I probably should have posted this early but wanted to get some perspective on what happened. This will get long but need to give the details. It happened about two months ago.

One day my gf kept texting me how much of a horrible day she was having. We had plans to hang out that night after I was going to have some beers with some buddies. She sent several texts through out the day saying how bad her day was blah blah blah. She told me it was from work so I didnt think much of it. That night I was out with my buddies and she texted me a couple times how she needed me and couldnt wait til I came over. She later texted me saying, "Can you just come over now. It's obvious I need you right now and you'd rather be drinking with your friends." I told her that this was the only night me and my buddies have free to hang out and would be over in a bit. About 15 min later she calls in tears and kept telling me that she needed me now. I asked what was wrong and she just brushed it off. I figured something was up so I finished my beer and went to her place. I get to her apt thinking that something happened to her family or a friend, that's how upset she was. I asked her what was up and she wouldnt even tell me. She says "I would tell you but I feel you would overreact since you've been drinking." I;m thinking that maybe now she was pregnant.

She never told me what was up that night but the next day she texted me telling me she wanted to talk to me. So I told her to come over and she did. Well, she begins to tell me that the reason she was so upset the day before was that her ex-bf of about 6 years, (they broke up a year and half ago) got engaged to the girl he cheated on her with. I was shocked. I asked her why she would be upset, and she goes on to tell me she wasnt upset because he got engaged, but because all of her friends and people from her hometown were texting and calling her about it. Which could have been true, but I didnt believe her and told her I needed some time to think.

The next day she texted me apologizing. I texted her back saying that I wasnt sure how to react because I had no clue what she was upset about. I told her that I thought she still wasnt over him and that she needed to get over him. I basically said "Im not him and how do you think that makes me feel? I think that was disrespectful for you to do that to me."

I personally feel that she isnt over him and just want to get your opinions on this and if I reacted the way I should have. Things are fine now and I know this happened a couple months ago but wanted some input. She did end up buying me a card a week later and some cookies and apologized for it so everything is good.

She's clearly not over her ex bf, massive red flag

I'd of said 'it's the first time i've been out with my buddies for ages and you drag me home on the pretext that something really serious had happened but it's just to tell me some guy has got engaged, are you fucking kidding me!!!!!!!!'

Followed by one long ass freezeout, well either freeze her out or dump her

Shes the sort of girl i'd end up cheating on first chance i got

Well said!

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Learning from past experience I would not of been impressed with your gfs behaviour. Crying because her ex of 1.5 years ago got engaged?! After that time the only emotions she should be displaying to that piece of news is either apathy or happyiness!!

Id of told her in no uncertain terms that she had just rocked my emotional trust in her. I'd tell her that I feel uneasy and need a bit of time to think. Then like a previous poster mentioned, do a lengthy freeze out!

One thing you don't need to worry about is the other guy...He's getting engaged so I doubt he is chasing your girl.