Hi all,

I have a strange problem with my girlfriend and she no longer wants to partake in sexual activities. As you can imagine, it sucks big time for me. Here's the convo we had literally 5 minutes ago over text:

Her: Idk maybe I'm weird. I just get bored with sex
Her: *sexual stuff
Her: Im more of a cuddler
Me: Legit. That sucks
Her: Idk I'm a freak >:l
Me: This sucks!! Like I just got so depressed haha
Me: That is hilarious
Her: It is not!
Me: It fucking sucks. Damn. Well whatever
Her: I feel terrible
Me: Its like the worst news a man can hear.
Her:Its not like it will be forever, just not right now
Me: Yay! Haha Im a bad lover
Her: No I just dont want to do anything
Me: Okay

I know I sounded AFC in some parts I just didnt know what to do in this situation. Can someone help me please? I see her next Thursday and I'm not sure what I should do or what I can do until then. Like what I text her now? If anyone can help that would help soo much. Thanks!

The Bowser

judging by that convo, i am guessing your are both between the ages of 9 and 12?

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No. We are not 9 or 12. Focus on the question please I know it was a bad convo I just want to fix it

+rep for making me laugh.

Anyway, yeah, you sounded like a total girl every step of the way. Here's a summary:

Her: I hate sex.
You: That statement adversely affects my lifestyle, and I'm sad.
Her: Deal with it. Bitch.
You: Okay.

Just pretend this conversation never happened and escalate sexually with her next time. I noticed you said she "no longer" wants to partake in sex, implying that you've had it before. If that's the case, it should be no big deal. If she still refuses, further investigation is needed because that is a blatant sign that she is losing interest in you if there are no other factors that would impact her sex drive.

Don't take any notice of that conversation.

Make sure you're game is good; make sure you're not always available and not always contactable.

Keep attraction levels high.

When it comes to sex, esculate and make it a night to remember.

Ignore her obvious shit tests.

I'd try escalate next time you see her and if you don't get any joy then look elsewhere

lol i can hardly comment this i mean man, what do you do when girl has LMR? You say "no problem" and do a freezeout with blowing the candles.

What do you do when she (says) she doesn't want to have sex? You do not logically oppose to that. You go "Strange, same with me. Maybe there is something in the air" while escalating. PU 101. Complaining and whining will never help.

No offence ment with this post dude, but man up and act indifferent with sex subject. While phisically escalating when together of course, and you'll be fine

a bunch of things could be going on.
the worst case scenario: she is getting dick elsewhere/she is losing interest in you
the best case scenario: she is shit-testing you

in the middle, she might be trying to betaize you by withholding sex. or she might just sincerely have a drop in her sex-drive for some reason.

your job as a BF would be to know what is going on in this girl's life. stress, work, college, ..., kindergarten? anything might be causing her to be focusing on stuff other than bedroom fun?
if not, simply go for it when you see her. if she has LMR, defeat it. if she seriously rejects sex with you over an extended period of time, start worrying.

a girl might be cuddly/no-sex for a night, or two.. that is not a huge deal.. even the most HSD chick will not be in the mood every once in a while.
if a girl suddenly goes from HSD to no-SD without any apparent reason, and for more than a short while... it could indicate issues.

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