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I don't have any trouble escalating sexually in these text convos, but I'm fumbling in one way or another, since I'm not eliciting responses. Suggestions?
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Convo 1
Me: I'm luring women to a secret lair with candy. Do you prefer Godiva or See's?
HB: Secret lair huh? See's of course. [Forgetful of me--she's a big See's fan.] I firmly believe that Mary See was a naughty woman who had more secrets than yummy chocolate recipes!
Me: That innocent picture hides a lascivious imagination, I don't doubt. [Assuming everyone knows what Mary See's picture on the candy boxes looks like.] Secret recipes worth sampling . . .
HB: [no response]
how did you fumble here? wtf was she supposed to answer to what you wrote? ''agreed''? you yourself didn't even have to say anything after she responded to your first message, you already had her
basically the rundown was
you: I want you to come over for sex, I'll use choclates what do you like?
her: ok, I love chocolates im down, chocolates make me horny!
you: chocolates make you horny hey
like why was chocolates make you horny hey, even nessicary? you had her at hello, just arrange the logistics when she is down, don't beat a dead horse
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Convo 2
Me: Are you causing more trouble for our dedicated, selfless international civil servants? [She's a manager at an international org.]
HB: Depends on your definition of trouble. Actually, I am preparing a presentation for tomorrow to a group of university students who want to work for [ORG]. I suppose the advice "run away before we take your soul" would not be well received.
Me: I think that, if you said something so scandalous, very firm discipline would be in order. [She's a spanking fan.]
HB: Firm? Tempting. Depends on who will do the disciplining of course.
Me: I'd start with the kind of spanking you'd clearly deserve.
Me: The vigorous kind, that is.
HB: [No response]
the thing is dude, you are reaction seeking here, like wtf do you want these girls to say?, you build up for the big zinger, and it doesn't even prompt a response from them, you are not leading them in a direction, you are just stopping abruptly with a TAADAA, what now? sort of zinger, lets consider what ASD is, anti slut defense is something that comes up when a women feels the potential to be judged sexually, now how can she answer this without feeling responsible and slutty, like what would she even say to this?
''I'd start with the kind of spanking you'd clearly deserve''
''the vigorous kind, that is''
her: oh please do
like what can she even say here, what were you expecting? this is like the equivilent of
you: are you causing trouble
her: maybe
you: oh if you are, you'll get punished
her: oh ya, who will punish me?
you: oh girl im gonna spank you so hard
like how does that prompt a response, your thread is just closed off and sexual, its such an out of no where statement, and it doesnt lead her as to what sort of response you want at all, it reminds me of a drum roll that just ends in TAADAAA and then the drummer who jumped out and said TAADAAA is woundering why the crowd didnt all scream taadaaa in unison in return
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In each case, I feel like I'm evoking interest--and then dousing it. Thoughts?
nah, chances are if you had the interest to begin with, it isn't going away, it is still there, but you are expecting too much from these girls, and leaving them off with weird ass threads that force them to take responsibility for their own sexuality, they will simply get off on what you want, not on showing you what they want, this will make them feel insecure over the potential of being judged unless you pre-emtively lower the asd
you just have to stop leaving them with these zingers over text
CHAT