Hey I have been talking with a girl via FB and we have been sending each other long offline messages which we respond to whenever we get back on. They are pretty long and both of us send long messages. I usually ask a few more questions than she does, but her messages seem to be a bit longer. I was wondering what to look for in terms of IOIs, like our messages are both really long (probs 3/4 of a page on Word) and like I said hers are usually a bit longer, but only asks a couple questions. The convo seems to be going a long great and we tell some stories and stuff and its not self-centered or anything. We're going to the same college- should I say text me or ask her number or just run into her (hopefully)?

Why don't you paste some of your convo here?

I'll pm it to you if you want (thatd be great if you wanna help)

Either way though, any basic iois to look for?

I sent her a message today and it was decent imho, kind of did some DHV I think and asked her questions while talking about myself so it was a decent mix of getting to know me and me trying to know her. Anyway, I want to go out with her and stuff, but I don't know her enough yet to start hitting hard IMHO. Like I don't want to be the kid who everyone thinks is the FB group stalker trying to hit on broads you know?

Any suggestions on what to say to indicate interest but not be creepy (like being that creepy kid would kill my rep from day 1) and then any suggestions on what to do during the first few weeks with her? Like for new student week we'll be in the same group of like 1k people or so for events, so maybe sit near her (if i can find her) for some presentations and then ask her out/hang out with her one night?

Just make up some plans and mention them in conversation. If she responds, say you've got room for one more, but she's gotta pay her own way. Just remember, it's your frame, and you're letting her in. Freddy Kruger, sans burns and homicidal nature.

Thanks. I brought up parties that the group I'm in throws- she was kinda wondering why I'd join it if it took so much time and I jokingly said the great parties they throw. Maybe if she talks about it I can invite her or something

in the past (mainly with online chat) when the convo is at it's peak i cut it there and say hey got to go add BS excue (e.g. work - you could say lecture) and say lets grab coffee...im sure you can spin it to work for offline... she must ahve mentioned a bunch of stuff you can use for a real world meet.

because they are enjoying the interaction it's a easy hoop for them to jump through... then grab a phone number and badabing-badaboom you are on a stealth date.

now this does assume some prior face time... which im assuming you've had as you are both at college together...

rmbr FB is new it was once normal to do everything face to face...
don't wait to bump into her, i made that mistake once.. failed misreably.

Thanks. I haven't met her yet (going to college in the fall) she just posted on the fb group that she wanted to send something out to people and she looked decent so I hit it up and now we are sending long messages back and forth and usually the other person is offline so I can't really cut it off like that (I usually do that though) but I do take a few days to respond so it looks like I have better stuff to do/keep her wondering.

Anyway, I think she leaves for college this weekend (shes driving across the country) so any suggestion on what to say then? Be like I'll see ya there so it doesnt come across as creepy but runs the risk of not seeing her or be like ya ill be around (adjacent dorms) talk to you then or maybe even try and set somethin up?

Ahh ok i get your situation... I've not dealt with it before... But I'd be inclined to go for broke...
Rmbr you are starting college and if i were you (and from my 4years of uni in the UK) a relationship is not what you want.. a sexual relationship is what you want... so id start playuing the online FB chat up line in the run up.. shit like:

congrats - let her reply - i thought of you - transition based on her reply... or the knock knock gags listed on here.

if there is a party happening mention grabbing a beer or something before hand or at it... i don;'t know the states and your social dynamics but yeh i'd start uping the anti... don't get stuck in friendzone... so sexual tension before you meet will be helpful...