Went to club arrived at about 1030......... full of AFC's...... there was a fucking fight some full contact thing..... more popular than boxing....

anyways...

this bar is connected to a dance club.... so I sauntered over and paid the cover to the club....
was kinda dead for that particular club...... First time out since split with wife... I was trying to get up nerve to take a fall.... just do something... say something.... get a reaction.... i was a wall flower... but.... I grabed a hot hired gun..... with a tray.... Hey I says.... how many guys try to pick you up.... (dumb I know but i needed a hired smile to encourage me)
she says...... Not often... i am engaged and everybody knows it........ (well i don't fucking knoow it.... but now i do)
soooooo..... i ask when is the big day.... ( i was married i know about these things...perhaps i can score with a brides maid)

october........ (what the fuck........) why so long i ask......

perhaps she missed what i said........
anyways blah blah..... and I have a friend....
she stops and chats about blah and blah..... everytime she sees me... now real IOI.... just a harmless drunk who is nice....
but i have some new confidence... not much but a little....
I chill....... i get a bit toasted.... and i chill somemore.....
definately violating mystery's 3 sec rule....... so i get pissed at myself...
and make a couple of desperations approaches....
#1......I have seen her for a couple mins..... but she has been facing mostly away from me..... she and her friend approach or should i say walk by...... her friend is more my target.... HB 6 - 7..... looks remotely like paris hilton..... friend hb 5-6 (more meat on bones) anyways they approach..... and i grab hb 6-7 hey.... (degrading tone) you're not paris hilton are you? (disgust in voice)..... she smiles takes myhand..... no she says i am not..... good i say.... she is such a bitch..... the hand holding fucking threw me off..... never guessed she would take my hand..... god she was hot..... i got flustered and let her go
#2 another hired gun..... but if i do say so i delivered this neg with effective results....
she was a very bleached blonde....... "that is not your natural hair color..."..... she blanched.... but caught herself..... well no she says it isn't..... blah blah..... i got flustered but we had a moment.... of conversation.... my confidence grew slightly....
#3 another bleached blond with a very very tom boyish best friend....
same line......
she says you wouldn't believe it but it is my hair color.... (ouch)
i was not be detered..... lol another long island iced tea helped...
so we chated.... i did the fo pah..... where's the bf?
dont' have one of those worthless.... blah blah......
(note to self....... remember to ask how to over come the ex abussive boyfriend deal..... (she showed me a pic of her with 2 black eyes and bloody nose from... ex)(what the fuck do you say to that))
any ways i am a good guy.... so they smiled and said hi when they passed in future....
#4..... whispered sweet neg in #2's ear...... I think you would look better with your natural hair color...... she says well some guys say that but others say they like me like this...... i say.... you look more available with the blonde..... and i walk away....
anyways...... i don't know what to do..... i found the nice guy in me the one who thinks all women are special dieing...... what have i started in myself..... every female i saw i looked for negs.... every flaw.... every exploitable defect i found myself catalogeing......
I saw women with men..... and KNEW that in a month or 2 i could have them if i wanted..... i saw men trying to pick up women and could identify their mistakes ....... and saw women who were good 5's to 7's.... and they weren't good enough..... my wife or should i say my ex wife is a 3 at best..... with 44 i bra size...... and i wouldnt' look at her twice if i saw her at the bar....
who am i?
but what else can i do......... i can't be the nice guy who listens to some girl whine about her bf anymore ..... i want to takeher from him.. not help her through his fuck ups.....
anyways.....
i am here to be the best PUA I can.... my physical appearance and my other priorites.... dictate that i have to gain skill more than changing my appearance....
all i ask for is what help i can get..... i believe i need a wing....or a mentor...

This is great.

Doesn't matter if she's engaged or not. If she works in a bar and she's young she'll f..k anyway if the right guy comes along.

Although it's not my personal cup of tea. If a chicks married or engaged I wont f..k her. Guy code. It's a values thing.

Because if somebody tried to f..k my finance or my wife, they wont have to worry about f..king anybody else. Something to think about.
You might take a few months off to get your personal life in order. I can see how it is effecting your emotions and your interactions.
Why didn't you try to escalate this chick?
You tell her, she doesn't know how to pick 'em. Then you graciously move the other way. Hopefully towards a target with better sense.
That's good progress in itself.

You aware of what's going on around you. This puts you ahead of the majority of the guys in the bar.
Kino and escalate. It's that simple.
You need confidence.

Something that's going to take a little time for a guy coming out of your situation.

Like I said above, I advise you take a few months off get your personal life in order and learn more about the game. The aftermath of a divorce will shake any guy, and can cause temporary depression. The game also seems rather superficial after you've been married. This can effect your attitude.

You might consider gaming a few 5-7's before you move up in difficulty.

As for needing a mentor or a wing, I would say it's optional for you. You've been married so you know how to close chicks. You also don't seem to have any trouble approaching, opening and building comfort.

I'd say the majority of your problem is going to be that empty space inside that was your marriage. You've grown a lot as a person. And you wont fill this empty space by seeking casual relationships with chicks in bars. This will work for short term fun, but it's not a long term solution for you.

I know, I've been there.

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thanks starbuck...

the hired gun that I had a little interaction with.... i let it go because she was busy... and I dont' mean blow me off busy i was interefering with her job...

I know about the taking time off..... but fuck i need to get laid...

common sense tells me that I should back off.... but i dont' want to waste anymore time being depressed about being lonely....
I dont' want to be the guy i used to be.....
maybe i am trying to change too fast.... but i see so much potential...
thank you again....

I wasn't talking about the hired gun. I was talking about the bleach blond that you were gaming.

Otherwise, find you a 5-7 in the bar, something easy, and give her a pitty f..k (protect yourself).

Don't think about anything beyond that. Since you're coming out of a relationship you're liable to latch on the first thing that comes along.

And that's ok, as long as you keep it in perspective and don't become what they consider clingy and needy.

That will absolutely not impress these women. Remember, most of them at this age, and especially in a bar have never been in a 'real' relationship.

So they often don't understand what constitutes proper behavior from a man. Hence all the abuse, etc..

A lot of lonely and confused souls out there.

Remember, out here it's sex first, commitment and relationship second. I know it seems a little ass backwards, when you're first coming out of a relationship and aren't used to boning virtual strangers, and casual sex, but that's just the way it is. You'd better get used to it.

Here, this vid will help you understand what you're dealing with.

[youtube]http://youtube.com/watch?v=8JNkBby9i6g[/youtube]

Remember, escalate first, ask questions later.

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yeah.....
I had game online..... before i got married... but mostly I settled for my paygrade.... girls in my number range...

but i carry a little pride that if i didnt' f close i didnt' have a second date..
so once i built that repor online I followed up in person....

you know....... the superficial part of the game isnt' what i am looking for..... some fun for a few months..... get my game up so that i can get in the door with the high numbers... cause i know i am a great guy..... just need an in..... so the game when i started looking at it was a means to an end....

but after last night...........

i can see what style meant about his opinion of women dropping.....
the pedistool has cracked in my head and is crumbling the more i watch intereactions between other men and women......

perhaps i have to tear down the pedistool i have created for them....
and wait for the right one to prove to me that i should rebuild one...

damn this sight is addicting