I was posting on here so i thought i might as well talk about all the issues in my head, since its probably the best place to talk about this stuff.

There was 2 seperate cases that have caused me to worry whether i can fully trust this girl or not... am i overacting or is this an actually cause to worry?

Case #1: This was in the beginning of our relationship... she called me one night and said "baby... i think i got picked up by another guy" , at first i didnt care , but the more i thought about it , the more it pissed me off.. she was having a smoke when a guy approached her and talked to her... he asked for her number but she declined .. he was persistent and ended up getting her BBM....i told her im not cool with her giving out ANY kind of personal info while shes with me ... and if it ever happened again, we were finished. She agreed and i left it at that.

Case #2: We were planning to stay with each other over night for a mini holiday about a week later. I went upstairs of my condo to grab some shit and she said she was gonna have a smoke while i was getting my stuff. I got my shit and came back down and as soon as i opened the door i saw a group of 5 guys walking away from her as soon as they saw me. We got into the car and i asked what that was all about... she said they approached her and told her she was cute.. .blah blah, she stood there and talked to them for a good 5-10 mins, giggling and laughing, she told me they asked for her number but she didnt give anything out this time.. and they also told her they wanted to just "be friends". I then realized how naive she was to think they actually wanted to be friends ... i told her how many times i used that line to get with girls before.. we got to the hotel and i flipped out after i got drunk... calling her a dumb naive bitch and went off on her... i know it was wrong but i was drunk and pissed. The thing about this time was that she continued to stand there and talk to them all giggly and shit when she knew that they were trying to pick her up... why cant she just say no im taken, after they continue to be persistant and made it clear of their intentions and walk away? this is what ticked me off that she cant be bold and loyal for me.

Nothing has happened since then but im worried about me investing my time and love into her when i dont know how she'll react if this is to happen again? She cant seem to say NO and walk away like a loyal girl would, because she afraid to be mean and be a bitch.. What if the guy persists and persists and tries to touch her... would she give in or would she be able to say NO?!. The problem is that she seems to be naive and gullible when it comes to guys hitting on her.. she thinks they actually want to be friends even when i explained how it really is.....

Im not a dumbass and i have other options.... this girl is very special to me or i would have dropped her months ago.. she possesses many traits that i look for in a girl, shes very sweet, loving , caring and innocent, so im not going to give up on her for 90% things i like and 10% i dont ...

How can i help her to understand this without really being pushy about it... and make sure she wont make these mistakes again? and am i overreacting ?

case 1: it seems pritty clear that this girl has no respect for you at all.
i can understand you cracking the shits and telling her that your not cool with her giving out info while your together.. but in doing so you showed here that you care more about the relationship than she does.(she shit tested you and you failed)

so she feels she can do what she wants and you will just put up with it.. i know because i was in this situation not so long ago..
a better way to handle the situation would have been to say when she told you" i think i got picked up by another guy" would be to .. pretend you dont care!!
1: distance yourself a little bit from her show her a little bit less interest. but do not ignore her she is your girlfriend afterall. you can do this buy when talking to her, do not look her in the eyes as often, if your calling her once a day now call her once every 2 or 3 days. if she asks if anything is wrong say nah baby everything is fine!
2: suggest to her a couple of days later, that you think you guys should be in an open relationship and lifes to short to be serious.. that you guys are still young and should have some fun. she will ask you why. do not get angry be in control!

its a good thing because it gives you a chance to go out and game other girls dude! if she is ok with you guys having an open relationship...well she doesnt care much for you anyway. so why not keep her there on the side?

if she isnt ok with it well you know she doesnt wanna lose you. you will regain control of the relationship and take those balls of yours out of her purse.