She told me to ask about something in the girl's profile.

This is on a spanish site, I speak spanish.

me: "hi, just wanted to say hi, I see you like going to the gym, I like running myself, what's your favourite exercise in the gym?"

She answers in english, it's obvious from my profile i'm not spanish.

Her: hi steve, I like to do weights.

She's very fit (in the british sense, ie hot) and also "fit" in the universal sense, ha ha.

Any ideas for the next line?

Any ideas for a witty remark?

I'd probably reply with something like:

'that's cute what else are you good at?'

Ha ha, cheers mate.

Actually was out with a different girl last night. When we met she looked even better than her photos. a real head tur ner and a nice girl..stunning..lots of kino, laughs etc, we went to a karaoke bar she picked angie for me and was stuck to me holding my hand while I sang, thought I was home and dry..problem was she got progressively drunker...she bumped into people she "had to talk to" I bailed..in my pre reading pua afc days I would have hung around, so I feel good about that although I really would feel a lot better if I had fucked her brains out..she apologised a couple of times for getting drunk.

Should I phone her again? What would a good strategy be? At the start of the night she said she liked hiking and we should go sometime for example.

You two seem hooked up already, I think all it takes now for a f-close is a date where you can isolate, escalate, and obviously fornicate. Call her.

Cheers notrya,

I sent her a text yesterday (2 days after), to just prepare her for a call, but no response. I didn't see your post, so I got a bit trigger happy on the phone. The text was "saw something today that reminded me of you ".thought I could get some banter going, then phone..feeling like a sap now. Sent it at 8.30 pm, 12 noon next day where I am at time of posting.

The date was good up until she got too drunk, she seemed ok until she went over bottle no 4. We were slow dancing, I was whispering in her ear, her pussy nice and tight against my leg, kissed her neck, cheeks, but didn't go for the snog cos it was a small bar and not very intimate...I like doing that stuff in isolation (relatively)...was just thinking about getting her back to hers (five min walk) but then the friend obstacles happened...maybe she is just a prick tease. I was 12 years married, so I am out of practice.

If she doesn't reply... Wait another 3 days, then text her randomly. Text her random things, maybe ask an opinion? 'Hey, between Jeniffer Lopes and Angelina Jolie, who do you think looks better?'. If she doesn't reply, wait another 5 days or a week, and text again. Nothing too intimidating though. She will eventually reply.

Do you reckon mate?

Just be gently persistent with the texts? I don't want to come across as a stalker/saddo.

I know there are loads of reasons for her not replying, maybe she wants me to think about her (it's fucking working lol) for one. Maybe she's not interested, but that seems at odds with the first part of the date, then again who knows what goes on in a woman's head? Maybe she's not a texter.

There's a band playing next week, I vaguely know the guitarrist, both our bands were on the same bill last year. They do 80s rock covers, she's into that, so was thinking about calling re the gig. It's not for a week and a bit though.

I see where you're coming from.

If texting is not working, it looks like you have one last shot: call her ONCE.

Just call her casually and ask how she is doing, try not to make any remarks from the last night your were both out, because she may be 'embarrassed' of something and hence the reason she is not replying to your texts...

'Hey, how are you? Just a quick call to see how you're doing...'

Mention that you and your friends are going to this gig and it's gonna be UNMISSABLY AWESOME, and tell her she is welcome to tag along if she wants to have some fun.

If she doesn't reply at all, or call you back, then I'd disregard her as a prospect.

Cheers Notrya. Yeah, in future I reckon i'll go the phone route until i've a few dates on board.

Another thing that occured to me is that I got an afc relapse with this girl. I didn't say anything afc to her on the date but I was getting nervy and twitchy after sending the text. I read some motivational stuff last night and it put me right. If she gets into my world she's a lucky girl.

I'm quite busy over the next while too, so any date organised in the next week or so will put me under pressure. On the date we talked about my music/band and she was fairly into that, introduced me as a guitar player. We have a couple of original songs recorded and mastered with a female singer that are quite catchy that I mentioned. She said she'd like to hear it. I was thinking about just sending her a link to one to keep things ticking over until I have more time and it counts as a bit of dhv too. What do you reckon?