Hello fellows,

So I've been going out with my girlfriend for a while now but I have to encounter a major problem every time I see her.

She is overly emotional, and way too much into me. The kind of girl that will call/text more than once everyday just to tell me how she keep thinking about me and shit... While some people may want that, I don't.

When we're home alone, I don't mind being cute and cuddling and shit, but I tend to keep a certain distance with her when I am with other people. It's how I was raise, I don't want to make my friends or whoever I am with uncomfortable because I am making out with my girl in front of them. And I guess you saw it coming, she is always all over me when we are with other people...

It hasn't been that much of a problem since yesterday when we were at the beach with a couple of friends. Pretty much everyone was laying on the sand, some cuddling or whatever, and I just took a seat alone to drink my beer. She found a way to make a big scene out of that, saying that if we don't have anything to say to each other, maybe we shouldn't be dating. Since I don't like getting into big drama, especially when I am with friends, I just didn't say anything. She left and started crying...

We had a conversation afterwards and now it's all good. But it got me thinking that I don't think I can deal with that type of behavior repeatedly. Maybe we are not meant to be together...

So guys,

if any of you ever had a girlfriend overly emotional, how did you deal with it?

And also, if I decide that we should break up. How do I do it without completely destroying her?

I was thinking of just being distant until she bring the "if we don't have anything to say to each other, maybe we shouldn't be together" bla bla and just agree with her...

Any advices?

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Dear Optimist, Pessimist & Realist,

Just to let you know that while you guys were arguing about the glass of water...... I drank it!

Sincerely, the Opportunist

um ... well ... you could be honest

just tell her "we are not compatible, you are over-emotional and over-dramatic"

but don't forget, the grass is always greener, you are about to dump a girl for being crazy about you

are we going to see you back here in a few months or a year bitching about how your new girlfriend seems disinterested in you?

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

Before breaking up why don't you try to lead and educate your girlfriend?
If she is a drama queen/freak like my overly attached exGF, she won't get the hint.
If she is a good girl who is sincerely in love with you, given the right amount of communication and leading, she should try and adjust herself to a different behavior.

First of all, why is she so clingy? Is she insecure? Because of behaviors on your side or because of her past? You might want to do some reading on the different attachment styles. And maybe share that reading with her, and try to understand what leads her to behave the way she does.
And then have an open honest chat where you tell her what you told us.

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"It's disrespectful not to bang them when they sleepover." (Hellhound)

Why don't you just tell her you're not into PDA? You don't feel comfortable with an audience. I'm sure you could get her to understand what you mean by talking to her about it privately, all the while conveying what she means to you and sealing the conversation with some secksy time.

You can do whatever you like, but there are worse characteristics to be had.

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"Let me ask you something. If the rule you followed brought you to this, of what use was the rule?"

I would kill for my girl to be a little more like that!

I know it's off topic, but what's your game like? Have you always been very independant in the relationship?

hey Mr Matt,
i have not facing any problem like that. I have good girl friends. I agree that all person are not like same and some are more emotional than other. But you should learn to manage it.

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Yeah, I guess next time she bring that up, I'll tell her that I think we are not compatible... She is too emotional and I'm too independent and it just won't work.
You could check out my journal (which I didn't really update for a while) to have an idea of what my game is like, but I was mostly doing night game, not giving a shit about anything and yes, I always been very independant.

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Dear Optimist, Pessimist & Realist,

Just to let you know that while you guys were arguing about the glass of water...... I drank it!

Sincerely, the Opportunist

You are one of the few people on this forum that knows how to treat a relationship with the respect it deserves.