So if you look up my other threads on here, you'll see that my girlfriend started acting cold/distant toward me lately. She has daddy issues and displayed this sort of behaviour once before. She said it was her way of dealing with issues in her life. I took everyone's advice and gave her space and let her do her own thing. After the first time, we reconciled and she came back to me even more in love than before. This was a few months ago.

She started to go distant again last week, I called her on it, but she went days without contacting me, etc.

Well turns she was hooking up with some dude the entire time. So while I was on here asking for all of your advice, trying my best to give her space, she was on her way to some dude's house at 3am.

How'd I find out? Well she left her phone on my table last night and she got a text from the dude. I've never snooped on this girl in our entire 7 month relationship, but something in my gut was telling me to do it this one time. Well I did, and boy was I enlightened!

I called her on it...she got defensive but couldn't explain herself. I kicked her out and told her "Have a good life."

I honestly don't know what to think or do right now. I feel angry, sad and disgusted all at the same time. Obviously this girl is out of my life forever but she has a lot of my stuff that I need to get back.

Should I wait a few days then contact her about getting my stuff? Or should I do it as soon as possible? At this point I'm not willing to even talk to her so I just want to get my stuff and move on with my life.

get your stuff back asap. Then go out sarging asap. Best way to get over some one is to get under some one.

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Why guys and girls don't mesh.

"Chicks are crazy and guys are dumb." Chinopants.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=en ... a_Nno&NR=1

^^ pick the fuck now.

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Oh! You've gotta be kidding me!

Yup. Waiting a few days does no good. Get your shit, and get on with your life.

I like Chino's line about getting over someone. I'm gonna use that.

Ah man. I'm sorry to hear that Just go out and sarge there isn't any greater power that pushes you to do good at sarging than these things u are feeling right now. So go out and do it !

Sorting your stuff should be pretty easy. Just let her know in advance(by text or facebook message) you're gonna drop by at X time to get your stuff and just be cold take your stuff and leave. Don't even speak to her

Good luck man and I'm happy you're back in the game !

you shuodlve waited a couple days b4 confronting her and done extremely nasty stuff, SPAM etc . THEN dumped her...

Do not wait around, go in get your stuff show NO emotion, like she is nothing to you, she would want a reaction and an argument. Feel for you brother.

move on and find someone better

Oh also she's easy right? I mean she cheated an all. Can I get her phone #?


To soon?

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Why guys and girls don't mesh.

"Chicks are crazy and guys are dumb." Chinopants.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=en ... a_Nno&NR=1

So I texted her last night to say I was going to pass by to drop off her stuff. At first she was resistant saying she was 'busy'. I told her I don't want to prolong this process and that I was just going to drop it off whether or not she was home and if she could leave my stuff out front for pick up too.

She then tried to bait me into an argument about deleting all her friends off my facebook etc. To which I just replied calmly, 'I don't have an issue with your friends. If they want to delete me they can and I will understand, but I'm not getting into this game sorry."

She then proceeded to call me names and just try to get a reaction out of me. But I stayed very unemotional throughout the entire ordeal.

It obviously hurts right now, but I know everything will be ok. It's weird that her first reaction from this is to be angry at me. But she'll never get a reaction from me. In fact, she'll never have the chance to speak to me ever again.

You have a solid frame.

What you are doing is hard but the right thing.

Next!

what you are doing is great. like a true man.

Thanks for the support guys.

I have no doubt in my mind that I'm doing the right thing and that everything will be ok. It's just that my anger is now starting to fade and now the sadness is starting to sink in. Like now I see myself thinking back wondering if I did certain things differently or if I was with her at a certain place, maybe she wouldn't have cheated on me. Or how I genuinely miss being able to text her/tell her how my day is going. But I know it's all in my head, but I just wanted to let you all know that as cold/unemotional I am on the outside, it really fucking sucks on the inside.

If we broke up under 'standard' terms, sure I would be sad, but I know a friendship would be a possibility in the future. But now that's not an option. Ever. I don't tolerate cheaters of any kind. It's just sad that she threw it all away like that. It's honestly like she died. Because there's no way i'll ever contact her and I will never respond back to her. Shitty deal sometimes.

You seem like a TOP LAD. The soreness will fade in time I'm sure you know. I'm sure we'd all love to come out sarging with you. Just post a time and location!

Emotions are funny man. Your logic tells you one thing, but emotions have the greater influence upon us. You seem to be a good guy who cared for this girl. And obviously since you have invested emotionally, it will feel bad. Give it some time and slowly the pain will ease. Focus on getting a better girl than her and show her how big a mistake she made by betraying you. Good Luck

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Zardari