Ok this update is quiker than expected but here it is

Its midnight here and i just got a SPAM from her basically saying:

GF: But uhm, i think its better if we have a talk tomorrow instead of going for a swim
Me: Oh whats wrong?
GF: I just need to get something off my chest
GF: But i dont know if swimming and talking go together so you decide
Me: If you want something off your chest then we'll meet up for that, afterwards we'll see if we want to go for a swim or not
GF: Ok good

Im not sure if i handled this well she kind of suprised me with all of this, think this might be a break up? Ill update tomorrow

if I were you I would get ready for a breakup. lots of advice here on how to handle it properly.
sorry about it man.

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nice guys don't get laid
"It's disrespectful not to bang them when they sleepover." (Hellhound)

See how a woman's word is nothing but a lie and if it's not a lie she said it because it felt good at the time, ( good emotions ) Now that she changed her emotions she does not give a shit anymore about what she said previously so for god sake NEVER EVER LISTEN TO WHAT A GIRL SAYS BUT ONLY LOOK AT HER ACTIONS!! This does not only apply to you though, its also for other guys who still don't get the picture about girls and their words.


99% you are going to get the break-up talk, act mature and as if its no big deal. Tell her you love her and if this is what she wants you accept her decision, wish her all the best and tell her you can't stay friends. Leave in a mature way after this, don't show emotion, man up!

The reason you can't stay friends is for your own good to get over her and also to make her miss you and potentially get her back when you become a better man. Also when you remain friends this will only benefit her to get over the break-up as she still gets the attention she wants but she is free to fuck whoever she wants, win-win. The moment she finds another dude she will drop you like a brick and your left standing with empty hands.

Never look on her Facebook/twitter/etc, delete her number from whats-app and do not got to places where she could be.

Work on yourself and meet up with girls, read some good threads here and you will become so much better at relationships!

If you break-up don't go swimming please.. make a backup plan already with a good friend so you got stuff to do after the "talk".

Take care bro and let us know how everything went!

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I just got a text from her

GF: I can't meet up with you today, i'm sorry
Me: Why?
GF: My parents, my sister and me are going to a tattoo place to get my sisters first tattoo, and afterwards we are going to the beach for dinner.
Me: Oh cool!
GF: You think?
Me: Yes
Me: And the weather is nice so the beach must be really fun
GF: Im only going to see if its scary (the tattoo)
GF: Yeah sure must be fun
Me: Anyway, i don't like it if something's bothering you so i would like to know what you had to say some other time
GF: Yea thats good!


I acted like i didn't care that she couldn't meet up, i have lots of other stuff to do right?

My gut feeling says she isn't going to break up with me, however i might me wrong, we will find out soon though.

If ur gf says she sees u as a friend can the relationship be salvaged?
my gf of one year is telling me that she sees me as more of a friend now the romantic feelings went away but not entirely. she broke up with me.She said she has to figure her life out and has a lot of stress. Also I insinuated that I wouldnt be her friend ( b/c thats beta, i have too much self-respect) and she said that theres a chance of us being together when she figures out her feelings.

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No problem holmes!

She just asked me out to go to the club tomorrow together with her friends (note: we haven't talked yet about what she wanted to discuss) So i am 99% sure she's not going to break up with me, i have a high suspicion that she doesn't like me being distant lately and wants to talk about that.

Any advice? Should I do exactly what OP is being told to do?

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No problem holmes!

Ok i really need some advice on what happened yesterday!

AS i said she invited me over to the club and i went with some buddies of mine, when i got there i gave her a kiss and proceeded to just hang out with my buddies, she never came to me whatsover and just had fun with her friends, fine.

She was up on a table dancing with her gay friend all time, fine.

Then at the end when we were all going home the following happened: (note: The gay friend lives 30 min away and was with the bike)

Gay: blablabala 30 min to bike home
GF: If you want you can sleep at mine
Gay: Nah that's ok
GF: Its ok, you can sleep at mine, and otherwise in the barn or garden house!
Gay: No but thanks!

Now i was a little drunk but i was with a friend who was sober and he told me that this is the conversation they had,

So i went with her to her house with the bike to make sure she got home safe (its a long dark 20 min road she had to go on her own otherwise, i dont like that) and while we were biking she said something about the gay sleeping at hers, but she lied to me appareantly.. she said "he wanted to sleep but i didn't want him to".

I am really not sure what to think of this, should i worry about this or not? Yes he is gay but he is still another man that she invites to sleep at her, maybe even in her bed? And then she lied to me about the conversation they had.

Also she still hasn't told me the think she wanted to "get off her chest"...

Flake dude..
1. get a hot moma!
2. get her to see u wit hot moma
3. say hi to her and introduce hot moma as co-worker
4. let the magic do it's thing

women lie.

for a plethora of reasons.

i would just say: well, unfortunately, that's not how the conversation happened because i heard what was said and i don't appreciate the fact that you now feel compelled to lie to me about it. you should know i don't like liars. i don't really care about your motive or reasoning, the fact of the matter is you have chosen to deceive me and i don't accept that.

then i would dump her ass.

but, i'm a prick.

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Great information. I also have a serious problem with my girlfriend. We live together. The last several months, things have been going very bad. Out of no where, she tells me it doesn't feel like we're lovers, it feels like we're roommates. That was a huge blow to me as a man. My confident nearly shattered. Before she told me that, I noticed things had been changing a lot.

There's hardly any physical contact. She doesn't respond back when I touch her. I try to have sex with her and she pushes me away. She says "I'm not in the mood. I don't want this right now." After telling me it feels like we're roommates, everything she does and respond to my approach seem less caring and no thought put into it. But she does these random things sometimes.

She tells me she loves me a lot. Ask me to never leave her. Pushes me to marry her asap. All these things she says, makes me think otherwise. Maybe she doesn't do much because of how she was raised and brought up. That could possible bring her up to show affection differently but still that's no excuse, I think, if she ever wants to be involve in a normal loving relationship with anyone.

Yet, after reading all these advice around the community, I'm starting to see where I stand. I sound like a beta male trying to make up excuses for her. She tells me these things but her actions contradict what she says. So I fully understand your situation. You're not alone in this, man.

How long should I expect her to turn around if I go out more often and enjoy my time without thinking about her? We also have a child together who is a little over 2 years old (does this make her feel obligated to stay with me a little longer before she finds someone else?). Do I just leave my baby girl with her? and go out? Then when I come back, spend quality time with them? Thanks.

I don't mean to hijack this thread but does me asking for advice here relevant to this topic other than the difference being me have a child...?