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Over the weekend I came up with this little concept while chilling with one of my girls. Its goes like this an please call shenanigans if it sounds like crap.
Women fall in love with a guy before they meet them. Guys fall in love with a girl after she is gone.
Meaning that girls have this idea of love an form it around a guy when they date them. Guys build up emotions after they start dating a girl and don't fully see it until after the relationship. Once the guy step away from it and look at it while not in the moment they see why. Their is only a small window of love when the guy and girl are in their transitions of love.
Ok talk among yourselves on that one.
To some extent, I think you're right.
Then again, it is as normal for guys to fall in love at the start of dating as it is for women. But I think guys are more exposed to the "love makes you blind" syndrome (if I can call it that). That means that you will "choose" not to see her flaws and only see the good parts of her. What this will result in, is that after a while, her flaws will start to show, and the gap may be so huge that you break up with her. Ofcourse you have "You never knew what you had until it's gone" and "You always want what you can't have" to play in here, to make sure you regret it afterwards..
As for the "fall in love after she's gone" part. That mainly applies to FB's imo. Where your FB says that she can't go on like this etc. and you choose not to try and have a relationship with her. Basically, everything you feel is just your brain pumping chemicals into your body. As we all know our brain is pretty fucked up from time to time, so the shit doesn't even have to make sense.
I've found that the best way to deal with this is to try and take a step back, and view everything from an objective point of view. This may help you sort things out before you burn yourself. And if you decide that breaking up is the best thing to do, you shouldn't regret it afterwards, no matter what your brain makes you feel.
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