Hi lads,

The last 6 months I was talking with a girl. After the sweet talks I start dating this HB8 & it did go well for about 2 weeks.. Last Sunday evening she was making me angry the whole night. First I didn't react. But she didn't stop so I told her to. She went on and I turned mad. We had a fight and I told her to come talk about it the next day.

The next day (Monday) she told me sorry & stuff. I said it was over because I don't want bullshit fights! She agreed after & we split our ways.

Wednesday she came back & told me she missed me. Now I'm going out to drink something with her tomorrow..

What should I do? Should I give it a chance with the chance she/we will have fights like that again? Or should I drop her? Did I do something stupid? Is she just stupid?

It's hard because I like her & I want to give it a chance.. Probably normal if you love someone..

Kind regards,
Sedutchion


(I know the grammar sucks! Thanks! )

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Without knowing what the fight was about, it's hard to say.
I will assume it was about a bunch of random shit, and tell you how I see the situation.

It basically boils down to: "I had a fight with my GF. Should I dump her?" Hell, no! if you had to dump a girl every time you fight, you would quickly run out of chicks.
As long as you don't fight OFTEN, and are able to settle the issues without resentment, then you just forget and move on.

It's very different if your girl is a drama queen and you fight every other day for random shit. Or if the topic of this one fight was "I want to bang 10 other guys by the end of the month"

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Bro after being in a relationship for 8 months, ive learned to let the little shit pass. If shes acting grumpy or moody, ignore it, dont escalate it. Just leave her alone for the day/night and she will forget about it the next day lol... this applies to little dumb things though. Dont get dragged into her reality... where shes in control by bringing you into her moodiness.

Deal with serious matters though.. and when you do try not to yell at her or get angry. Be calm and assertive.... nonchalantly.

My 2 cents

Boy. You're a perfectionist who lacks patience. Deadly combo.

2 things.

1. 2 weeks is a VERY short time to judge how a relationship would progress. Unless of course, she made a deadly mistake which by your experience, is deadly.

2. Why do you seek a fight-free relationship? I'd support your contention if this was a fairy tale novel, but this is life my friend. There are differences and you man-up and settle them. People find their similarities in the process of removing their difficulties, in fact

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You drew a line in the sand and now she knows where she stands and who's the boss. It was a sort of pushing your boundaries to see where she stood, now she knows.

could be a shit test. Best way to win is not to WUSS out but also not to be an ASSHOLE. Be mature and show her that your in control with out losing control. You can not win on facts or being right. Its all about emotions when a girl argues with you. Its never about what it seems either. Something else is bugging her. Could be you or something not even related to you. Dive deeper and find out what is hurting her and why she is upset. Ask her but don't do it in a cruel or berating way. Show empathy and show her that you see her point of view and that it has some validity to it. Also walk away from the relationship. Do not try to fix her either. Its shows power and that you are the prize and that she needs to validate herself to you. Dont fall in to the I need to fix her shit. Also remember all women are crazy and were just dumb that's why we argue an have such a hard time with it.

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Why guys and girls don't mesh.

"Chicks are crazy and guys are dumb." Chinopants.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=en ... a_Nno&NR=1

^^^ Good post man.

We both choose to start again and go on a few dates to see where it ends. I'm not going to push things. But believe me! She's a hard one haha!

She's the type of girl that when you're pushing her away with the hope she miss you so badly she will talk to you, she doesn't. She'll wait for me to say "Hi" to her again. I hate it when I've to start conversations all the time.

Still got enough other HB8's though. So if I really going to feel like I'm a stalker I'll going to let shit happen. With 80% chance it's going to blow.

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Thanks for the posts btw! You guys are awesome!

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