Hi, I'm Fergus. I'm 24 this year and living in Singapore.

I've had a couple of relationships gone bad and a few requited affections. After all this, it has taken a toll on my confidence and esteem such that I doubt I'll ever find someone else.

I'm tired of listening to the same old advice from my friends that I'll meet someone eventually etc etc etc. I want to take control of my life and go after what I want. I want that confidence, that strength of character that I could easily get over the last girl whom I could not work out with and find easily someone else to fill the void she left. I know what I want and I want to get it.

They say that when the student is ready, the teacher appears.

And no one knows more than I do that I'm ready and willing to learn, whatever the cost, whatever the price.

So pls, if you're in Singapore or will be dropping by, I'd like to meet up and learn everything to play The Game.

You want to be careful about saying those kind of things. You shouldn't neccesarily need to spend any money to learn game, and if you go around saying stuff like "whatever the price" someone will be quick to say "hey, come on my bootcamp, it's only $3000 dollars".

Sorry you've had a rough time man. We've all been there. Keep reading the forums and I'm sure you'll get the idea of things and it won't be some great mystery that you need a Mr Miyagi figure to teach you about. Just a matter of learning to be in control and that YOU have leverage, not just the girls.

Good luck!

[quote]You want to be careful about saying those kind of things. You shouldn't neccesarily need to spend any money to learn game, and if you go around saying stuff like "whatever the price" someone will be quick to say "hey, come on my bootcamp, it's only $3000 dollars".

Sorry you've had a rough time man. We've all been there. Keep reading the forums and I'm sure you'll get the idea of things and it won't be some great mystery that you need a Mr Miyagi figure to teach you about. Just a matter of learning to be in control and that YOU have leverage, not just the girls.

Good luck![/quote]

Noted, Thanks Mate!
I'm at the end of my rope now. Right now, even telling myself I'm in control just don't cut it cos it makes me create an emotional barrier such that I become indifferent or adverse to intimacy and close contact with women.
I need someone to guide me, to show me and remind me what to do in different situations. I've never been on sarges and I know I can't accomplish much without at least a wingman who can show me the ropes.

Maybe to put it more honestly, what I'm looking for is to hang out with some people who can help me reignite my confidence. To be honest, what I admire most of pick up artists is their astounding confidence and lack of fear of rejection. I want to build these traits within my character but I need someone to guide me and give me feedback on what should I work on.

I'm sorry to say this Fergus but one thing I've learnt doing this is that you have to do it alone. Ideally it would be great to have someone guide you and help you but that's just not practical, people have better things to do and if you do find a good wing they could end up moving away or getting into an LTR (Long Term Relationship). It has to be done alone.

Look at this in a positive way; only YOU have the power and the control to do this and that's necessary for you to learn good game, YOU need to obtain inner confidence and not rely on other people.

Rejection is a very useful tool. Every time you get rejected, you know one more approach that doesn't work and you're one step closer to finding out what does work for you. Getting rejected on the approach is nothing personal, the girl doesn't even know you and she's just rejecting you as you didn't make a good first impression. The first impression is the first part you'll learn from the books and forums (The opener, the approach), you can learn this, and with practice it will work.

If she rejects you further down the line after she's got to know you that's good too, it means that you're a fun person to be around, people like spending time with you, but you didn't portray your personality in a sexual and attractive way. That's another thing you can work on.

This forum is a place you can crowd-source great feedback from PUAs and people in the same situation as you. You don't need a specific mentor, you will do this yourself and the community will help to guide you in the right direction.

Synergy.