my ex-girlfriend texted me after 2 months of no contact. she wants her things back. i'm kinda unreluctant of returning to her as i'm afraid that once i return it to her, we wont talk anymore.

we texted a little and she say something like she lost touch of how we used to talked.

i'm sensing that she has some problems with her boyfriend as he doesn't want us to meet. i bet texting me is a big no-no for her. so i told her " i think we shouldn't do this, your boyfriend wou;ldn't like it and not everyone is as open-hearted as me to allow my girlfriend to talk to their ex-es."

i do wanne get her back but i'm lost of what to do.

she asked me if we could meet to get her things. or have i thrown it away.

i replied:"what reply are you expecting from me?"

i'm really lost now.

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"Dude she has a boyfriend"
" Yeah so?...Soccer has a goalie, doesn't mean you can't score."

First, don't ever acknowledge the boyfriend. Second, don't be an ass.. if she wants her stuff back, then give her the stuff back. The best thing you can do right now is to be normal (right now, you sound like you are being way too dramatic), have an active social life, and keep in touch "as friends". Then start inviting her to fun things when you are out with people "as friends". When she gets bored of the boyfriend, then she'll come back around.

-Wolf

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So much drama...

Give her shit. and stop txting her.

Be neutral and be in a hurry when you meet her, dont waste time with conversation! show her you have an active life and she is not a part of your life it was her choice her lost... if she is trully interested she will invested much more, on this!

The more you show her you miss her and you want to comeback the more dificult it gets to br with her.

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Oh! You've gotta be kidding me!

Thanks guys!
She wanted to meet me today. I told her I'm not free. And I'll fix A date with her when I'm free. And i asked why did she text me out of the blue. And she reply that she happen to check on my facebook and wanted to say hi.

Whats the psychology behind this?

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"Dude she has a boyfriend"
" Yeah so?...Soccer has a goalie, doesn't mean you can't score."

^She still thinks of you from time to time.

Don't give up, just keep in touch as friends and go from there.

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Hey man, it is wise to maintain the No Contact. You could give her stuff to a friend or someone you know who can give it back to her. Texting her and keeping in contact is said to decrease your chances of getting her back.
I sense that you have a good chance of getting her back if she's still texting you and wanting to meet up.

Good luck to you

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I know it's so hard to do, but don't put all your hopes into this working out.

It's not that it's impossible to get her back, it's just unlikely. You've got to have other things going on. This works twofold- when she knows you've got other options, she'll work harder to get you back if she really wants you. And if it fizzles, well you were busy with other things anyway. Win win, my friend.

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"Let me ask you something. If the rule you followed brought you to this, of what use was the rule?"

Thanks guys. She probably saw my Facebook as I just champion in a paintball tournament last weekend.

So I should return her stuff and just be friends? I think she's having some problem in her relationship.

Should I ask her out to do fun stuff? Or should I wait till my next tournament and ask her if She wants to come along?(It's and overseas tournament happening in about 3 weeks time)

so in the mean time I'll return her stuff and no contact?

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"Dude she has a boyfriend"
" Yeah so?...Soccer has a goalie, doesn't mean you can't score."

Yes go with no contact! Dont look for her...

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Oh! You've gotta be kidding me!

So when I return her stuff back to her. I'm returning her the stuff and that's it?no coffee or a bite?

I'm not really good at this.. What if she's start confiding in me wit here. Problems she's facing?

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"Dude she has a boyfriend"
" Yeah so?...Soccer has a goalie, doesn't mean you can't score."

No contact.... she kick you out of her life she has to understand that decision and live with that, only in that way she can start miss you

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Oh! You've gotta be kidding me!

Rub your junk all over her stuff then give it back, That way she will have contact with your junk. Win win.


Oh and by junk I mean your cock an balls.

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"Chicks are crazy and guys are dumb." Chinopants.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=en ... a_Nno&NR=1

It was my unhappy day of my life.

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I texted her Anything and set up a date to return her stuff. And she told me she missed playing paintball, so i said "i though you were not a fan of the sun?" She replied "actually i miss spectating paintball."Then I told her I got to sleep and told her "goodnight lovergirl" (It's the nickname we gave each other) and she's replied "goodnight loverboy."

Am i thinking too much into this?

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"Dude she has a boyfriend"
" Yeah so?...Soccer has a goalie, doesn't mean you can't score."

In my opinion it just becomes apparent that you have no other options besides this woman, like you can't do without her. so if you guys do meet up, she'll take her stuff - get an ego boost and leave...ask one of her friends to pass on the stuff you have to her.. and end it... this would be like she sets the stage walks into your reality... drains you of all the indpendent energy you have.. and leaves you with a negative vibe... or depressed.. and you start thinking in reverse about how things were..instead of looking at the feature.. and investing time on yoruself... there's plenty of fish in the sea my friend.. you just need to get your game going...