| Day 7 - Does it count? and Fishing with dynamite
Ok I'm finally back on track with this challenge thing after realizing that I need it more than ever, my game is at a weird-ass place but more on that later.
Anwyay the last week has been hectic. I've been chatting up this HB9 holiday crush who's currently ending her LTR, the chemistry is there but it's complicated as these things always are, messing up my focus completely, she's worth it though.
But back to the story. My day 7 challenge is pretty simple yet for some reason caused me tremendous problems getting it done. The material for the day contained lots of info on openers, mainly opinion-openers, and the challenge is simply to come up with a few opinion-openers and then test them on 3 different girls (or groups including girls). The guide emphasized that you should think of something you'd like to know more about or just pick something you'd usually google and then ask people about it instead, in order for the opener to be congruent.
When I first read my Day 7 I thought I'd just ask girls what they think is the coolest place for someone to have a tattoo. I think it's good but it became very clear to me that my daygame is severely limited by fear of anything that's not an "ordinary" question, "what time is it? You know a coffee shop?" etc, boring stuff like that.
Anyway the challenge stated that I could open anywhere I wanted, in the street, in the mall, a café, a bar anything. To me, it just feels like "cheating" to do it in a bar (aka nightgame) because it's SO much easier for me, completely within my comfort zone, probably due to years of bartending and being very comfortable in the nightlife. Point is, I did tons of opening this weekend, as I'll outline below, I just don't feel like it counts because daygame is where I really feel limited to the extreme. Any thoughts on this would be greatly appeciated..
Friday night - 4+ openers & 1# close
So Friday night I went out with a bunch of guys. We started cruising down a popular street hitting a few different bars for a single beer or two to check out the crowd. Around 11pm we ended up at a bar we frequently have a good time at and we quickly got settled at a table. I know, there a tons of things to this night-out that was not gaming-efficient, but believe it or not, gaming actually wasn't the priority tonight. Either way, 15 min later 5 "girls" sit down next to us, and I say "girls" because these we're Cougars! 40+ all of them, fun talking to but not something my thing (:. I don't know how we got rid of them but an hour later they we're replaced by 4 other girls HB7&8's. I had a good flirt with one of them but it was obvious that she was a real tease and I get lazy fast so I let her go.
Anyway I came up with this other opener on the fly. This girl had been texting me during the evening that we should grab a beer and meet up (the wording made it pretty obvious that she was looking for more than a beer), so I sat down with two girls sitting in a group and told them I need a girl's perspective.
Me: Hi, I could really need a girl's perspective on this, help me out
Reach for my phone and open up the grab-a-beer convo
Girls: sure/ok/nods
Me: I have this friend who I've known since I was 6, our families know eachother, but tonight she started sending me these texts that I'm not sure what I should read in to.. what do you guys think?
Hands them the phone
The girls read the texts and pretty much all of them tell me that my friend is definently in it for more. Depending on how talkative/attractive the girls we're, I'd follow up asking about what they think I should do, what should I text her, what would you do. I did this with 4-5 different groups of girls and I didn't get a single bad response. I didn't transition into anything more with any of them 1) BF-girl is killing my focus/motivation, 2) I hadn't really "planned" ahead of getting their opinion so I pretty much auto-ejected afterwards.
At the end of the night I'm stading outside saying goodbye to a group of friends (girls) we'd meet inside when I spot these two girls standing close by, one blonde one brunette. As i'm about to leave I walk up to them and go:
Me @ brunette: Hi, I'm about to take of but I justed noticed that you're really cute and I'd like to get to know you. Give me your number, we'll go out for coffee next week (:
Both girls giggle and laugh
Brunette: Sure, ok. takes my phone, puts down her number
Sidenote: I texted her 20 min later saying it was nice to meet her. Positive response. I texted her again on Saturday telling her to let me know if she was going out, otherwise we should hook up next week. Positive response. Finally I texted her yesterday i told her to come by for a cup of coffee tomorrow (today), she agreed.
I yellowpaged&googled&facebook stalked her today, turns out what looked like an HB7 was actually a 5-6 (fucking beer googles). Date cancelled.
Saturday night - Most surreal experience so far
This night was completely surreal. My best friend was coming home from abroad later tonight so around 9pm I was just going about my appartment, turning up the music, cleaning up and getting ready for the night. We live on the first floor so when I opened the balcony door I notice there's a group of people having a BBQ in the yard. I don't think much of it but about 10 min later my door-telephone rings:
Me: Hello?
Girls voice: Hi! Are you the guy walking around with no shirt on?
Me: Yes (: Score
Girls: Can I come up? (:
Me: sure
I buzz her in and this cute blond HB8 arrives. She tells me that they're a group of girls who's been watching me and they weren't sure if I was aware that they could see me through the windows (of course I was). She then asks if she can just have 8 random digits on a piece of paper so she can win a bet about getting my number and I tell her I'll give her my real number if she'll give me hers. She agrees and we quickly exchange info. Long story short, I invite her to stay for a cup of coffee, she invites her other friends up for a cup of coffee (I make killer coffee), and I have coffee with 4 random girls in my appartment at 10pm. We talk about going out tonight and meeting up later, I get 3 numbers and meet them later.
Getting back to the Challenge
Technically I completed day 7 by opening 3+ groups of girls, only this just seems to easy at night time. My game is messed up, it's obvious that my major sticking point is day-game opening, and this is a MAJOR sticking point. Transistioning is probably another one. However once I have opened, convo just comes easy to me. Anyway, I think I'll take my day 7 win, though it was a cheap one. I figure if I make it through the entire challenge I can always do it again and next time rule out night game.
Comments and feedback are always appreciated!
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