Friday August 03, 2012
I went to the mall and played the “GO” game with another member of the community. The mall was fairly empty and I only managed to do three approaches. The first one I went direct with something like “Hey this is random, but I think your adorable I have to meet you. Hi I'm Smooth.” We fluff talked for a bit and then her sister came over which made the approach a little difficult. When her phone began to ring and she answered, I knew the set was over and ejected by hugging them both good-bye. The second approach was an older married woman. I just asked her for directions since the “GO” game requires that I approach. The third approach was a girl entering a unisex clothing store as I was exiting. I managed to go direct and began fluff talk. I negged her a bit and built some rapport. I did not qualify as much as I should have, but I did some light touching on her arm for kino. My body language was respectable, but I caught myself folding my arms a few times, which is something I would like to permanently avoid. I eventually noticed the conversation was starting to deteriorate so I asked her for her phone to exchange numbers. I stored my information on her iPhone and sent myself a “hi” text from her phone. I eventually told her lets meet up for a cup of coffee next week and she agreed. I told her I would text her my availability then hugged her and finally ejected. Although not many approaches were done, I managed to make all of the approaches when informed “GO” by my wingman. I am continuing to be a firm believer that approach anxiety is much easier to overcome when a wingman is present.

Sunday August 5, 2012
Went to the mall again today with another member from a pick up artist forum. We played the “GO” game, which has become my new favorite method for disposing of approach anxiety. The mall was crowded, but primarily with high schoolers and families as it's a Sunday. We only stayed for about an hour since my wingman had something to do. I only ended up doing two approaches, which is all he told me to “GO” and do. The first approach I stopped as she was entering a female clothing store. The approach went well and we fluff talked for a bit about school as I made cold reads about her outfit relating to her major and personality. We talked about how nice other parts of the country are. I did some light arm touching, but did not qualify her enough. I told her “lets meet up for a cup of coffee one day this week.” She seemed as though she was in a hurry so I did not attempt an instant date. She complied and gave me her phone to store my information in it, but I forgot to send myself a text to have her number. I think she will likely be a flake since she was unwilling to set up a date with me in person using her availability as an excuse. For the second approach, again I went direct. She was flattered, but the conversation was dull and she kept giving short one word answers. I could tell by her body language and responses that she was not interested. I just gave her a hug and ejected.

Friday August 10, 2012
Today was an entertaining mall day game day for me. I ended up playing the “GO” game with a new member from the community. One approach I made was at a department store and we fluff talked for a bit, but then she dropped the I have a boyfriend line towards the end of the interaction and I could tell she was not very interested. I just gave her a hug and ejected. Another approach I did was to a girl my wing just finished a quick two minute interaction with. He shared that she was just in a hurry and not very amused by him, but he thought it would be cool if I went and approached her anyway. So I went and finally caught up to her about a minute after my wingman approached her. I opened with something like “Hey, my buddy just approached you, but I'd figure I would give it a shot at trying to pick you up.” She found it funny and we fluff talked for a bit, but she did not give off any indicators of interest. I simply gave her my number, a hug, and ejected. Another approach I completed was at a unisex store. I went direct as usual and she was surprised. We talked for a bit, and I touched her and teased her a bit. I gave her my number so she could call my phone, but she did not have any service. This whole idea of giving them my number and having them call or text me on the spot has been running into some interesting complications. I need to develop a better number closing scheme. Anyway she just told me she would text me later. I made other approaches, but nothing really worth noting. The “GO” game has been working well for me and I plan to continue playing this game on a consistent basis to help extinguish my approach anxiety.

Thursday August 26, 2012
I went to the mall to play the “GO” game with another member from the forum. Unfortunately, I actually did not do one approach and lost five dollars. I waited for her to come out the store, but she already saw me meaning approaching her may have creeped her out. There certainly is no excuses, but the first approach is always the hardest. I then later stopped a woman by stepping in front of her, touching her arms, and opening directly. She responded warmly, but informed me that she was in a hurry and ejected. The final approach was a two set in which we ran after and I just opened directly. The conversation went well as we had a lot in common. I did do some good cold reading where I guessed correctly the school they went to and that they were party girls. I did some light arm touching per usual. Kino has just about become natural for me and I find myself doing it constantly. I later caught both of them playing with their hair. I eventually told them that we should party in the city together and they agreed, but I did not set a specific date or time for the event. Finally, I took one of the girl's phone and put my number in it and tried calling my phone, but the call did not go through (meaning I did not get her number). I really have to get better at ensuring I have the girl's number. I am upset that I did not do that one “GO” approach, but I have noticed that my openings are much more natural and the women are responding more warmly to me than numerous months ago.

I later went to the club, but it was not really for gaming as I was suppose to meet up with many of my friends. My only approach was direct and on two european chicks. My wingman and I talked to them for talked a while, but I knew they were not interested and they kept putting down Americans.

