i dont know if im going too fast on her or not.. i met a girl at a friend's party she was an HB8. I talked to her for about 15 mins.. i negged her then i went on with a short story.. it was good she was laughing then she decided to go for a quick smoke so i went outside with her but it was too cold so i said "come to the car it's warmer" then she came along then i tried to escalate and kino her.. but when i asked for her number she said "i dont give out my number, i dont want to feel like a slut" what should i do at this point? and what did i do wrong?

Sounds like you didn't build enough comfort before you escalated in the car.

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I would have said, "Don't worry, I don't hang out with sluts. You're safe." If you say it in an offhand manner, then she will think that she's not a slut and feel safe in giving you her number.

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~ Rye

thats a good reply

Very clever response RL

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Virgin -> 60+ Girls in 6 Months!

look her in the eye and say"don't worry princess, sluts need love too..."


she'll get a kick out of that

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"He who risks the most, wins the most"

That would most likely piss her off and completely destroy any attraction that had been built.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

I agree with Rye. Also try not to directly ask for numbers unless you gotta bolt and cant do even a short routine for it.

What stands out to me is that she was willing to go someplace alone and esentially secluded with you. You should have tried to kiss close in the car and go for the number near the end of the party.

Id also agree with the other guys in saying that it sounds like you may have handled attraction ok, but built little to no comfort.

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"Be the same, only better."

Lol... You should have asked her:

When did giving out your phone number to (fill in your appropriate hot-shot title i.e. "the wittiest guy ever" or "a beautiful man") start meaning that your a slut?

They're right, you shouldn't have asked directly, but you could've easily recovered with a joke at the expense of the lack of her logic...

Did you follow her out? Never follow her out! You have not built up enough comfort and are giving off the stalker vibe. Then, you get her in YOUR car, she feels trapped, all of a sudden you're touching her, then you try to get her number...ack.

What you should have done was let her go for her smoke by herself, and while she is doing that continue sarging the set she was in or open a new set. While she is smoking and inhaling that nicotine, she will be thinking about this new, attractive, interesting guy she just met and feeling good. She comes back in, you are the social center of your set, and she will BEELINE for you. That's how it's done my friend

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Yeeeees. I like that. BTW, thats a nice picture of you Erin.