A STEP FURTHER. Get sexual. THAT is where you screwed it, shoulda been trying to screw her. Girlfriends are the best after the initial s.interactions

Yes! I did lot of kino! Actually, I hugged her twice or three times, long hugs actually, and she responded very well (she did it back). And I didn't looked mad, I actually could talk to her and all her friends. She invited me to go to a bar with her and her friends, but I denied (I was kinda sad with her, didnt know anybody.. yes, i know, i should have gone...)

And what you mean about if i had a successful freezeout? She came to talk to me yesterday, asked me by fb if I know some kinda of "professional" to help her in some stuff (i couldnt help her, i tried, but I failed hehhe), but there again I closed conversation before i got no subject to talk (i said i had a meeting with my superiors in my job...). Besides that, I had no other contact with her!

escalate sexually, and fuck her

there's no problem here

I need some tips to escalete! I'm kinda "noob". I was in a date for 3 years!!!

Just don't come out as to needy man. When she messaged you for information, you could of came her the information she needed and that's it, don't start a conversation after that. let her start the conversation and let her come to you.

She could be just losing interest in you.

Maybe she was hurt so much in the past she doesn't want a boy friend right now.

she could be playing "hard to get".(but you have to play hard to get)

don't text her until she text you, but take a while to respond. Don't respond right away.



I had the same problem but i'm in high school.

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I'm doind that! I stopped texting her since last wednesday, kinda of 5 days no contact, besides the one provided in that chat for info. I also didn't chated with her, just answered the question and closed conversation. I dunno men... i just dont like to wait heheh

Did she try to start a conversation or no? and you have to show some value and wait for her to text you. I know it's temping to text her but don't.

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Actually she did, i made a silly comment to her and she said something like "hahahahahah you are so mean!!!!" and i stoped here, i just sent an evil face and then said i got to go

By succesful freezeout" I mean that you stopped talking to her and she contacted on FB.

I'm thinking more and more that she's probably playing hard to get or something. Maybe you should do like Lagron says : invite her, lead her and then escalade as much as you can. Search for escalation ladder on google.

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So I freezedout but I falied! She didnt go after me! But good news! She was really busy and she wasn't going out neither with her closest friends!

But, In a party some time ago, I met her and tried to kiss her, but I was kinda druk and start talking bull shit!

I'm still not talking to her, but as we finished out college works, I guess I can invest on her.

Any ideas how to seduce her?