Hey everyone I have a question about a girl at work. Several months ago I was crushing on her hard and she knew, and I was pretty much being an AFC to the max, always being as nice as possible, over complimenting, etc. etc. Anyway after a while I just kind of gave up and since then I have been cool with her but I haven't gone out of the way to contact or conversate with her much. A couple of weeks ago we were talking about what to get each other for Xmas and she said that all she wanted was "some of your lovin" and I kinda just played it off. Then at work she had an arrow sticker and put it on her shirt facing down, and I mentioned how there would be a long line to get on that ride and she said that luckily I had a skip to the front of the line pass. Then she gave me my Xmas present which had a note attached that read One skip to the front of the line "coupon" Finally my question is how do I play this considering she has already strung me along in the past, and could be doing so again? Thanks

That sounds like an open door to me, but she may just be testing you to see how you react. You have to go with your gut instinct... remember if you think you can, you can. It's that easy. If she is stringing you along I would use jealousy, girls that love attention and string you along fall hardest when you use another girl to make them jealous.

You definitely need to play this cool. There's a chance she could just be looking for your validation. In that case, once you oblige her she could take off which is what you're fearing I'm sure.

Now, I'm a nobody, but if this was me, this is how I would play it.

I would act on this. Not too soon but I would also try not to let the opportunity pass me by. I would try to keep my cool and act like SHE was into ME and force her to DHV me into being interested in her.

Repeat to yourself. It's no big deal. Don't be overly impressed with what she talks about or what she wears. Fire off shotgun and sniper negs but reward with vague and subtle IOIs.

Maybe you can get together in a group and see how it plays out. You need to lead the group and make yourself seem like King Shit (not that I'm saying you aren't, heh). Maybe close that with a kiss, but I would keep it at that.

Also, you have to be careful for Buyer's Remorse. I've ran this route a few too many times. You get a girl all worked up, go all the way and she regrets it and BOOM you're done. So keep cool. Make another date and go a bit further but leave her wanting more.

By that time, you can decide if you wanna go all the way, if you wanna pursue a relationship or whatever.

Just remember, if none of this works and she blows you off. It's no big deal. Plenty of girls in the sea.

Good luck!

_________________
-ChrisTOTP

"I take my chain. My 15 seconds of fame. And come back next year with the whole fuckin' game." -- Kanye West

To sum up what everyone is telling you:

You need to show her that just her offer is not going to win you over. You are interested but you are not that easy. You need to make her comply to you before you will 'accept' her offer.


Depending on logistics:

I would have her make you dinner. Do not bring up sex. If she does, play aloof to it.

U: During general banter. "So what are you doing this weekend?"
Find out if she is available
U: "I'm free for a little while on XXX night, do you know how to cook?"
A couple of things can happen here. She will proclaim how well she cooks, she will say that she knows how to cook a specific dish, or she will not know how to cook.

You have already established that you intend to come over on her available time depending on her answer. You can gauge her real interest in you.

She will proclaim how well she cooks
U: "So what is your favorite dish?"
HB: Blah, blah
U: Ask a little detail about it. Like, "Do you put XXX in there"
HB: Blah, blah
U: "Now I am hungry! So what time XXX night?" Just assume she is going to make it for you.

She will say that she knows how to cook a specific dish
Play it just like above

she will not know how to cook.
Give her a neg about not knowing how to cook.
U: "So how do you eat?"
HB: Blah, blah
U: "Well, I make a mean XXX dish. I am only going to cook it if you are going to be my kitchen assistant. I will put an apron and a big hat on you. You will look cute. I'll call you wolf gang puck jr."

Know before hand the logistics of cooking and what you would cook.

While she is there, kino her a lot and have fun. Give her a few kisses (start with the cheek) rewards for being a good kitchen assistant.

Take charge and lead the interaction. She already offered herself so the expectations are set. Do not be nervous about it and just do it.

_________________
Recommended reading list.

Double Your Dating by DD
(This will work on your inner game)

http://www.freewebs.com/xfman/
(This will work on your outer game)