I've been doing game for two weeks now. Ive done extremwly well at times, but aweful at others. This is one time where I'm doing aweful. My general self esteem is way below where it should be. I used to be much more confident, optomistic and excited about life in general, but for the past few days I have been highly unmotivated and insecure. Its like I've completely lost my passion and drive. I keep thinking about what I want and how I can overcome this, but nothing helps. I just have all these conflicting theories and ideas and things I need to do roaming around my head, my thoughts are just not clear and concise like they were. My goal was clear and my intention strong. Now that I've been doing a lot of daygame lately, its actually made me less confident. At first I would go out and just have fun with it, doing stupid stuff, and I was making great progress, but now its like I have to FORCE myself just to go out amd talk to a girl. I cant get into my fun, confident, happy state anymore, and the girls can tell. They can see that Im forcing myself to talk to them and I'm not just out living my great life and happen to see them and want to find out what they're like-which is the vibe I want to project. Does anyone else go through this at any point in their game? If so, how do you overcome it?

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In order to get something you've never had, you have to do something you've never done.

I would like to give you some input.

Regarding a long term solution I would recommend reading or watching some material from Eckhart Tolle.

A short term "fix" to boost your self confidence, drive and passion would be NLP. I have had great success with anchoring. What I did was think about my best moment ever, when I was out of my mind happy! In my case is was when I won 1. place in a kick boxing tournament and my dad gave me a hug (the only hug I have ever gotten from him), then focus on that tought. Focus on those emotions. Then I put my thumb between my middle and index finger, and squeesed hard! I repeated this exercise several times over 2 weeks. This was 4 years ago. Whenever I put my thumb between my index and middle finger and squeese hard, all those strong positive emotions emerge and flow through my body. I feel untouchable. No matter what state of mind I was in before, I feel like a god after doing that technique.




Hope some of that helps, and I wish you the best of luck mate!

Ah yes, feeling obligated to sarge. I know it well. You just want to hurry up and open the set, dash to the finishline, and get it over with so that you can feel like you at least tried to talk to some women. But you get no results because you just weren't committed to it emotionally or otherwise.

Think about it, that's a frame you are putting yourself in, and women will totally see it. I would say continue to develop your game and just relax, and don't be too hard on yourself.

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“Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'!” ~Audrey Hepburn

I definitely feel you man. Im the same way. I like street walkers take. Ive started to look into NLP and have anchored a proud confident moment as well. Good stuff. Also man dont be so hard on yourself. One of the things that attracted me to the PUA community was the inner game work. If youre just not feeling women at the moment take some time off and work on your self. THere is no rush or hurry... there will be 3.5 billion women to serve you tomorrow and the next day.

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My personal mantra:

"Every woman's a whore in the right situation"
"They're all selling it for something"
"She's sluttier than you think she is"

All good advice.

There is a massive spectrum of things that could be placing you in this situation. Of course adjusting your thoughts or lifestyle can help. Sometimes that's all that is needed. I'll take a different angle.

Your body is a machine. Are you eating well? Are you sleeping the proper amount of time? Are you on a good schedule?

If your mind is messing with you, I heard this once
Move a muscle, change a thought.
You might want to just go for a walk or do something physical that is fun. I personally hate the term 'working out'. Screw that. Just go have fun where your body moves. I like easy martial arts or dancing or walking. No need to exert effort. Just move.

Also, realize that the brain is an organ it controls your mind and perceptions. Ain't no different than your heart or liver. It has taken science massive amounts of time to figure that bad boy out, and there is still a big stigma associated with the organ that runs our mind. Diet, exercise and environment will affect that organ. However sometimes it is straight up deficient and off in it's functioning. If you were for instance super super depressed, just as an example, then I would talk to a Doctor because it could be a chemical imbalance. If you had diabetes or seizures you wouldn't just try to power through it on your own. You would get medical help. They have SPAM available. Try the easy stuff first and just keep working your way up.

As far as forcing yourself to approach? I don't do that. I just go places where good times have a chance of happening if I am down. Sit in a coffee show, go to a public place. You are not going to meet the woman of your dreams sitting at home. So even if you are empty, just being where she will be is all that is necessary. No need to put pressure on yourself.