| The last girl I dated I closed on D2.
This one is proving to be a bit more difficult. I sparked major attraction. She says things like "I love how you make me feel, I love being around you, I think about you all the time, I miss you I feel so comfortable around you, bla bla bla." I usually just smile, say nothing, or say I know and smile. She can't take her hands off of me when she's around me.
We've made out a few times, each time progressing a bit more. She told me how she can't wait to go down on me and how she can't wait to have sex with me. This has gone on for about a month(4-5 meets).
She took me to dinner last time we hung out. I live with my parents, she does also. We went back to her place, started watching a movie, her hand is on my crotch within a few minutes. I start kissing her, she moves from the couch to the floor, I follow. She actually tells me that before I leave that she is going to go down on me for a minute. She does, for like a minute, then that's all she'll do. Her daughter was in the other room, so I mean I was even kinda freaked out.. she definitely wants it. She's said before about how she wants everything to be perfect and how she wants me to make love to her and how she is going to go down on me for hours because she loves doing it so much, but she wants my heart first....(wtf?) She stops me at her jeans because she is on her period, I believe her because she's had me rubbing her through her jeans before, she actually put my hand there.
We make out a little bit more, and she abruptly says "We have to stop. I'm starting to fall in love with you."
That totally blindsided me, but I knew it was true...totally unlike myself, and very accidentally, I said it back to her. She asked me to hold her, and she started crying because she was so happy(she told me so). I left soon after, because it was really late. She kissed me a bunch of times and didn't want me to leave.
What on earth do you say to something like that? This love thing has never come up so early.
At one point during that night she asked if I had sex with anybody else since we met. I said no, because it was true. That won't be the case forever if she keeps this stuff up. I reassured her that I don't have sex with people just once at an earlier time. I have sex with people who I want to have relationships with.
I can tell she's trying to get me to fall for her by holding back. It's gonna make me pull back or push me away, which I don't want to happen. Any ideas on how to combat that? She's divorced with a child, so she think's she's found the perfect man, I think, and she wants to lock him in. I already thought about asking for some space, but that's too much for now. I'll see how the next interaction or two works out. Last night on the phone she talked about the comedy club she wants to take me to. She knows I am attractive to other women (or that I can attract other women, call it what you want) and that I have options.
She is a great woman, high self esteem, educated (met her in grad school class) so she's worth hanging out with if I can get past this roadblock.
Honestly, though, this may just be her internal clock, because we've been advancing each time, just very slowly. We're going to a New Year's Eve party together at her friend's house where we have a room all to ourselves. We'll see what happens there. I've never been around her after she's had a drink. I am not into taking advantage of women, but maybe she'll loosen up and take advantage of me.
Next time I see her I'll probably do some attraction stuff and comfort stuff to keep her on her toes and into me, not that I need to do much.
I haven't shown any frustration at her holding back, but I haven't done any freeze outs either yet. That may be my next thing. Thanks for all advice. I could type more but I'll await responses.
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