Hey I've been doing some research and I realise there alot of people out there who believe that they are introverts; they are not socially handicapped but people who gain energy from solitude. They feel tired after prolonged periods of socialising. Can anyone here relate to these effects?

I was wondering if any of the now sucessful PUAs ever felt they were introverts and sufferred from all the cons of being one, and how they got through it. I can easily approach girls now and get #'s etc, but being the life of the party is exhausting to me. I constantly have to act the part of an extrovert..is this something I can bulldoze through or do I just accept introversion and use elements of PUA that work for me?

I can absolutely relate.

Whenever I take the"centre stage" in a group I kinda have to act so much. I have gotten better at it for sure, but it does take its toll on the energy levels. I use bathrooms to regain stuff. Or Tequila :S

But yes, it has gotten easier in a way, but more due to now I know more what is going to happen next and such. Surrounded by a lot of people and playing with them is not an energy booster. But maybe it's just a limiting belief thing?

There are people who "suck" energy out of people and interactions (energy vampires) and there are others who gain energy from solitude. Some can do BOTH. Those are the rlly experienced ones.

I used to be a HUGE Introvert. Didn't like socializing and mostly stayed by myself. I was a loner until I got into High School and I didn't get really social until my junior year.

To this day I'm still somewhat private and secretive, but I'm very good at socializing and putting myself out there when I need to or want to. PUA actually helped me overcome a lot of my shyness because it teaches a lot of psychology.

The big changing point for me was having a college roommate who was a PUA. I would hang out with him and watch him fearlessly approach girls and get results. Its one thing to read about it, but when you see it happen in real life it changes your perspective and understanding. I finally realized that girls love the attention and nothing bad will happen by approaching them.

Becoming a good PUA has been a process for me that really took over 10 years of reading, observation and experimentation. Now in my late 20's I'm very good, but only because I kept pushing myself to get better.

The only death sentence in PUA is giving up or not trying.

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A pretty big introvert as well. If I had not joined a fraternity I believe 100% I would still have a very small group of friends and no girls around me. Since I joined I've seen other guys in action and there's always parties I can go to with girls, someone's I choose not to drink if I'm already exhausted from being around so many people.

I'm very social with people I've met before, I just have a hard time wanting to start a conversation with someone I don't know.

I'm an introvert also, Although I always wanted to be one of cools guys and hang out with the in crowed but just could never manage it because I was so quiet and socially inept.

I don't mind being in company with strangers although I get a bit of anxiety when first meeting them...I don't try to be the life and sole of the party but rather the socially comfortable alpha male who isn't afraid to speak his mind.

I find the only disadvantage to being an introvert is that I have terrible AA. Once the ice is broken IM fine but the actual approach is a nightmare...sometimes I can push through it sometimes I cant.

The good thing about being an introvert is that you will be a deep learner and probably study and learn this stuff to much greater degree than an extrovert who would get board.

Quite literally there are foods to help you sustain prolonged energy without that "rest" period alone.
Balance your carbs/proteins/fatty acids and you'll be fine dude. And also "The life of the party" can't be the life of everything all the time.

Not to mention I would rather be the spark than someone that can only be psyched around other psyched people.

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