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I started to read the pickup stuff few months ago and heres the problem, I found that I might seem making friends but actually, they wont really talk to me and talk about themself,so I always have to be the active one. Even so, our conversation wont go very smooth. It was like there was a party dance at night, I have certain interaction with people but then, when I try to hook up with some one that I dont know, we briefly introduce ourselves and I try to be interested in them, I was always the one to carry the conversation ,like I asked stuff about them,blah,blah,blah. of course , I gave them a break to think and to ask or talk... However,they just looking at me and said nothing. I felt like I was running out of things to say and so I leave.
What should I do?
Don't feel like you're doing something wrong. You are putting yourself out there and trying to be social. I admire you for that, because it's more than many guys are willing to do. You are actively working on being better, and that is never wrong.
If someone isn't interacting with you, do not put the blame on yourself. Have the mindset that you are an awesome guy and you are going to do this person a favor and enrich their life by talking to them. Take on the dominant mindset. Do not think "I hope I can make this person like me." Instead, think "let's see if this is someone I'll enjoy talking to."
If they don't talk to you, that doesn't mean there is something wrong with you. They might just be a really boring person, or be shy themselves, or just have poor social skills. Never assume that women all have excellent social skills. If they are not interacting with you, then say to yourself "wow, I don't enjoy talking to this person at all. Let me go find someone more interesting to talk to."
You're not going to click with everyone. So go find someone who you do click with and enjoy talking to.