Ok, so im going to a dance with this girl, and she refers to me as clyde, so i stupidly referred to her as bonnie.

yeah, so that pretty much sealed the deal and now she thinks im all into her, i dont want a relationship with her becuase of the stress it adds to the whole situation with my dad having a heart attack, school, and work.

shes not that attractive, but shes got a decent body, and she rambles on her periods, and is sending me shit its like

fucking axe murder her right now

i dont want to be a huge dick and dump her like straight up, i'll see how it goes but she thinks we're fucking soulmates

so i have come to consult the gods

what shall i do oh great ones?

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Be direct. Say something like..

Look, I think you're getting way ahead of yourself. We've gone to a dance and you have us walking down the aisle.
Don't get me wrong, if that's where this ends up eventually, that's great, but this needs to go at a pace we're both comfortable with, or not at all. It wouldn't be fair to either of us.

Annnnd that's my jedi mindtrick for today. From this frame, any forward pressure she applies that you don't reciprocate is viewed as negative, coming from a place of immaturity, selfishness, and disrespect. Same thing applies if you say you need space or to back things up and she doesn't comply.

If she tries to attack the frame, you get an easy out by saying "I'm not going to be a part of anything where my needs aren't being respected.", again reinforcing the perspective that she's applying negative pressure, and you're standing your ground.

I'm not really clear what the problem is. She likes you. So what? She's your orbiter. Don't sleep with her and go hit on other girls. Problem solved. Just because somebody likes you doesn't mean you are obligated to return those feelings.

-Wolf

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Dude, if you don't wanna date her then don't do it... So what if she is crazy about you, let her indulge in her own madness and fantasies!

You have no agreement with her whatsoever judging by your post so that should be it...

I had the same situation a few months back with a girl that's been into me for the past 2 years... Because I entertained her little advances she went around telling everyone that we are dating and this even went as far as putting my newly found relationship in jeopardy.

So I told her straight up that there was no way in hell I was gonna be able to return the love she gives me and she should therefore invest it in someone else who will not only appreciate but also nurture it...

She threw a bitch fit about how she wasn't even interested but ironically sent an SMS to her cousin (who is a former fuck buddy of mine) that she feels like she just lost her world! Crazy isn't it?

The earlier you extinguish her flames of love, the better!

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Aint no other option... The Best or Nothing!

I like the sound of this guys. I really appreciate the advice, thank you.

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