All right, AFC here, new to the forum and all.

Anyway, got out of a LTR recently, decided to try out some of this PUA stuff at a buddy's wedding on the other side of the country. There was one HB there who was helping organize and whatnot, and because she's a pretty girl all the guys are falling over themselves doing what she said. And so I pointedly was not taking orders from her. This apparently got her attention and led to lots of small interactions throughout the night. She came over and tried to take my drink, and the first time I wouldn't let her and negged her. Second time, I let her have it, but then used this as an excuse to escalate kino by putting my arm around her to take my drink back, talked to her for a minute, and then wandered off to talk to other people. Anyway, we found each other at the end of the night and hooked up. That was last Saturday.

Anyway, I got her number from one of my friends, texted her Tuesday, called her Wednesday, she texted me Thursday, all went well. Last text was her saying "and u can call me anytime."

I can go into more detail on this if necessary. Anyway, she lives about an hour plane ride away, so it's not like I can just call her up for coffee, but it's a city I have friends in and have to visit on occasion for work. I'd definitely like to see her again, but I don't know how to go about making that happen, because it would pretty much have to involve one of us traveling. I also am concerned that if I talk to her on the phone too much, I get put in the friend zone.

If you hooked up already then I don't really see much of a problem.

You pretty much have her already.

Sorry for the long post but this is my advice:


If it was me I would talk to her maybe once a week, like on Sunday or whenever you are both free. Tell her you work a lot and don't always have your phone on you.

When you're talking, make sure it is light and playful nothing too serious(Joke around and don't be afraid to laugh) Try to keep it overall short but fun. 15-20 minute conversation. Ask open ended questions and make statements(more statements than questions). Make sure she is talking more than you and be sure to be the one who says that you have to go.(Always speak from your stomach, not your throat)

Keep the rapport topics Positive and if she brings up anything negative then change the subject to something more positive and fun right after.

Ex: Ask her how her day was or what she did before she was talking to you. When she answers then pick one of the things she mentioned and make a statement about it.

Text the rest of the time and text only in response to her texts. Text her first maybe once a week but leave the rest up to her to text you.

Answer her texts with short answers like "alright, ok, awesome , at work right now but I'll hit you up later". Then when you hit her up make sure it is like a Hey or Hope you're enjoying your day, etc.

As for planning a trip. If it was me, then I would try and convince her to come see me but I never take a vacation unless it's for family or my personal leisure.

Make it clear that you feel really comfortable around her and that you feel like there is good chemistry(She might ask you what your sign is after that). Be like, I don't know if you feel the same way but I wouldn't mind seeing you again.

See where that goes. If she shows some enthusiasm then suggest her coming for a weekend. If she says she likes the idea then don't get too excited. Talk slow and confidently, even though your heart may be racing.

Don't sound eager. If she's open to coming to visit, then gradually say something like, "By the way, you're welcome to stay at my place if you want." But I wouldn't suggest saying that if you don't have a decent place that she would feel comfortable in.

All you can do is ask and find out. Try to think breezy(You're aiming to be like a breeze in her life; easy-going; easy to get along with)

If she doesn't seem into it then don't sweat it. Plenty of fish in the sea. Plus if you seem like you are losing interest(Not texting, etc.) then she might just decide to do it, if she didn't already.

Like Neil Strauss said. "You gotta be willing to lose the girl before getting her."

Hope that helps.

-Good luck man-

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Following up.

Anyway, called her again last night, after about 20 minutes she brought up the idea of a visit on her own. How about that.

The key question you need to ask yourself is whether or not you want a relationship with this woman. If you don't you'd might as well send her a message or call her and tell her. You said you're new to this and an AFC. Maybe because of this you got laid and are now attached and want to speak to her cos it had been a while? Best to discuss what your relationship is when you speak next because an hour's plane ride is a long distance so maybe finding local girls would be a more productive use of your time if this one isn't girlfriend material?

If she's coming to you then it isn't like you are jumping through hoops or anything. All I say is fuck the shit out of her and enjoy the time you guys spend with each other. Have fun brother, congrats . You might just have some of the best sex of your life haha.

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