Friday August 17, 2012
I stopped at the mall quickly with a friend. I managed to make two approaches. The first one looked young once we were face to face, so following the opener I asked her for her age quickly. She was old enough so we chatted about school and how she wants to be a veterinarian, which lead to a discussion about animals. I was just putting her in her happy place. She kept slowly moving to the side, which to me demonstrated a sign of disinterest. I tried to close anyway, but it did not work. As soon as she ejected I see a gorgeous woman on the phone and make my first legitimate “woman on phone” approach. I opened with “excuse me, is that important or can you call them back?” She warmly responded “It's actually very important, I'm sorry.” It was not as bad as I thought.

Recap:

I would like to continue sarging during the day and eventually go on an instant date. I noticed that I still have an abundance of approach anxiety as I am always passing up opportunities to approach women and more approaches means more opportunities for instant dates and day twos. However, I have been enjoying the experience thus far and plan to keep slowly chipping away at my approach anxiety.

Friday August 24, 2012
I went out to a big city today. I was really concerned with just having fun with friends, but I did approach a few groups of girls and managed to have a nice conversation one girl outside of the club at the end of the night. I opened directly and qualified her a lot. I asked her questions like “what do you do for fun?” and “what were you like in high school?”. I also did some cold reading and kino like I generally do. I number closed and then talked to her for a bit, but I did not set up an exact time and place to see her again.

Saturday August 25, 2012
I managed to go to the mall with a friend and made quite a few approaches. I was impressed with myself in that I was able to do all of the approaches without the “push” from a wingman. I remember for my first approach the girl responded by walking around me hurriedly. For the next approach, I feel that I did what I could. We talked about her school, what she likes to do for fun, and beaches. She was not very interested in me, but she was boring to me anyway which is what really matters anyway. She eventually ejected when the conversation ran dry. I believe the next two approaches were girls that were too young. After the opener I immediately asked for their age and once they told me that they are seventeen, I say “well I hope I made your day” and immediately ejected. One approach I did was to a girl in line at the pretzel place. I shook her hand and commented on her nails. Her body language showed extreme discomfort. I called her out on it and she informed me she had a boyfriend so I just ejected. My final approach was at a unisex store. I open directly and she was shocked and it appeared as though she was trying to leave, but I kept talking to her and she decided to just stay and talk. We talked about the gym (she was wearing gym clothes), what she does for a living, what she does for fun, traveling, and her thoughts about the area we live in. I rewarded her for things she mentioned that were interesting to me. I did not do any kino though. Towards the end of the interaction she mentioned her boyfriend. I just asked her about fashion advice then ejected. I think I need to find some useful boyfriend destroyer routines because I seem to get stuck in my sets when the women mention to me that they have a boyfriend. This chick was cool and she definitely seemed interested and invested in the interaction, but it was a fun day of sarging regardless.

Sunday August 26, 2012
I made my final trip to the beach for the year today. I was suppose to go to NYC to try and day game, but I decided to go with a beach trip instead. However, I do plan to go to NYC very soon. I first approached a two set who was tanning. We talked about school, what they wanted to do for a living, and where they have traveled. They were sisters and I got negative vibes from them. I eventually ejected without attempting to close. The next approach was another tanning two set, but one girl eventually went back to tanning and I talked to the other girl for a long time. I qualified her and teased her. She was a really cool chick and I told her that I would like to see her again, but she tole me “no thank you” so I just ejected. Another two set was sitting down eating lunch. I just join in and we talked about what they were studying, where they were from, and other beaches. They showed zero interest and gave off negative vibes as if I was an intruder so I just told them “well it was nice meeting you two” and ejected. I need to work on my game with two sets. Beach game is not as easy as I thought was. I managed to get into conversations with these groups of women, but they seemed closed off at any idea of a future interaction.

Later today I brought a mini notebook to try one of Sasha's techniques. He recommends drawing a picture of the girl and writing her name and number under the picture. After the interaction I plan to write five things about each her that makes her interesting. This helps ensure that a connection was built and could help lower my flake rate.

Monday August 27, 2012
I made one approach today at a department store. I went direct and made a successful cold read about her shopping for school. We talked about the school she was going to and how she wanted to be a nurse. I qualified her about nurses being overly nice and losing the thrill in life. She shared how she enjoys swimming and teaching swimming lessons. We discussed beaches and where she has traveled before. I threw in some more cold reading such as assuming she is a disorganized person by shopping last minute. I really could not tell if she was interested or just being nice. I did not kino at all or build a romantic connection. I closed by giving her my number, but I did not ask for hers. I'm not sure why I had such difficulty closing here. I should have just said something along the lines of “Your seem like a really cool chick, lets meet up for coffee on Wednesday before you go to college. Here let's exchange numbers.” The major flaws of my approach involved my struggles at the end of the interaction and the fact that I did not build a romantic connection.

