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I just want to apologize to the pua community, y'all were right. At a party today and thr girl with the bf was hooking up and front to front grinding with her RA/my teammate, shoulda listened to ya, but I guess I don't want to be with a cheater (find some bright in this darkness). Anyway, touched her hair and hugged her, so at least I got a bit of kino in with no result.
go learn to cold approach, you're needy and you don't try to sleep with enough women, start trying to sleep with them, instead of trying to get them to sleep with you
also, don't take needy as some bad thing that you have to defend yourself against, no one even knows you in person on this forum anyways, there is no need to convince anyone that you are this, or you are not this, it's simply a form of behavior, think of it like this, the opposite of needy is indifference, now if you are indifferent to a girl, there are a few things that happen
1) you don't care one way or another if you have sex with her
2) you don't care about if she knows you find her physically attractive or not, cause you can take it or leave it, makes little difference
3) you don't care about what she thinks about you, or what she will think
4) you are not afraid to say and do, what ever you want around her, that includes trying to make out with her, cause it doesn't matter to you if she is in your life, or out of it
5) you view her just as a person, rather then someone special
now, if you care = needy, don't take this as someone ripping on you when they say you are needy, every guy and his damn dog gets needy, it's a pattern of behavior that you will start to exibit when you think you have no other choice but to connect, or when you think someone has something that you want, and it is important, learn to spot it, and when you are getting needy, cut yourself off from the source that is causing it, and meet other girls to shift your focus so you don't get too emotionally invested, when you feel like you could give a fuck one way or the other, you are probably good to go take another shot at the source of the prior neediness
also, don't confuse not caring, with not being aware of your social surrounding and how you are making people feel, that is not the point, the point is simply to be indifferent to the girl entirely, you can take it, you can leave it, you don't care, you can hit on her, it isn't a big deal, as long as it interests you, you will stick around, but if it isn't of interest anymore and you are being abused or something, you don't have to take that shit, you don't really need to be around her, she's just not that much of a big deal, not a single fuck is given
really take concious notice of this, and actually become indifferent, rather then acting indifferent, actually be indifferent, have enough shit going on in your life that you don't give a shit one way or another what happens, and you just do what you want, so figure out what you want, and start going for it, don't try to get it to come to you and plot and plan on how to do that, that means you care too much, and caring too much will dry out a vagina faster then a bag of salt
seriously, go out, and meet women in general, meet alot of them, there is no need to try to only get one at a time, there is absolutely nothing special about any girl, until she proves otherwise, good looks? have you looked around? maybe you don't live in a city or something cause hotties tend to be all over the place, it doesn't make them special or any different then any other girl, they are just people with vaginas
GOOD LUCK