A girl I'm into (who I and everyone in our circle agrees is into me too) is very unresponsive and its incredibly frustrating!

I keep putting the ball in her court but she doesnt throw it back. I feel like I'm just throwing all these opportunities at her and she is just letting the balls roll around on the floor near her.

When I text her she responds in several hours, or even days later, its a pain to meet up with or even talk to her (because I cant even meet her!).

Two weeks ago I asked a twice if she'd like to get coffee/dinner through text- shit like:

"hey when are you free this week/what day is good for you?"
no response for hours
"we're getting coffee Thursday morning! No excuses!"
two days later (Wednesday) "haha _____, I have class then!"

I'd been texting her too much. I just sent her a "=(." And waited.

And waited.

Nothing. I texted her a week later (Saturday night, ~10:30); I was going to a movie with some friends and figured I should invite her.

"Havnt heard from you in ages! Whatsup?"

Waited.

It took her until Monday to get back to me. She replied

"omg lol I just got this text!"

How do I deal with this!?!? I deleted her number and our conversation on Sunday because I wanted to move on, with a 1 in a million chance of her chasing after a long enough time- but one of her closest friends thinks I should keep trying, and is also frustrated that she's being so hard to get!

IF I am able to hang out with her, I fully intend to tell her I'm into her, but I'm at a loss for what I could message her in this situation when she takes so long to get back to me.

If its any clue or indication, she is a virgin.

I know it sounds lame but..

..shes just not that into you bro. Women ALWAYS find a way to make time for a guy if they are into them. Also, youre coming off as a clinger, the convos seem really one way.

My 2 cents - cut if off, ur not getting anything out of it.

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^ this dude is right. Cut her off. Without knowing her, it sounds to me like she's still immature. Maybe she's the kind of person that doesn't go out? Stays in on saturday nights etc. etc

But yeah you did good by deleting her number. Go game other women.

Good luck!

yeah.. I've only been holding on so long because I dont feel like gaming- I'm not even after anything sexual. I figured I mightaswell try sticking around awhile longer as I'm not interested in anyone else at the moment.

She does go out though- alot. A couple weeks prior she went to two of my (and my roommates) parties in a row, where I assumed we were hitting it off.. spent all night with her tucked under my arms, and got loads of great signals from her. Shame ..

I definitely have some shitty case of oneitis, but fucking a different girl last week was a pretty sucky experience and didnt help. I even gamed another girl on friday, brought her back to my apartment after pretty heavy drinking, but decided I didnt even feel like taking her to bed and left her in the living room with my roomates..

Shit sucks.

I was hoping I might get some odd last ditch text strategy that might work for a girl like this, just because everyone around me is pushing so hard for one last shot this weekend- where I leave everything on the table.

i have the same problem. Ive been texting with this girl for couple of weeks (not every day) and its been good, but its like she is not eager to go out somewhere with me. Shes always making some excuses (she has a nice girl attitude, but i dont believe her to be honest).

I get it. I should game other girls and im doing that, but she is hot, and i think she is very cool

Maybe she's just independent and/or prefers to be chased. I wouldn't panic over a girl not responding in a few hours or a couple of days. If she replies, it's a good sign.

If you really are into her, being patient is a good thing.

Selky and RonnPaul... What the hell are you guys doing man?

Ronn, this girl you talk about is making excuses, you don't trust her but you say you find her "very cool"? Dude, stop being so AFC. Send a girl 1-3 texts/calls, if by then you're not seeing her already you need to stop doing this shit to yourself and move on, stop being a pussy, you can get other girls.

Selky, same goes for you man. Don't gimme that "My friends are pushing me" crap. Stop lying to yourself, you know you want her and she doesn't want you, cause you're acting like she's the only woman you've ever talked to. Forget about her, work on yourself, and then make woman a secondary thing in your life.

Never FOCUS on women, if you focus on them they become your priority. You get shit like oneitis and clingy AFC behaviour.

Become someone you'd respect very much, then learn and use basic game and apply it to every girl. Don't put them on a pedestal or act like they're different, cause they are most likely not.

Hope this helped.

Tnx Apples I know i shouldnt be so into this girl, i am gaming other girls, but i want this girl too. It is not one-itis, i am still approaching other girls, but like i said, i wanna have this girl too, why not?

She said last night she is busy these days, but she also said she wants to go out on a date with me. She is different.

Whatever, i am going to do cold approaches today so ill try to close other girls and get more n-closes as i can.

Dude. If a girl wants to see you and is in to you, it doesnt take a couple weeks to hook up. Girls live of their emotions, not logic. If she responds to you in a logical way and not living off those emotions (HAVING to see you), then she is just not that into you man. She might be using you as an orbiter, or as an ego boost, or as a friend. The only time she will ever even consider you as something more is when you stop fucking running behind her. SHE IS NOT DIFFERENT.

I get it man, but still...i shouldnt just delete her number and forget about her. I mean, im not going to think about her non-stop. I agree, i will still game other girls, this is not one-itis. Yeah, she might not be that much into me, but while i was gaming her, she was receptive. Maybe she really is a nice girl, but as we all know, women say one thing and want the other thing, so...

Nevermind, i know what i have to do. Keep approaching other girls.

^^ DENIAL. this is AFC. i know this because this is where i am. i needed to convince myself not to look at her Facebook/text's and other stupid shit where i cook like im chasing. you should do the same. this girl in my question is coming to a group dinner i've organized with my friends. there will be more girls that want me there because this is MY group and i know how some of them girls roll. all i have to do is be civilized and be the life of the show. if she comes around she does. if she doesn't then i got options. that's a way of putting the ball in her court without saying it. i think you should do the same. Game others. u'll realize how insignificant this issue is.

your boi

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"Never FOCUS on women, if you focus on them they become your priority. You get shit like oneitis and clingy AFC behaviour. "

I think ApplesNoranges pretty much summed it up in those one guys, stick to it.