Last Tuesday I had my first daygame experience and for the first time, had to deal with approach anxiety.
Up till this point I’d just taken in material and hadn’t tried anthing yet. So, I had all these ideas in my head about how everything is supposed to go down but I didn’t really know what to expect about what it would actually be like to be there in that moment doing the approaches.
My buddy and I went out to the mall since its close to his house and It’s the first place we could think of that would have lots of beautiful women going in and out all day. My wing had never heard anything about the game but he was already naturally comfortable with flirting, albeit in a more indirect way than what I was going for and he didn’t know how to stop girls in motion or how to talk to sets (more than one girl).
The afternoon started with my wing talking to girls, mostly girls working at places we stopped by and girls standing in stores. He got a number and like 5-6 bf objections.
When it came to my turn I kept bitching out and making excuses. I knew there was no reason for it. There was nothing to be afraid of in approaching, but knowing wasn’t making it easier nonetheless. Every time I’d just get super anxious before approaching and I just wouldn’t do it. My buddy stayed on me the whole time. “dude I just did 3 you gotta talk to one fuckin girl at least.”
We left for a little while to try a few other spots. They were all dead. At that point I’m just like fuck this I’m done being a pussy we’re going back to the mall I’m approaching the first cute girl I see.
The first we saw turned out to be two girls sitting at a picnic table on the side of the mall, eating some noodles. As I approached I felt a bit nervous but nothing like before. I just had the idea that I was ready, the time was right fucking now. This was about a week ago so I’m sure not everything is word for word but this is as close as I can get.
Me: Hey, did you bring any for us? (meaning the food they were eating)
Them: No
Introductions. We sit down.
Me: I know it must seem really weird, random guys coming over and sitting at your table. I actually just thought you were cute and I wanted to come talk to you. (to the one across from me) So, do you guys work here?
They try to fuck with me and say no, but I catch their name tags. laughing
Me: Ha, you cant fool me! I see your name tags.
Laughing. Still. The one across from me pulls her phone out.
Me: So, do you want to exchange numbers?
Her: I have a boyfriend
Me: Not all relationships last forever. Maybe in a week or two weeks you might want to call me.
Her: We’re having a baby
Me: Nevermind then. I’m nowhere close to being ready to be a father.
Her: I’m not ready to be a mother .
Me: Well it was nice meeting you.
We eject as we’re walking away I turn and say, “Goodbye, I’m sorry you’re pregnant!”
The wholeExperience was fun, they were very receptive and It seemed like the interaction made her day.
My friend didn’t hit on the the girls friend so they just sat there and watched us talk the whole time.
Once we got inside I tried to stop a girl in a group of 3 or 4. We talked for a sec and she seemed into me but her friends were trying to leave here and pressuring her to go. This drove in an important lesson: Stop the ENTIRE set. Not just one girl.
The next girl was easily the hottest I’d seen all day, defiantly a nine in my book. My wing and I both have the same “type” that we prefer so naturally we both wanted her. We played rock paper scissors for the approach. I won.
I walked up beside her and touched her arm.
Me: Hey, I know this is random but I saw you from over there and I thought you were really cute I wanted to come meet you. I’m Joey.
Shake hands
Her: her name
Me: So what do you do?
Her: Tells me she works in the mall (she was shopping at the time)
Me: That’s what you do for work I mean what do you do for fun?
Her: Talks about hanging out with friends and coworkers.
At this point she had been smiling and seemed into me but I don’t really have much of a clue of what to do for mid-game so I just go for a close.
Me: So, do you want to exchange numbers? Maybe we could hang out some time.
Her: give me yours.
I do
Me: Ok give me yours now.
Her: I don’t give out my number. Ill text you.
Me: No you wont you need to give me your number otherwise ill never see you again
We go back and forth about that for a sec. My friend tries to jump in and rack jack me. “if you wont give it to him will you give it to me?” I knew he wasn’t getting it that way so I just kept a solid frame and we both ignored him and he went away. I start to get tired of asking for the # so I stop insisting and I’m about to leave.
Her: Ok, I’ll send you my name.
First number close!
I txt Hi! Right then and there as a joke. Later when my wing and I were getting subway
she texts back Hey there! I ask if she wants to come join me for subway in the food court. She says Sorry ive already left. I should have kept talking to her but I left it at that.
Next was a 2 set. We trailed them into a clothing store but I got distracted by a hot worker.
Her: Hey, can I help you?
Me: Yes I’m about to start cross dressing and I was wondering if you could help me find a dress.
We talk. My wing says something to her about how hot she is
Me: I think that means he likes you. You should give him your number.
Her: boyfriend
We leave and go looking for the two girls we game in for. I ask a guy on a bench and he points out the store they are in. We go in and find them.
Me: Hey, Me and my friend are out meeting people. Im joey.
Them: names
Me: So what do you guys like to do for fun?
Them: Shopping
Me I ask about why & They say its relaxing
I ask aout what the lettering on one of the girls shirts and she says it stands for the collage she wants to go to
Me: how old are you guys?
Them: 20 and 22
Me: Im just asking because you said it’s the school you want to go to. Making sure were not hitting on highschoolers or anything.
We talk a bit more.
Me: So do you guys want to exchange numbers?
Friends target: We both kind of have boyfriends
Me: kind of being the key word
She continues to deny him the number but I notice my girl never said no. I pull up my contact list and hand her my phone. She adds her number and takes mine.
Before we leave my friends girl asks us “Have you ever read the book The Game by Neil strauss?” I guess that’s just a testament to how well known game is that only a few approaches in Id already met someone who knows about it. I didn’t know how to deal with that conversation so I just said no. I hug them both and we exit.
Overall it was a blast. I plan on doing lots of approaches in the future. I need to work on my mid-game and try to get instant dates. I’m going to post my texts to these girls in a different thread.
Before we left the mall the old guy at the bench asked us how we did and wished us “Happy hunting!”
CHAT