I am a newbie who hasn't figured this one out. I know every person thinks they look younger than they are but I am a legitimately youngish-looking 41 year old and women usually put my age at 33 or so (37 is the highest number that I have ever heard). The last four women I have hooked up with have been 21, 25, 26, and 47; I am low in money and status and I just seem to do better with younger women with my arsenal of humor and sex. Not infrequently however I have a young woman's definite interest and everything hits the wall when they ask about my age and I tell them.

This past saturday I was seemingly on the right path with an attractive girl of 22 when 10 minutes into our interaction (which already had escalating kino) she asked me my age and her jaw literally dropped with my truthful response. Probably a minor obstacle to an mpua but for me there was no recovery.

Had similar incident 2 weeks ago at New Jersey shore. I walked into a bar and three women in their forties grabbed me the second I entered and pulled me onto the dance floor to talk to an hb10. It turns out two of the women were the target's aunts and one was her mother. (I should point out I am 6'4" and fairly handsome so I do not have to scratch and claw like many men for initial attraction). Well, the target was responding well to me and I started hanging out with the group. Rather humorous but within a few minutes the trio of middle-aged women knew my age and began a harangue about the lameness of a man of 41 trying to pickup a beautiful woman of 25. One of the aunts was truly indignant when I jokingly said 25 is a little old for me as I usually date college girls. "Sick" she said.

Would appreciate any wisdom/advice on this subject...and yes I know the obvious solution: 'stop hitting on women 20 years younger!' but alas I intend to remain reality-averse for at least a few more years

There is that old adage; "Age is just a number!" But like all sayings.....

I feel you Bro:

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Notice how it was women in their forties giving you shit. I know for a fact that the younger women don't care about your age. In fact, they like older men. The solution to the problem is to tell older women you are younger, and tell younger women how old you actually are.

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You ask:"How old do I look?"/"Give me a guess"
whatever she says
You:"That's a good guess."
and then carry on doing whatever you're doing.

or you could be cocky and just say
"I'm too young for you"

thx, good stuff

"Old enough to know better and young enough to pretend"

Never answer a direct question with a direct answer.. it makes for boring, unmemorable conversations. Tell her she gets to know the answer after she's earned enough brownie points.

-Wolf

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not qualifying yourself to a chick, simply makes it harder for her to categorize you

it's not nessicarily going to even have a huge impact, it's not the end of the world if a girl says

''how old are you?''

and you answer

''33''

if she prefers to date and sleep with guys between the ages of 25-40, then nothing is even affected

however, if some chick thinks you may be too young, or too old for her, that's all this re-framing does, it changes the frame under which she is thinking about it from,

instead of it being a make or break you statement, it simply changes to something irrelevant, since you treat it that way

something as silly as, ''old enough to see you're cute'' followed by changing the subject, and giving her a real answer if she presses you is totally fine, even just being honest can be recovered from if you are cool enough that she enjoys your company and makes an exception to her I only date guys that are older/younger then this guy rule, that she has made up in her head

I am turning 31 in a little over a week, and the same thing has been bothering me a little bit. I used to not care at all about age, but hearing girls in their early 20s talk about 30 being too old is irritating. Where it definitely can be a problem is online dating becuase there is no getting around your age, and many girls specify an age range.

When I am out and about: If I lie and say I am younger, ask them to guess or avoid the question & change the subject...than that goes over more smoothly than saying my real age (w/ some of the snobby young girls)

I dodge the question or ask them to guess my age (than say "good guess") if they ask my age. I live in the heart of the Midwest so there are more close-minded people here!! I never thought twice about age w/ women until I hit 30. It really does vary...some girls don't care at all & some have a block in their head about age.

Besides changing the topic, having her guess your age, saying "age is just a number" when you do tell the truth, etc...How else would you guys suggest to handle the situation when you do tell the truth about your age & a younger girl is trying to make an issue of it?

ugh. a 24 year old HB9 whose number i got at the mall last weekend just wore me down and on our 73rd text (i actually counted) i finally gave my age after ignoring or flipping (gotta learn the lingo) her many questions. pretty funny, she's sweet and tried to get the info indirectly several times (she said she was curious about "my decade of origin" when i told her my money song at karaoke was by neil diamond) but finally asked me directly and i answered. she said "no big deal" and we are supposed to go out saturday. i dunno, see how it goes.

but, speaking of karaoke...also got the phone number of a 23 year old at a bar last night on karaoke night. i didnt have to be defensive on this one as she, although a solid 8 in my book, seemed a bit insecure and damaged and asked me if it would be weird to date a woman so young. i just shrugged and said i do it all the time

btw, i think karaoke once a week has definitely helped my overall composure/confidence. highly recommend. not a lot of hot chicks at these places though:)

tazz

I was with a 22 yo last week, number closed and chatting with a 25 yo, tattooed biker mag girl..... fuck age I'm 53

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I will tell you what works for me, but I am in the opposite end of the situation. Since I am still young I use this when I approach older women and it always works. I playfully make fun of them for being old and bait them into qualifying for it. "OMG you are so old I should buy you a cane as a gift. After a certain age women become boring, what do you do for fun?" If you deliver it in a cocky and funny type of vibe she will qualify and then you tell her to guess your age and then tell her the truth while devaluing her and disqualifying her for her age.

It should work for you because girls don't really care how old you are if shes attracted to you. Just make sure you make it sound like your age has more value than hers and she will accept the frame. You can use any bad characteristics that younger girls generally tend to have to bait her into qualifying herself for being young. Some examples can be that she might not be mature enough, she might party too much, she might be too naive and dramatic etc..

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My line is "It is interesting that Men tend to age like a fine port wine, when on the other hand Women tend to age more like milk!"

also as you say:

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When they ask for your age, be a bit serious.. Seriousness of being unable to control something... :p

I am very OLD... Lets just say I am your real father.. Your mom, she used to look damn hot back in 1870s...

I know I am newbie and younger (26). When a girl asks me this question I always say cheekily "they say you're only as old as the girl you feel" quickly grab her hand "so that makes meeeee...?" Try and look sweet.

Wait for her to answer and then say "so I'm (repeat her age) tonight". Usually a good time to let go of the hand and then step in a little closer. I am guessing what they call kino escalation. I am new to all of that and dont yet get the jargon.

This is a great post as I'm about to turn the legal age to go out in the nightclubs. This has given me couple things to by step the age thing. But have learnt in the past years. It depends on how the girl feels about the topic. Some girls will only date older guys and some girls don't mind at all. As some have said, make the age thing irrelevant and some will begin to think that it doesn't matter at all.

Peace,
SikGun