We all know that while it might suck, getting rejected is not the end of the world.

That is, if the girl who rejects you is some random at a bar who you'll never see again.

I'm wondering what ACTUALLY happens when a girl declines your offer of a date and she is someone you see often in daily life.

I asked two girls out this summer- both said they were already seeing someone, but I think they still appreciated me asking. However, both of them are people I'll probably never see again.

If it's a girl who you see on a daily basis (at school, work, etc.) does anyone have any insight as to what is actually going on in her head?

Also, how do you act around this person? Play it off like nothing happened? Avoid them like the plague? Let's say you tried to kiss her and failed at that (which is a bit more serious than getting turned down a date)?

Obviously there are things that differ from situation to situation, but any general tips would be appreciated. My imaginary fear of the rejection monster is really holding me back.

Well, put it this way, I have done that...

I made my mistakes while doing it...

One girl turned me down and I just stopped talking to her and started talking to another she hated, which was a mistake...

What I should have done was never stop talking to the one that turned me down.

I should have just kept it going and still at the same time talk and get close to the girl she disliked regardless of her opinion.

But I did not do that and she hates me, there is literally nothing I can do to fix it, she believes I broke her trust and we just pretend neither one of us exist in the same workplace. (Not my decision)

I also ended up messing up with the girl that she hated and that is how I ended up back in this great community which I will never leave again ;P

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rejection is not solid, it is more like liquid

a girl who doesn't want to fuck you in january, may want to fuck you in june,

it means nothing, hot girls get asked out, it's a normal social thing, for normal social people

girls resist, guys persist, it's the way of the world

you just have to figure out how to categorize girls that are truly deadpan not interested, from girls that are just not available at the current time, learn how to screen them and keep in touch while not becoming needy so that you can turn dis-interest today, into interest tommorow, take your time and don't be desperate, and keep adding to the pipeline

but for the most part if it is social circles, just think of how you would act if a girl you were not interested in stepped to you?, would you care?, is it a big deal?

subjective from person to person, but chances are you wouldn't think negatively of a girl for asking you out, why do you think a girl would be any different?

just go for the girls you want, and if it doesn't work out, just keep talking to them as long as you want to, she's not going to kill you for trying, more likely she'll just get an ego boost and think she is the shit for a while