Female roommate giving me a hard time about pickup



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PostPosted: Sat Dec 29, 2007 9:00 am 
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I live with two girls, have done for the last three years. We'll call them A and B.

A is a bit conservative, tall, laid back.

B is more open-minded, short, and a ball of energy who talks about herself at great length.

I love them both to death despite all the flaws that you can't help but notice when you live with someone. I know that A is a bit two-faced. She doesn't like confrontation and says things to me about B behind her back, and I know she does the same about me when talking to B.

Well B hit me with a bit of a bombshell tonight, said that A is a bit offended by all this PUA stuff that I've been talking about. She doesn't want to hear about me going out and meeting girls at the mall or getting girl's numbers at parties. My gut feelings are:

1 - A is two-faced, which is not nice

2 - A is being hypocritical because I distinctly remember her telling me about guys that she approached in random situations and all about her dating life

3 - A used to complain that B never hung out with her when B was dating someone, but as soon as B is single and back in the apartment, A never hangs out with me because A and B are swanning off doing their thing together and they never invite me along.

Here are two possibilities:

I - A is just suffering from the usual ignorance about pickup as if we're a crowd of perverts rather than average Joes trying to be more sociable and find happiness like everyone else.

II - A is jealous.

I've indicated to B in the past (about a month ago) that I would consider romantic feelings for A (in truth, I was starting to develop them since we were spending a bit of time together in B's absence). I asked B to discreetly bring it up with A, and she did a few weeks later. The word is that A likes me as a friend, no more.

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PostPosted: Sat Dec 29, 2007 7:18 pm 
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heh this sharpened my mind to read thanks man.

If girl a doesn't have the balls to tell you to your face that she doesn't like the pua stuff then she doesn't deserve them to be gone. It is your choice to look at and use this stuff. I wouldn't be too reactive to this as it's not a big deal to you right? I have been caught with pickup stuff out many times. Because of this I have learned to frame it in a very positive light. If a girl ever asks me about it I tell her this:

Me: Have you ever met a guy that's really clingy and tries to buy your affections all the time?, I call him the nice guy.

Her:
hm yeah

Me:
Well I used to be like that until I started reading this stuff, and realized how to truly relate on a real level with girls. I realized that we are both equal and there is no reason to place them on the pedastal I had them on. It makes me feel truly great to make a girls night. If all I get is a smile out of her it is good. If it goes further then so be it. This pickup stuff has taught me to be a better man that women respect and enjoy much more than before. Why would any girl not want a guy like that?

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PostPosted: Sun Dec 30, 2007 6:12 pm 
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could be a lttle of both,

ignorance crossed witht the fact she is jealous.

simply put
for what a man dosn't know he fears.
And what a man fears, he destroys.

she dosnt like it and is attacking u in a sly little way.

simple
2 choices.

talk to her about it. its basic pyschology that you've began to understand well.

or

sarge her and see how she reacts.
be very subtle and if she enjoys it then you can tell her what u wer edoing and she should have no more problem with it, if she does then she is just been ignorant.

happy trails

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PostPosted: Sun Dec 30, 2007 6:23 pm 
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personally....... i think you live with these women.... and when you live with someone... if you don't talk things through then you have problems...

Sit them both down.......... Together........ And say whats on your mind.. tell them what you really are doing..... if this makes you feel better about who you are.... and makes it easier for you to be you.... then tell them...
be the biger person...... get it out in the open.....
you don't want her undermining you at a later time when you possibly bring someone home...
Be honest... be up front..... and if you have to show them that we arent a bunch of sleasy pua's just out to abjectify women....


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PostPosted: Tue Jan 01, 2008 9:46 pm 
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Yeah just be honest with them, but subtle. Don't throw everything out on the table just with little interactions get your point across. I find if your to forward it can have negative results, especially in France. :wink:

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