Lets say Billie is an awesome guy.
He likes to have fun and is a very fun person to be around; girls like him and like talking and being around them.
Now Billie thinks he has a curse: every time he meets a new girl which he likes very much and they develop a relationship something happens. In the first months everything is perfect, they both have fun, they both enjoy each other.
But as the months pass the girl starts to love him more and more and that leads to jealousy, awkward questions and such, and the fun is going downhill. So that makes even more problems until Billie just wants some time alone because he is not having fun and he is not happy in the relationship.
Now the question is:
Keeping in mind that this happened almost all the time on his long term relationships, is there something wrong with him (is he doing something wrong) or he just didn't find the perfect girl for him?

_________________
With great power comes great responsibility.

Does billy have some commitment problems? I found that whenever I found a good relationship after a few months I would make any excuse I could to not like her. However this could not apply to you whatsoever but right when I found out what was causing my problems I addressed them and now I can hold something steady.

_________________
Personal Trainer. PM me any questions you have with nutrition, exercise and supplements.

That's called "a relationship".

It's starts out in the honeymoon period, when everything is new and exciting. Then that quickly wears off and the sex becomes routine. Then all the good qualities in the person get taken for granted, and the focus shifts to the bad. And since men and women are inherently very different on many levels, fights ensue and painful situations arise. It then ends badly and the process eventually repeats itself with someone new. We are compelled to repeat this cycle because of our biological need to mate and seek companionship. It's why half of all marriages end in divorce and why people have dozens of boyfriends and girlfriends throughout the course of their life.

_________________
“Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'!” ~Audrey Hepburn

I knew that all the time but I needed someone to tell me that so that I believe it.
Thanks.

_________________
With great power comes great responsibility.

So puaninja your saying we are doomed to that cycle of what sound like 'bad' relationships?

As much as a person who grows up in the hood will be doomed to repeat the cycle of drugs, violence, and teenage pregnancy. Sure, a small percentage will get out and break the cycle. But most are doomed to repeat it.

_________________
“Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'!” ~Audrey Hepburn

you feel we are inherently trapped in that cycle unless we get lucky? you don't believe there are principle and ways of entering a wholly interdependent and fulfilling relationship?

Im not taking about settling for some girl who's 'nice' gives good head but inevitably is not your dream girl. I mean first having true abundance and choice so you can choose from the 1000's of women out there the ONE you want to settle down with, that ticks ALL your boxes!

"WE" are not anything. Because we are not all bound by some over-arching limiting factor. But MOST people simply will not find what you speak of. Or they will spend a large portion of their life looking for it before they find it, and even then, it may not be exactly what they wanted. Rarely are we ever completely fulfilled in life, even if we have abundance.

The perfect woman, for me, you, or most men, is an illusive unicorn. Almost mythical and non-existant. Some claim to have seen one, or ridden one. But few can ever prove that they own one. I have to be fair to myself and admit that even if I were to track down my unicorn, I might not be able to tame it. Relationships are a two-way street, and while we may find the perfect girl, we might not be perfect for her. That is why it so difficult, so rare, to be a part of a perfect relationship.

_________________
“Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'!” ~Audrey Hepburn

so you think that not many people ever become completely fulfilled or find their dream girl, and even if they do bagging her isn't a certainty?

I just re-read your first statement and although i realise thats just your paradigm i have to respectfully disagree.

Awareness of such a cycle is the first step to proactive behaviour to avoid it, yes there is a high majority who will be stuck in that cycle because they know no better, but these are the people that have never picked up a self improvement book or book on developing interdependent relationships. And yes they will be stuck in a rut of bad relationships starting an affair with a fat fire and bashing of in a cupboard, probably blaming the other person and never truly being happy.

We however, are here to develop our character, be true men and lovers. Learn the tools and principles to be better.

To accept that cycle would be madness in my eyes, yes you will have girls that like you a lot more than you like them and then its your CHOICE to ditch them. In 'billys' case however you want to look at the root cause of the jealously and awkward questions, next time try listening to her and finding out where she is coming from, maybe change your approach if its happening all the time and you want to keep these girls around but don't want them to become irritating, you could choose to do something different to rectify the problem or you could choose not to, its your choice.

How did Albert Einstein define Insanity: 'doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.'

If you don't like your results change your methods.