Long story short:

GF left to study overseas for at least 6 months. We were together for 6 months. She's not very confrontational, she left and I had to break it off. She's going to be away 6 months, then undetermined as to when she's coming back.

When we were together she was always the one who instigated. She always called me, etc. After i broke it off with her she didn't contact me, but then recently she started calling me again. She wants me to join her when she finishes her current stint (3 months to go). But she doesn't know how long she intends to stay away for or what she'll do afterwards.

Anyway, she misses me and wants me to take 6 months off with her.

I can't read her signals. She seems to be really into me, always calling me and stuff. She loves to chat to me. She wants me to be with her. I'm the first person she calls if she's feeling down, etc. But...not at the expense of what she wants to do (and she doesn't know what she wants to do). She doesn't know what her plans are after she finishes her degree and she doesn' tknow what's going to happen.

If i knew she's really into me i'd definitely go and meet her. She means a lot to me. But I dont' want to throw away months of my life to be with someone who's just wanting me there because my company is good and she doesn't want to be alone (but not that she will be, she's a total HB and can get any guy she wants).

The inability to read this girl is driving me nuts. What do you guys think?? it's so hard to read this girl.

You haven't told us enough. Does she have freak tendencies (i.e. causes drama, goes to extremes, requires constant attention) or is she a good girl (goes out of her way to do nice things for you, is happy when you are happy)?

Does she have high self esteem or low self-esteem?

My gut says that in most cases, it would be a bad idea to take her offer. Can you really afford to put your life on hold for 6 months? Is that a smart thing to do when neither of you have a game plan on what you're going to do after the 6 months is over? You are also giving her nearly all the power in the relationship by going to her without a plan. I mean, what are you going to do once you get there? Just hang out? Do you have the means to support yourself while you're over there or would you be relying on her? etc.

If she was anything less than the perfect girlfriend before you broke up with her, then you should probably NOT go to her.

-Wolf

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I agree with Wolf, this sounds like a bad idea.

Unless you were contemplating taking 6 months off anyways and would do it without her request, then I'd decline. If you do this, and there are negative consequences like getting set back in your career field, etc, you could end up resenting her for it.

Beause we don't know enough about her, it's hard to know why she has the request, but I tend to not like the idea of making a bigger life decision for anyone but myself.

Yeh you guys might be right. It'll be 6 months of travelling around, not doing any work or anything. I have enough of a means to support myself as I have a small business which runs itself while I am away.

She's definitely more a nice girl than anything else. If i'm angry or upset she does everything she can to make sure that i'm happy. She doesn't sleep around at all, and even though we're apart i dont' think she's even looked at another guy. She doesn't cause much drama, she's got plenty of interests and heaps of friends, although she also has quite low self esteem even though she's extremely good looking. Mostly she's very low maintenance and plenty of fun. I mean, that's why I'm even considering all of this, she's really not your average dumb bimbo or anything, and I can really see a future with her.

Ever since we've been together she's talked about long term plans like living together and all that, but she had to put her career ahead and go to school overseas. I do kinda feel like she's picking her career over me, but that's kinda not unreasonable for her, right?

I think you're right though. I'm not gonna put my life on hold for her. What she's asking me is unreasonable and kinda selfish. She's younger than me and she needs to do the travel around the world thing before she starts to work, which I suppose is something she has to do. But i'm not as young as her and I just need to get on with my life.

Sucks though, bad circumstances...