I definitely believe that I have the confidence to be direct with a girl. And I'm sure I could get this girl to lay with me despite having a boyfriend but I need to get around that defense mechanism. When I do say something like (not exactly):

'I don't want to mess up your relationship but I just want to have some fun'

she will reply

'But I have a boyfriend'

or some mess like that, how do I respond? Does anyone know anything witty to say? Even if I dont get with her, I want to test the waters because I think she would give it up

One Advice i've gotten a lot is do not hesitate.

Do you care about this girl much? Is she really a good friend of yours?
Are you afraid of loosing her?

If the answer to this is NO, then go man...

If you're straight shes gonna feel guilty (and we do not want that) and shes gonna put up her ASD.
Unless she acts slutty or really open mind about relationships, or unless she really really shows strong attraction for you, then yes, it might be a good idea to be direct.
Otherwise I'd recomend you to go some other way about it.

Try changing the topic and inviting her somewhere you two might enjoy, like you were friends, when you get the date, do as you would with a girl that's single....(Build attraction, kino, get her to qualify herself to you, kino, etc..)

If she does accept your invitation that it's definetely an IOI meaning that she might be willing to cheat on her BF. Thats a go for you my friend, and if you do get the date, please, Go for the Kiss close (or more if possible).

By the way. It's good that you know that even if you dont get the girl its still a good idea to make the experiment. There's no such thing as failiure when all that can happen to you is becoming wiser each time

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".. I will learn all that I've forgotten, I will succeed where I'd previously failed, and even if I don't I wont stop, cuz this is not just about girls, this is about Life "

You sound pretty confident too

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".. I will learn all that I've forgotten, I will succeed where I'd previously failed, and even if I don't I wont stop, cuz this is not just about girls, this is about Life "

Ahhhhhh ok ok. I will treat her like she is single. She used to flirt with me when she had a boyfriend before so maybe if I treat her like normal I can get what Im looking for. Thanks for the advice. I may not need to be direct until later on. Haha I've been workin on the alpha stuff and confidence

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Alright so she wants to see me. She asked me "soo, what do you want to do on our "date"".

Should I be direct and say something like 'make out' or should I treat her like a friend then escalate at the date?

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Alright so I saw her today, a little earlier than expected and I wound up k-closing her.

I managed to do this even with her talking about her boyfriend and I didn't even have to straw man him.

I wanted to try an apocalypse type statement but I got cold feet at the very last second lol.

I think Im gonna see her this weekend though

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