I couldnt find a good forum to out this in so i picked this one since it is somewhat a question abotu what route to take in this situation.


So this girl I used to like just broke up with her be and she has been messaging with me back and forth abotu him and about other stuff and being really open and shes obviously very sad. Any tips on how to go about this?

ALSO, this is not the first time shes msged me when sad about him or something else. And I dont think she is interested because she never accepted hanging out and the best i ever got was a maybe.

ALso, she doesnt usually hmu first ever when things are going great for her. How can I change that now that she is

tell her that you are a not doctor phil and you cant solve her problems.
she put you in the friend zone already and you have to get out of it

Agreed.


You're LJBFZ'd dude. Try freezing her out and not responding to her for a while, she'll wonder where you've been etc. which will allow for you to DHV for being too busy to deal with/listen to her problems. From there you can escalate with an aplha mindset and invite her to catch up over coffee or otherwise just Next her and move on.

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Some just don't understand the attraction but some dudes just love to loose traction.

Well. We've talked lately and she decided on her own she wants to one by my campus and visit me and her friend as well.

What I would do is subtly, but very deliberately, redirect EVERYTHING she says towards you and her meeting up or trying to get her to give you IOI's. She's a woman, so she'll pick up on that pretty quickly and she'll either agree to meet up with you or respond with IOI's or she'll INTENTIONALLY deflect every attempt you make, thus making it clear that you have been completely friend zone pwned. Once she has made it clear that you have been friend zoned, punish her by making yourself unavailable and be very short with her in your responses. She'll either start doing what you want, or she will kick rocks. Either way, you win.

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Thats kinda what i do. .Direct everything towards hanging out and being open to 'new people' and stuff... She said she wants to visit me finally so thats cool if she does.. Andher riend is cute too so id take em both out if i can lol.. her frined goes to my school so shed prob come with us...