I opened on this girl who will be attending the same college as me and we've been talking back and forth since via fb. I purposely slow the convo (we send decent sized offline messages most of the time) so we dont get into a FZ before college starts (in a few weeks). Anyway, we send decent sized messages and I don't think she doesn't like me as she probably wouldn't be sending these messages if she had absolutely no interest in me (right? haha they def could be a lot shorter, so I think at the very we're friends), but because we are talking online and I don't wanna be a creeper, I haven't made the convo sexual at all because I don't feel like we've talked enough to have a comfort level there and the opportunity hasn't arisen yet. I don't wanna fall in the FZ, so any suggestions on how to go about my convo for the next few days before college starts?[/b]

I've been there.

Don't worry about the size of your emails back and fourth. If you are both sending the same size messages to each other that is a good sign of a "like" on both parts.

However, nothing really matters what you have emailed once you meet regularly in person. All the emails in the world won't mean shit if one of you is not attracted to the other in person.

The biggest thing you need to keep in mind is to NOT have any expectations about when school starts. If you let yourself get fixated on that one girl then you will give off a needy vibe when you meet her even if you don't intend to, or even know you are doing it.

I have been in the situation on both sides where I've spent a great deal of time emailing a girl back and fourth over some time only to meet her, hang out for a time and realize she isn't as cool as I originally thought she was — and on the OTHER side where I was fixated on her after meeting her. Either way, once that in person interaction goes down nothing you said via text or email will matter — other than to give you a basis for more conversation.

Alright thanks! Ya I talked with another girl and she was nice and we sent really long messages back and forth and she was clearly really into me, but I felt like that got a bit friendzony/wasn't sure if she was interested in me so I've kept her as a friend occasionally talking to her (we're actually really close now but its w/e) but I started talking with this other girl (I hate to comment on those FB College groups but perfect opportunity arose and then we started messaging each other) and now we've each sent a few messages starting at the end of May but its worked out nicely where I don't think I've FZed her yet because we haven't talked every day.

Anyway, she's in the adjacent dorm to me, so I'll probably see her sometime but with these convos hopefully we'll meet up. Any advice on how to go about the convo in the next few days- we still aren't really close but there is a decent amount of comfort

Just invite her out to something low key if you don't want it to sound like a "date" as in "Hey, my friends and I are going to ______ why don't you gather your friends and meet us..." or something along those lines.

Otherwise just ask her out for drinks, coffee, lunch, or whatever.

I usually avoid going "all out" on a "date" when I first meet a girl or am trying to get to know her. I have a standard multi-venue neighborhood I use all the time as a screening ground where I can ditch her after a few drinks if there is no attraction — or if there IS attraction we just may end up at "fingerbang point" (a secret spot with a nice view) etc.

But without having a resource such as a neighborhood which lends itself to such a night — stick to low key.

Almost EVERY single time I take a girl I hardly know on some expensive date — it almost NEVER results in going out with the girl again. I cannot say THAT is the sole reason — but frankly the dates I have with women that tend to go the farthest, F-Close, etc. are the ones where it is very low key to start.

Meet at the coffee shop — maybe go out for a bite to eat — grab drinks — start easy, build, if you like her — multi-venue her and build that comfort — then take her to fingerbang point and see if you can unlock her chastity belt HAHAHA.

Making the conversation sexual comes in many forms! Teasing her conveys that you are flirting (which is sexual).

You don't have to say "I want to bend you over the chair and Bang you" to be sexual!

Just saying..."Your ass looks 17% better in those shorts!" will turn her thoughts sexual (subconsiously)...She will key on the 17% and will not even pay attention to you checking out her ass. When she says "only 17%?" Just say "yeah...I was gonna give you 18% but blue is not really your color"

This is called teasing/flirting! She may shit test you, DO NOT Apologize for your comment! Laugh it off.


Peace...

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Thanks so much everyone. I called some other girl from my college the c word joking around (it actually worked in context and the way we talk- she called me a slur) and she made me feel wicked bad and I apologized- maybe I shouldn't have done that.

Anyway, with this current girl, should I be like see ya around (her dorm is next to mine, but then again, my school is like 7k undergrads) or be like text me and well meet up. I'll prolly invite her to some parties (as of now I'm on a sports team so hopefully we'll throw ragers) and maybe once I meet her ask out her for ice cream or something (btw- any hints for asking a girl out to make it seem like a date and not a friendly outting- like hey wanna go out and get some ice cream sounds kinda vague and easily misinterpreted but saying date makes it seem kids straightforward/formal or even pushy)

Anyone?

What you need to do is stop "THINKING" and start acting! You may fail, but you are failing to even try right now!

When a girl calls me a name, like "Asshole" I simply reply "I know right!?" and smile...Then redirect the conversation to another topic.

Stop thinking about getting this girl, and just talk to her.


Peace...

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All girl's are Freaks...It is your job to bring it out in them! - Crypto

You need to stop bending over and letting her ass fuck your brain! - Heywood