I have some general questions that I need help with guys.

What do you do about a girl who doesn't admit having a boyfriend when people ask her but doesn't mind showing affection in public to an extent like kiss and hold hands .

What do you do about the fear of losing your girlfriend because that is essentially eating up my confidence. ( important thing to look at, she has so
much options including ex's that still love her)

What do you do if a girl just want to chill with boyfriend at home and doesn't really like going anywhere else?

How do I assure myself that this girl loves me as much as I do ( because she does I just can't make myself believe that)

Lastly how do you stop to focus on what she is doing and start focusing on what am doing. Like the need to want to check her Facebook, twitter or text

First off how do you know she does not tell people you are together? just curious?

If this is the case then it is likely because her interest level is some what low and she wants to give the impression to other guys that she is still available, its kind of like the saying "out of sight our of mind" women often will purposely neglect to mention things that do not benefit them in certain situations. If she is talking to a guy who she see's as a potential mate it would not benefit her to mention she has a bf, even if he knows she has a bf if she does not bring him up it usually is a sign that she she is into him and most guys would take that as a green light and hit on her. If her interest level is high (90% and up) she will tell everyone you are her bf!! she will make it very clear that you are the only man in her life! So yes it something to be concerned about, however If she crosses a line boot her ass to the curb! there are 4 billion women in the world and if she cheat you can always find another!

If you know for a fact that she does not tell people that you are in a relationship I would come right out and ask her why she does this? If it is not fact, then I wouldn't because it will only make you look weak and really you have no grounds on which to believe she doesn't tell people.

I think however you do need to sit and talk to her about where she see's the relationship going and if you are both not on the same page break up with her....why stay with someone who will either cheat, or does not want anything serious?

As for you worrying about her leaving you that is an inner game issue, you need to realize that although you love her she is not the only women in the world and you can get other women...why worry your self to death over it? what good will that do you? If you fill your life with positive things, if you have a passion and a hobby, If you keep in good physical shape, and if you have a positive out look on life then you will attract other women, which believe me your gf will realize! On the other hand if you make her the only thing in your life, you let her consume your hobbies and interests, if you let your self go and get fat, and if you are a depressing and negative person who gives off an un confident energy she will see that you are a low value man that women don't want.

My advice is to start focusing more on your self and less on her! Go to the gym and work out, get in great shape! hang out with your friends from time to time, focus on your career, and start reading books about positive thinking and the effect it can have on you life, you do this and you will become more attractive to not only your girlfriend but all the people around you! people will be drawn to you!

I would also push away from your gf slightly, don't be mean to her but just spend a little less time with her, make other plans, if she is not treating you well then you should not reward her for it....go do your own thing and let her miss you a little bit.

Great advice Dark.

From my perspective. If you think something is wrong, it is. Judging by you're situation mentioned above (I've been in similair) to later find out she was ENGAGED! There are already many red flags, I would keep my eyes open for other red flags as well as tighten up your inner game and start exploring other options.

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Thank You for the advice.

The thing is we both know we want to be in each others life for the longest. We are young now, both seniors in high school. I understand I need to fix my inner game but I just cannot be interested in anything else but her which could drive her away..

We see each other 7 hours a day & call at nigh, but she gets texts from guys whom she doesn't tell she has bf that would hit on her. One reason she says she doesn't want anyone to know its cause of her sister that raised her that doesn't want her to have a bf. but I don't know I have this girl but I just always feel like we not together...

Any books you recommend btw.