I disagree, although it depends what his preserved value is to his gf and friend (is he the the alpha male or the beta bitch?) If he is in fact the alpha he can literally tell the guy to fuck off without anyone questioning him, if however he is the weak beta in the group the guy might blow him out and he will come off as an asshole.

Here is the thing, if he's not the alpha male its time to step up and take control of the situation like an alpha, gain control of the group and of the relationship. You want to be a bitch your whole life? or step up and be the alpha male? Some guys will never understand this concept, and those are the guys who don't have it in them to be leaders.

I consider my self the "alpha" in my circle of friends and family and if something bothers me I will let it be known, if someone doesn't like it does not phase me! nor should it....I have no one to please but my self. Why would I hang around someone who don't get along with? Id rather be around people who I like.

Its not beta to tell someone who has no respect for you and is clearly trying to drive a wedge between you and your gf to fuck off....it would be beta to not do this! Think of the alpha lion in the wild, what does he do when one of the beta lions is doing something he does not like? He tel him to fuck off lion style lol and no one in the pack questions that lion because he is the leader.

He isn't a lion in the wild.

If you overreact, you are insecure. If a girl really likes a boy romantically, she will hate anybody who speaks bad about them.


If she was already losing interest in him. That's a different situation, it would fuel her negative thoughts.

Its not over reacting....he doesn't like that guy so why would he keep him around? the guy also clearly has it out for him...he will throw him under that bus the first chance he gets! no need to over react just simply say "I don't want to hang out with him he's annoying". end of story.

regardless of if he is a lion or not he still needs to protect him self and his gf from this idot. He does not need to give reasons, his gf should just agree with him and back him up, thats what I would expect....If I told my gf I didn't like a guy nor did I trust him she would take my word for it. If she sided with another man I would tell her to hit the road.

You can't live life fearing what others think, or fearing what they will say, you have to put an end to situation that you don't feel comfortable with before they become a problem!

I have been doing this a while now and the whole "do nothing" method never works. there is no need to argue with the guy, just cut him out of your circle.

Truth right there!

Its called a metaphor lol

You want this guy to get between you and your gf? then do nothing and say nothing.

You want to put an end to it? than calmly remove him from the situation. Its simple don't invite him to things, don't hang around with him, and if your gf invites him along tell her no, you want to hang out alone. remove him from your life plain and simple. Im sure you will see him from time to time and in that case ignoring him is the right thing to do, acting like he does not exist it kind of what I am getting at.

Here is the thing, at some point you will have to do something, at some point he will drive a wedge between you and your gf, or cross a line.

An alpha male realizes when someone is not good for the "pack" he is trying to push you out of the picture, if he says these things to your face, who knows what he says to your gf when you are not around. Do you really want this kind of guy in your life? from what you have told us I am guessing not?

Being passive is not always the best course of action, there are a lot of amog tactics all over the internet that you can use! I would suggest studying up on how to verbally defend your self....other then that like I said don't hang around him he sounds like an insecure douch!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uLhEAFk7CA8

there are hundreds more but this is a good example.

I would not recommend plain and simple saying "either me or the douchebag". if the guy friend has been around the block for very long, and you the BF are the newcomer, it comes with high risk (pretty much you have to be ready to walk away, or be walked all over).
a girl will be reluctant to let go of her good friend providing validation and safety for a new boyfriend who might well be gone tomorrow. even if she did comply, she might either start resenting you, or decide to keep in touch behind your back. it would be even worse.
what I would recommend is very clearly drawing a boundary. i.e. "I do not like your friend because he does A B and C which I dislike. you are free to be friends with him, and I will be a nice person to him when he happens to be around. but I would rather see as little of him as possible, and if he tries to push my boundary in any way I expect you to stand by me, or I will kick your ass to the curb"

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Big ups on the replies fam!

This guy is a joke and I honestly have no worries about him taking my girl away from me, his threat level is an absolute zero at the moment so that part I'm certain about...

My main problem was that he made all these dumb comments all the time.

To my advantage, they have stopped completely!!! I don't know what I did or what happened but that vibe is gone...

But what did happen is that I acted unphased by his comments and I think my girlfriends visible disapproval of them might have prompted him to stop or atleast lay low for a while.

As I said before, I am not worried about him destroying our relationship, he does not have that in him especially with a girl like mine... I just don't see it happening!

At the moment I see him as an orbiter and every girl has those. So I have limited the amount of time he spends with US. I make him feel uncomfortable and my girlfriend is doing the same *High Five for her*

I agree, in future I should let the things that bother me be known but my main problem was DHVing him by doing that.

About the Amogging, I am not a fan and have never been one. I guess it's different strokes for different folks.

Thanks once again...

http://www.pualingo.com/pua-definitions/orbiter/

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lol, you amog'ed him without amog'ing him.

impressive!

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man i cant explain how many kids ive dealt with like that, whther they are random guys or ex boyfriends or whatever. pull him aside when you get a chance and lay the law down. "me and miss-m are together, i love her, she is my girlfriend and i understand you and her are friends, but you cant continue this shit, youre out of bounds/treading in my territory. i dont want to have a problem with you but youre creating one" kind of shit. your girlfriend will understand, and make sure you tell her what you told him before he does. that snitch is gonna twist your words and women are crazy so it wont be easy to fix that if some prick like him decides to tell her you said youd drop kick his bitch ass if he didnt get the fuck out of her life, you know? be cool.