Thursday August 30, 2012
I stopped at the mall after work and managed to do only one approach which turned into about a thirty minute interaction. I opened directly as usual. She never told me her name so I was not able to say it during the interaction to help build comfort and attraction. She was a freshman in college and told me about where she has been on vacation and her future goals. She also told me how she enjoys partying for fun. I did some kino and cold reading, but I do not think I qualified her enough. I should have asked her if she thinks she could handle older guys prior to the number exchange. She told me she would text me when she has time off from work to meet for lunch. I need to focus more on not caring about the interaction and getting the girl to laugh as a form of comfort building. My interactions tend to be basic talking about what they do for fun, what are their goals, vacations, and some other random topics. Usually I cold read or ask them a question on one of these topics then I tease or reward their responses. I may need to come up with new conversation topics to help reduce flaking. My field reports are not very in-depth, but I could use some advice on how interactions should go regarding cold approaches for day game.

Friday August 31, 2012
I went to the mall and played the “GO” game with a fellow member from the forum. It was interesting in that we did not really need to tell each other “go” since we both were able to approach women on our own which whom we thought was interesting to us. I must have made about eight approaches. Most of them were in a hurry and side stepped me following my initial approach. I approached a two set and we talked for a bit and I negged one of them, but they were in a hurry and ejected. My most successful approach of the day led to a fifteen minute interaction in which I gave her my number at the end of the interaction. Again I do not believe I qualified her enough to get her invested in me. We talked about her goals, what she does for fun, and vacations. I tried to put her in her happy place by talking about something she's interested in, but she did not give me much information to allow me to place her there. I had made another approach and the interaction went well, but when I tried to close she stated she had a boyfriend. I should have tried a boyfriend destroyer, but I am ignorant regarding the ways to overcome the “I have a boyfriend” obstacle. Some boyfriend destroyer routines would be appreciated.

Recap:

As I predicted, consistent sarging seems to be helping me slowly diminish approach anxiety. I find myself able to open better and more naturally without talking myself out of it. I plan to work on qualifying women and making more approaches however, as I do pass up on opportunities often. I also plan to continue meeting up with wingman from the forum as they are great motivators.

Tuesday September 11, 2012
I managed to go to a nearby college campus for about an hour and realized that despite the high flake rate especially at colleges, direct game is extremely fun and entertaining. I approached the first girl I saw and we talked for a bit, but she mentioned she had a boyfriend and she bored me so I just ejected. Later, a seated girl commented on my pants causing me to strike up a conversation with her. We fluff talked a lot, but I failed to get sexual with her despite I had some opportunities to do so. It was not a very long interaction, but she took my phone number and texted me later. Next, I made an approach to a girl on the phone, but she stated the phone call was important and could not talk to me. In my final approach, my usual opener really flattered the girl, but she informed me she has a boyfriend and was in a hurry. So I just gave her a hug and ejected. The particular college I sarged at today is a small commuter school. The college is a place for sarging despite it being so small and there having to a bit of a wait in order for opportunities to arrive. I think a commuter school can be easier to game since many of the girls cannot set up social circles like a major universities seeing as they simply go to class and then go home.

Smooth,

Really interesting thread. Man you've done a ton of work on getting over approach anxiety. I am sure you're open to some advice so I'll give my thoughts since I took the time to read through this.

It seems like you're so focused on approach anxiety and getting numbers that you may be missing the overall goal. If that's just what you're working on now and you want to get even more comfortable approaching first, that's cool. But it seems like you're doing very well with approaching and are really ready to go to a next step.

The goal really is to create a deeper connection. I constantly tell people not to use the phrase number close because it puts in your mind that somehow the number is a goal of its own when it really isn't. The goal is the connection. The number then becomes a means to continue that connection.

It seems to me you're staying too much on the surface with these women. It's probably not easy when you're doing so much day game in malls to get people willing to come have a deeper chat. But if you don't create a deeper connection you're going to get tons of flakes like you're getting.

You said yourself that you need to work on qualifying. That's true and along with that getting into more of her emotional life so she feels a bond and comfort with you.

Maybe you should add a new goal or two to just approaching or getting numbers. A goal to do with attraction and then a goal to do with connection. Try with each approach to get one good IOI and connect on at least one deeper value. That way when you get that number there is a lot more reason for her to care about picking up when you use it.

Just my thoughts. But I admire your commitment to getting out there.

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Im with you man, same struggles with flaking. It'l get better for the fearless direct nuts.

I guess something that might help you is getting real sexual with the girl. Verbally and physically

Shake her hand when meeting>touch her shoulder>kiss on the cheek>kiss

Verbal: Double entendres are good. If your direct, you probably abit fearless so don't apologize for being sexual. Try a question like: Have you tried anal? Nice to cunt..I mean meet you:]

Girls appreciate balls (pun intended)

Hope that helps man. Good luck

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Thanks for the advice; and yes I agree. Although, I do still have approach anxiety seeing as I am constantly passing up opportunities. However, it would certainly be beneficial for me to add a goal concerning building a connection and getting the girl invested in me. It has been numerous months since starting this field report and I plan to continue improving my skills. Pick-up certainly takes a long time to be effective and in my opinion takes much more practice than learning a new sport.