She's greek (from greece) and her name on there is some greek godess ..anyway this is what I said:

Me: hey, I'd remove that picture on your profile.... (she was posing like a model)
Her: *raises eye brow*
Me: Yeah...i'll admit it's good (if it's real) but it looks like it came out of a modeling magazine. You're probably getting messages left and right as a result so I'd use a different one unless you're just one of those girls who like all the attention. In which case you're not my type

You don't look Greek by the way...I would have never guessed.

Her: oh funny I don't remember asking how greek I look, or advice about my pictures
Her: what exactly does a greek person look like...I bet I have a much better idea than you do.


Any ideas?

No shit test there, more sounds like you insulted her and she replied back with anything a bitch shield.

this is a dating website, and you have pretty much absolutely no investment from this girl at all, she has nothing to lose by blowing you off, so threatening her with you going away is probably not the best strategy at this point

now, have your comments been authentic, or were you just blowing shit out of your ass in the hopes for approval?

cause this is where approval seeking will fuck you, if you had been honest with everything you had said up until this point, you would be able to answer her in an honest way and assert your frame, she picked on the greek comment cause it seems incongruent (or at least it does to me), and the remove the picture thing obviously irritated her and got her attention

the idea I have for you is to re-frame this interaction, and stop saying weird shit that isn't true in the hopes of a positive response, stick with the productive aspects of your frame, disreguard her emotional garbage

''you must be seeing 100s of new messages all the time with that profile, it must be so hard to weed through all that for guys that are actually genuinely interested, I know with out narrowing down specifics it is tough to filter out a girl who isn't fake, greek people tend to have a nice olive complextion with european features, lol you better know what a greek person looks like, considering you probably know quite a few greek people, you look more exotic to me then european, (now fucking change the subject, what you want to talk about is up to you, but if you linger on this, there is probably no fucking chance, pick a place to lead to, if you end this without something else for her to grab on to, you are putting the leadership of this interaction in her court, and judging by her deminor she will not play ball)

GOOD LUCK

Thanks guys, I'll give it a shot. I usually just say I was joking with my second message but I decided to try something different and see where it would go. I got some response out of her though although not positive.

If I said "nah I was joking, I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi" She probably would have blown me off since she get's so many messages from guys. So I tried to be more challenging but probably was too negative unintentionally.

How should I approach a HB 10 next time?

"You must be seeing hundreds of new messages all the time with that profile, so it must be so hard to weed through all that for guys who are actually genuinely interested in you as a person. I know for me (without narrowing down specifics) that it is tough to filter out a girl who isn't fake or just seeking attention.

LOL you better know what a greek person looks like, considering you probably know quite a few greek people. Greek people tend to have a nice olive complextion with some European and Middle Eastern features. Everybody is different though. I have a friend who is half Greek and she looks half Indian. You look more exotic to me than European.



If you could go anywhere in the world..... or do anything tomorrow ....and money wasn't a factor...where would you go and why?"


This is what I sent. We'll see what happens I guess.

That's what you should have said instead. You already got her to reply you have her attention.
Like any other girl. FYI, girls online in general are bound to get a lot messages from guys even the average looking ones.