Man, where is your balls? i know that feeling when you need to contact her cause you miss her but truthfully you dont MISS her you miss her pussy. man-up go see your female friends , trust me that will keep her away.

She dropped by the volunteer place again today. I pretty much just talked to everyone else and didn't pay much attention to her, other then saying hey when I passed by her.

When I said bye to the group, she kinda looked at me like she was upset and wanted to say something to me, but didn't. Or maybe she was just constipated; I think I'm probably just reading too much into non-verbal queues.

Anyway, I have a question. Have any of you read Matt Huston's EX2 system? It says that after 30 days of no contact, you should send her a text that says to agree that the break up was a good idea, and set up a meeting to work on the "friendship" and go from there.

Since it will be 30 days no contact in a couple of days, I was wondering what you guys thought.

My opinion? I think it's a load of horse crap. I don't think I should be the one that has to do all the work. She's the one who ended it, so if she really wanted to be with me, she should just pick up the goddamn phone. If she can't even be bothered to do that, then screw it, I'll just keep on with no contact until the end of time.

Thoughts? Suggestions?

Great attitude! I'm proud of your mindset. And you know, think about it: she gives you a sad look and you're supposed to come back? A text that says, "I miss you"? She is risking nothing by doing that. If she wants you back, she'll set humility aside, work for it, and outright say, "I need to be back with you." Until she does, keep moving forward, man.

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"Let me ask you something. If the rule you followed brought you to this, of what use was the rule?"

So it's officially 30 days no contact today.

I kind of feeling conflicted. Part of me wants to just ask her out for a coffee or something. But I keep reminding myself that she left me. And I think you're right Dr. Jones; if she wanted to be with me, then she could at the very least say something.

On to day 60.

Keep up the no content bro, sounds like a bitch. Jesus you met the guy, he told you straight, her friend told you straight and she denies that shit.

Fuck that shit man, move on.

buddy i'm almost in the exact same situation as you are. i feel you totally. the best thing you can do for yourself, is to forget about this girl. Date other girls. I know it is hard. Long story short. I care about a girl too, who i've been together with, but she threw some bullshit at me, that we don't want the same things, and that she' s not serious enough at the moment, she just needs time, blah blah. The reality is she' s fucking someone else. Who is a mutual friend, just as in your case.

Although i don't know her, i believe she is just not worth the trouble. If she had true feelings for you, she wouldn't do that to you. You got to be realistic here... do you really think one day she's just gonna logicly come to a realisation that she loves you and can't live without you?

And another thing you should keep in mind, if you really do get back together with her.. if you then breakup with her again it's going to hurt twice as much. Trust me on this one.

It's easier to give advice to other people than to do it yourself. I don't know what i'm going to do if she texts me. I might crack.

I know it's hard, it's really really hard for me too in the moment. You just have to let it go and start doing a million other things to occupy your mind.

Part of me wants to give up this no contact thing and just offer to meet up as friends; It's been 35 days, and she hasn't contacted me at all.

However, the other part of me thinks the following:

1. It's been 35 days, and she hasn't contacted me at all. Sounds to me like she doesn't even care to talk to me, let alone be friends.

2. She leaves me for someone else, and now she gets my friendship as well? Doesn't make sense to me; sounds like I'm rewarding bad behaviour.

3. If she really missed me, or gave two shits about me, she would contact me. If not, then her loss.

Thinking about breaking no contact is something I'm struggling with everyday. I know that if she contacted me, I wouldn't ignore her. But she's going to have to make the first gesture. I think I've done all that I can.

All I can say is she lost someone who would have given her the world; I lost someone who doesn't even give me the time of day.

Did you catch the news this weekend? A Best Buy worker in Massachusetts won $23 million by playing the lottery. Do you know how he plans to spend it? Helping his mom pay her mortgage, earning a degree, and donating some to the community. Do you know how he's not going to spend it? By giving any of it to his ex-girlfriend, who dumped him just two weeks ago.

Can you even imagine how terrible that girl feels right now? She blew away a fortune. When they asked this guy if he would spend any of it on her to get her back, he giggled and said no way.

You don't have to win millions of dollars to make a girl realize she made the dumbest mistake of her life by disrespecting you. There is so much opportunity awaiting you out there. Stop counting the days, hoping she'll call you back, and go find it.

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"Let me ask you something. If the rule you followed brought you to this, of what use was the rule?"

I had a question regarding our mutual friends. I have been leaving early every Sunday at the volunteer place, but they keep asking me to stay and go out for drinks with them afterwards.

For me, I think it's kind of awkward since I would be hanging out with her and the guy she left me for also. But I'm also thinking it's kind of AFC to show people I'm bothered by it.

What should I do? Suck it up and go for drinks, and try my hardest to be non-chalant? Or should I just continue what I'm doing and find a new group of friends?

I'm not even sure if she and he are still together, but I still think it's wierd either way.

go with a girl or two if you can! imagine how pimp that would look if you show up with another girl or 2! then make it look like your having a fuckin blast!

or if you think you can go there alone and out alpha the kid... show her what shes lost...

if you dont have the confidence then forget about it and save yourself the misery of seeing her with him

You present an interesting proposal d0minantsp3cies.

I know I can out alpha this kid. I just need to bury my thoughts and not show any emotion, otherwise she will sense it. That part might be difficult, but I'm pretty sure I can do it. I'm just going to show up, have a good time, talk to all the other girls and not be affected by anything they do. Even if they start making out in front me, I have to be a robot about it. No jealousy.

The other option is to continue not hanging out with that group. However, I feel like that's the AFC move, because it shows I can't deal with my shit, and I'm running away.

Fight or flight, am I right?

Mate, personally I wouldn't go. The problem with your thinking is that you are still trying to get this girl back. Even if you take some girls with you and PRETEND to have a blast, what's the point ? You could spend your time enjoying someone else's company.

I've read your thread and the problem is that you don't want to let this go. I feel that you do this no contact thing only to show her that you are not interested to be able to get her back.

Forget her. Totally. Forever. Instead put your energies into finding someone else. I'm 100% that you can only get better girls than this.

You make a valid point.

The reason I'm doing the no contact thing is two-fold. Yes, I don't want her to know I care; that part is true.

However, I thought that by not contacting her, it would make it easier for me to forget about her. I'm not sure that it has.

I'm not sure if I want her back so much as I want the option of having her back. It's probably an ego thing.

If I don't go, then I'm basically cutting myself off from this social circle. I do get along with most if the people in it, and I feel like if I run from this, it would be a pussy move.

I don't know, bro.

If you want the option of having her back more than having her back, it's DEFINITELY an ego thing.

Hey guys, I'm starting to lose my reslove.

It's been 50 days of no contact.

I see her pretty much every Sunday. I don't intiate any conversations; she's always the one who says Hi to me, and I just respond politely and make idle chit-chat.

I'm always acting Alpha and happy, and chat and flirt with other girls in front of her, and barely acknowledge her.

The thing is, I don't give a shit about these other girls, even though some are hotter than her. My heart's really not into it.

I really feel like I should break no contact with her, and just text or call her and see what's up. What's the worse that can happen?

If I do decide to break no contact, what's the best way to do it?

A. Just flat out tell her I've missed her?
B. Start a normal conversation and feel it out?
C. Ask her to meet up sometime and act like old friends and try to re-game her?

The other option is to stick with no contact, and hopefully these feelings will go away on their own. I mean she's not contacting me, right?

I don't even think her and the other guy ever became anything. Maybe she's not contacting me because I told her not to?

Fuck, I hate my brain.