This also happens to be my first approach in 10 months due to the false belief I was content with my live.

So I was at the gym getting changed into my trunks after my back workout and I had the sudden idea to approach the cute lifeguard on shift. As I open the door to the pool I meet eye contact with her and see her body language is defensive with her sitting down with her heels on the chair and her hands wrapped around her knees. My a.a kicks in and I use her body language as an excuse not to approach, resulting in me walking past her and into the steam room.

I tried meditating to try to remove the a.a but it was hardly working after 5 mins some middle aged guy walks in and I start a conversation with him, another 5 mins follow and a teacher from my old school enters and he joins the conversation. This continued for 5 mins at which point I was waiting for them to stop talking so I could excuse my self from the steam room because the heat was really getting to me eventually a pause comes and I leave the steam room.

The conversation I had had removed my a.a so I walk up to her and open with..

Me: You look quite bored (I know worst opener ever)
Her: Pardon ( One problem I have is that sometimes I dont speak clearly or loud enough)
Me: You look quite bored
Her: Yeh I am ( I think that was her reply)

Anyway I ended up having a conversation with her you guest it for 5 minutes about protein, her job, people I know, really boring stuff but she seemed to enjoy my company I don't know if that was because she was bored or there was some attraction. One possible IOI is when I said I need to hit the showers soon she completely ignored it and carried on the conversation. I froze as well when she said bye then I stood for 3 seconds just gazing into her eyes then followed it up with the crappy question when do you finish work. Also after showering, as I was leaving the gym you can see the pool near the exit I waved goodbye and she waved back I don't think this was a good idea.

Overall I think I did O.K if you considering my face was completely red( from the steam room) and I was speaking to her bare chested even though I have a good body it was covered in sweat. I think opening in night game is going to be a piece of cake compared to it.

I appreciate anyone who spent the time to read this, any feedback will be welcome cheers.

Hey man. These types of approaches, i.e. shop keepers, people working serving customers etc. are great for practice. So, next time you go to the shop also try sparking up more of a conversation with the girl or even guy in the shop/on the til. Then once you get more comfortable with this, you can start thinking about approaching complete strangers.

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Good advice bro, defiantly going to be more social with people where ever I am. At the moment I'm being more sociable then ever before and everyday feeling more confident.


Too cut to the chase I n closed her earlier and she said I should join her Saturday night at some shesha place in the nearby town with her friends.I will go into detail what actually happened game wise.

So I started talking to her by the pool and after 1 minute I could feel my tip begin awaken so I hurry into the steam room. After coming out I open her again with " you shouldn't sit like that it will fuck your back up" then I sat in the chair next to her and said "sit like this". This followed a 20 minute conversation which I was feeling very relaxed and confident pretty much the state I have been feeling for the last 5 days. When mentioning clubbing she said I bet you get all the girls with zero sarcasm, which I ignored. I asked her what she was doing tonight she said nothing, but she said she was going some place tomorrow. I responded with I want to go out but loads of my friends are at a music festival which lead to her say that I should go to the place she was going I said maybe cos I need to see what the rest of my bros are doing, what's your number?


O.K that was pretty much it, I noticed a few IOI's which is kl and I didn't want to do any kino in case I got a boner because I have not had a mastur for nearly a week.
BUT I need some advice, If I go shall I go on my own which would mean me, her and all her friends or shall I bring some friends to even it out and help make kino a lot easier.

Another perspective: Even she freindzones you it is good because the more people you know in a given place is a DHV. So lets say you meet a chick at the gym, you can introduce her to the life gaurd and look like the man. Either way solid performance and congrats!

Yeh this is true mate, but alas that was her last ever shift there and she is going to holiday on monday for 2 weeks. In 3 weeks time both of us are off to uni for the first time. Even so I'm going to go man in up and go on my own because there is a chance I could get in there social group, this could be very useful especially when I come back from uni so I can go with them to a local club cos none of my friends live near me. Also I reckon I have a good chance with her.