So i act like a bad boy every now and then and start goofing off.

Then, people start to get pissed. fine. but then everyone gets pissed.
Not only that but i want the bad boy to be a part of me so when i turn shy, it gives off an incongruent vibe that people pick up which also happens when i try too hard to be a bad boy

This cycle has alienated lots of people from me.

should i drop the bad boy or refine him?

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You miss every shot you don't take.

If you want to get the type of girl that goes for bad boys act as one obviously.

You need to caliborate it with everyone is different. Some girls like it some don't.

Especially if it's not your nature it could be hard

Damn right they get pissed off. The trick is not to mind that they get pissed off.

Jut out of curiosity, and my own interest in adding an edge to myself, how exactly does one go about acting like a "bad boy"?

Could you share some tips with me?

Drop it.

Clearly.
Don't try to be someone your not. I really get annoyed when I see people trying to be someone they're not, since it's not them. They're just being fake.

How about, you drop "him", and start being a better "you".

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Dear Optimist, Pessimist & Realist,

Just to let you know that while you guys were arguing about the glass of water...... I drank it!

Sincerely, the Opportunist

EXACTLY! If you aren't bad, if you have no streak of bad in you, if you can't have someone pissed off at you without being affected, you are wasting your time. How about trying to be something you are suited to and then having a lot more time to work on other parts of your life that will bring a world of benefits to you.

I can't help but feel that if you worked more on your looks, your body, your general social skills and god forbid, your actual job, and less time trying to be someone you weren't you might find that you have more attraction, more energy, more high status friends and more money, and somehow those things might lead to more girls a little bit more than being a total badass.

I'm not a bad boy, I'm a do what I want boy. I have a desirable life, heaps of friends, I'm in great shape and I have more money than I can count. My whole life I've always had lots of girls, because getting girls was always my lowest priority. Getting all those other things was a priority and girls could see that and were attracted to it. Now that I'm a bit older getting the right girl is my top priority, and turns out girls are attracted to that and want that too. It's an endless positive cycle that you can't possibly start for yourself if you're shy and pretending to be something you're not.

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La Dolce Vita.

Bullshit.

Some girls like the bad boy attitude and if you are not either that or a provider they will never fuck you.

You need to learn to shift like water and caliborate it with every girl is different.

I've never met a girl that has only one type. Never. I've met girls who "only fuck rich guys" but have actually fucked some of my most broke arse friends because that friend was exceedingly cool. I've met girls that "only date hipsters" and then two years later they're married to a stock broker. I've dated a girl who "wouldn't date a guy without a proper career" when I was 16 and living in an apartment with a junky and with no money and no proper career.

The same way we don't have 1 type, girls don't either. They may favor one type, they may think they have one type. But they don't. It's human to be persuaded towards others.

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La Dolce Vita.

Countless men mistake the "bad boy" image for a "jackass, jerk" image. You're supposed to be a socially intelligent, mature bad-boy.

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Women are plenty, time is not.

Damn this gotta be the most stupidest post so far ive read in a while..
Just be yourself damn it. If u want to be a BAD BOY go to the hood if you got the heart! But you dont that life cause you aint about it. I can hear it in your weak ass tone.

If anything dont be someone you aint if you aint got the heart and confidence.
Go WORK OUT and try to be more MASCULINE and grow some BALLS like a REAL MAN quit with the fake image bullshit women can see right threw your ass and laugh at you like you's a bitch!

BE REAL WITH YOURSELF AND STOP TRYING TO BE A FAKE ASS

BE MORE NATURAL HOMIE! It'll be easier for you in the dating game

what's your game? how's that working out for you? cool, cool so what does ''being a bad boy'' have to do with not being shy? and if being some sort of ''bad boy'' is pissing people off instead of getting you laid, why is it important to you to do this sort of annoying shit? does it bring you enjoyment? so why perpetuate it? well lets see here, to develope a game plan, or ''game''

you first, develope a process, test the process, then review the process after testing, how can this process be improved, how can this game plan become better?, then you tweek it, re-test, re-improve, over and over until you are reaching your desired outcome from the plan

so how's this ''bad boy'' plan working so far?, do you at least enjoy it? are these the kind of results you want? you want to continue down this path?

what's your idea of a ''bad boy'' anyways? to me the ''badboy'' that women are always talking about is that guy secretly letting them know he's down for fucking and hes totally unphased by it and what they throw at him, he's a bad bad man who doesn't care about what these girls think, totally comfortable with his sexuality, just wants to get down to buisness and use women for sex, doesn't care if they know about it or are upset by that fact, it's just is as it is and he's comfortable being the villian, comfortable being the evil guy who doesn't care about what the girls want, he just selfishly goes for his, just gets his nut and gets out like a very bad man so he can move on and go get his nut with some other girl, totally fine with being hated, as long as he's getting laid, he'll be the badboy and he's ok with that

now ask yourself, what's the path here you want to take, you want to bang girls and pretend to be someone else?, or you want to bang girls without pretending to be anything, bang girls who like you cause you're the fucking man, or bang girls who like you cause you're the best fucking actor they have fucked ever.... which is it?

I think the OP needs a lot of -basic- PUA reading.

Grab some material by John Alexander or DeAngelo on seduction. Read up on some basic stuff. Your base is weak my friend and that you need to develop.

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Women are plenty, time is not.

You need to look like a bad boy without actually being one. You need arm sleeve tattoos and wear Hurley hats and drive a lifted truck. But you don't need to actually piss people off or do things that will get yourself into trouble, because that's counter-productive. You can tell a girl you're on probation without actually being on probation. You can tell the girl you wanted to beat that guy's ass over there, but you don't have to tell HIM that. Remember, you're just trying to put on a front to impress women so that they go home and call their girlfriend and tell her how much of a bad boy they think you are, because then they'll you'll get to bang them.

Let's face it, being a bad boy in itself just means you are a loser and fuckup--someone nobody wants to be around. But if it's done under the guise of scoring with chicks, then it's understandable.

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“Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'!” ~Audrey Hepburn

What is your definition of a bad boy?

Everyone's is different. Each girl is gonna have different individual preferences.
Don't change who you are for each girl. Don't shift your identity just to please her. That's weak shit man. It's not nice guy, bad boy. It's weak man, strong man. And the strength that counts is internal.
Change your approach, certainly. Figure out what works and what doesn't with each individual. That's where the skill becomes an art.
But don't adopt something contrary to your character just to please other people. That's some serious bullshit and will get you nothing. If you get "what you want" you can't enjoy it because YOU'RE not actually there present. And if you don't then it sucks doubly because not only did you not get what you wanted, but you gave up a lot of your self respect on a gamble that didn't pay off.

What you're aiming for is a mature man. What that looks like for you, nobody else can tell you.
If being a bit on the naughty side is something you want to integrate into your personality, then be mischievous and playful, certainly. You display social intelligence if you can pull off being a benevolent trickster without being immature and disruptive. You display strength when do not seek approval, but act for your own desires and amusement. Balance the two and stir in a bit of edgy flirtation and you'll have a deadly combination

There's some ideas, take them or leave them.

What is your idea of a bad boy. I want to know what your personal image of one is.
What does he look like, how does he dress?
How does he carry himself around women, around men?
Where does he spend his time, and what are the things he stands for? What does he stand against?
What makes him attractive?

When you answer those questions, take a good introspective look and decide how you want to relate to that image you've created. Do you want to adopt it as your own?