| you stop being needy is how
if you are only talking to one girl while you are single, get ready to use your hand
also, creepy = you care
you are not creepy
from a girl's perspective creepy means two things
1)needy about what you are doing
or
2)showing interest when you are unattractive from their point of view
so for example, I could go on a date with a girl who finds me attractive, and say wow, look at your ass, I want to live inside there
totally crude comment, possibly offensive depending on the girl, but if she sees that I am serious about that comment and meant it actually caring about a reaction from her... bam, creepy factor just has gone up 10 points, cause that's needy
now on the other hand, if I just said that shit for the sake of saying rude shit cause I always say rude shit, and how she reacts doesn't matter, and when she gets mad and says fuck you... I just say, you're right it probably smells bad up in there
bam, creepy factor down 10 points, now it's just an offensive (somewhat dis-respectful depending on the girl's sense of humour) comment made towards her, and you can deal with the negative reaction and it is more likely to get you a punch in the arm and a fuck you, then a girl thinking... WTF? creepy... because the way the comment is communicated shows indifference towards a response
this is only easily pulled off if you are actually indifferent towards a response, indifferent towards her opinion of you, obviously it is helpful to be aware of what the girl is feeling and be considerate, but you still should make your own choices based on what you want, un-reactive to her opinion of you, this doesn't mean go around using pumpington's magical ''I want to live in your ass'' one liners, because this is an example to illustrate a point, and not a very practical one
now lets consider the other side, lets say you walk up to a girl and say, hey I think you're cute, I want to talk to you, and lets say you're a 4ft tall black guy, and she is absolutely racist and hates short people, now her response is just... ewwwwww, get away from me creepy little man
it's not that what you even did was ''creepy'' it's just that is her go to word she uses to try to deter guys from hitting on her, when she is not interested and being rude
now how you get over being needy, is find happiness from within yourself, don't go looking for happiness inside of a vagina, because it isn't hiding in there, meet multiple women and try to get with them, rather then trying to get with only one girl at a time, the less it matters to you if you succeed or not, the more free you are to just let your own un-reactive self come out to play
GOOD LUCK
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