So this cute chick I met from okcupid and I went to a bar last night in DC. We previously met once in person for like 20 minutes 3 weeks ago and then she went to California for a few weeks. Anyway, she got in touch and we both had nothing going on so we decided to check this place out.

So I'm moderately tipsy/buzzed and we both grab a burger and head to the bar. She starts getting herself drinks and I start to chat her up and try some game. All of a sudden this shorter fat dude who is one of the bar tenders there grabs her from me and starts hugging her/caressing her and talking to her for a few minutes all in front of me. I'm thinking no bid deal at the time..they know each other..whatever but it ruined my frame without a doubt.

So she comes back, and I mention "you have good connections huh" smiling and continue on. I tried doing the trust test with her to which she failed several times and she's like "I don't know how to play this game!" but then the bartender before is now behind the bar we were at and grabs her hands (stroking her arms) and starts talking to her for several minutes. So by now ...obviously I'm getting a little pissed, blew my frame again. Then the bartender says to me "dude..you just gotta grab her and fuck her and be more physical" to which he tried on another girl asking drinks and she was pulling away with a grossed face. So I said to the girl, I admire his method but it's flawed. And she says "actually it works pretty well". Right then the same bartender grabs her again from behind the bar starts stroking her arms and hands and keeps putting his hand behind her head while they are leaning in, 2 minutes or so of this go by and I think they are going to start making out right there in front of me .....and I just BAIL!!!

Without saying anything....I'm just gone. She texts me 5 min later:
Her: "where did you go?"
Me: "walking towards the metro....you're wasting my time"
Her: "uh ok"
Me: "bye"
Her: "ya*"
Her: "bye us"

and that was that. My roommates who are also PUA's said I overreacted and should have just went to a different bar and I realized that by the time I exited the bar but it was already too late and I didn't know my way around DC very well so I just went home. I was irritated and in no mood to keep gaming, this guy kept blowing my frame and she kept buying it from him because she obviously knows him (for the free drinks) so I was like F this I'm out of here.

I guess you could say the fat bar tender won/AMOGED me but really, he's the bartender..can't DHV anymore than that especially if you're capable of free drinks. So I did what I felt was best and left.

What should I have done differently or was that the best "No bullshit" reaction I could possibly do?

By the rare chance she texts me days later, how should I handle it? Or should I even text her back at this point. I think it's a lost cause.

Well....

There're 3 types of communication behaviors.

Visual, Aditive and kinesthetic.

Your HB was kino. She responds more to touch. Lots of girls respond to other things like words, sounds, stories, laughter, eyecontact, etc.. But there are plenty that respond better to silence and touch.

YourHB is definetely one of those.

One thing you could have done is bounce to another place or at least moving away from that fat dude, or AMOG the guy.... concentrate on the guy, AMOG him in such a way that he ends up loving you more than her hahahhaha (ok not that much).

Or you could have plain tried the more agressive kino like say... "Your friend from the bar told me to hold your arm and touch you more, like this.....(caress her) Is this ok? does it feel good?... (stroking her arm or something) now if she laughs or knots you're on the right track.. This may seem stupid to some, but given that you're frame is falling down because of that guy. you could have tried to be more agressive in your aproach and if that failed then fuck it, dump her.

Epic dump by the way.. "Walking towards the metro...." hahhaha that was good

Well that's my opinion.

Suggest you to move on

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I 100% agree, I am bartender.. I fuck guys all the time taking their girlz even got a routine for it. Best way to deal with it is getting "friends with us". If you cant beat them join them. We dont take women from friends we help them DHV, free drinks and get them to have sex.

If you cant be friends. Then just order a cocktail which takes time to make. That will give you 2 - 3 min to get your game straight. Then leave a tip.. and while he is taking the tip to the tipbox RUN! (Take her to an other place, dance w/e)

man, you should of use this routine, i made it up my self, but tbh i dont know any other mpua have this but work great.

say this to the girl,

hey you got some napkin ?
she did be like why?
o i dont wanna embarrassed your friend.
then grab a napkin from somewhere, tell his barten thish,
yo, man u got a booger in your nose, you should whip that out.
i bet he will shut the fuck up, and lower his self esteem.
then be like you man did u drop that 100dollar on the ground? he did be like wtf where is it? kjasdkjfas,
then you tell the girl this, wow your freind is a really gold digger, r u his sugar mommy? dam, it must be his shiny head( if he is bald). then ask his to make you a drink,

while u got 2-3min, dhv like a boss, use the best dhv if u have,

i use this one,
what do you think of guys with make up?
she go like blah blah,
o cuz my instructor said i have to wear makeup while im on the stage cuz, this one is big event.
she did be like what it is
i go like, o cuz i have a performance for miss world canada, my instructor is firend with her, if she wint she gonna have venue in vancouver, will do some performance.
(this is my DHV stories, and this is is true, use it if you like. they might ask who is it, say tara teng.) gl

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Haha! Did it really work? Must have been a real bad bartender!
I dont see this route work on any bartender.

[quote="cheater"]man, you should of use this routine, i made it up my self, but tbh i dont know any other mpua have this but work great.

say this to the girl,

hey you got some napkin ?
she did be like why?
o i dont wanna embarrassed your friend.
then grab a napkin from somewhere, tell his barten thish,
yo, man u got a booger in your nose, you should whip that out.
i bet he will shut the fuck up, and lower his self esteem.
then be like you man did u drop that 100dollar on the ground? he did be like wtf where is it? kjasdkjfas.

I don't know if your typing illiterately on purpose but this shit had me rolling lol.

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Not Every girl is going to be instantly attracted to you it is what you do that makes them attracted to you.

I dont think you overreacted, you guys arnt together so obviously you gonna be seein other people and so is she but she should not be touching other people sexuallly in front of you. thats disrespectful. but despite all this what the bartender said was right eventhough it sounds like he was just tryin to cock-block you, not too mention that you really cant complain since you let it happen.

I would have to say at this point yes... its done. you totally killed it when u got mad and left. Girls like guys who can roll with the punches... even if she knows the bar tender u still wernt blown out. You were blown out when u didnt do anything to re-engage her and the rest of the set. The bartender was a tool... all u would have had to do is say to her "oh is this your friend?? introduce me... thats the polite thing to do" -- and boom she looks stupid for ditching you and ur right back in the middle of the set. Then when he keeps doing his touchy stuff u ask them "how do u all kno each other?" She may say they r friends or he may say the same... w/e. The point is they arnt dating... so when they answer that question look at the obstacle aka the bartender and say "oh i see your just trying to get it in w her arnt you? i see what your doing being all touchy and flirty thats smooth man" and hes blown out. Why? bc hes now a creep... and she knows hes just trying to have sex w her.

Hope this helps. But also one last thing (and maybe im just ranting) dont call yourself a PUA just yet. If you dont understand these basic concepts (in my opinion these are basics to pick up) you are not yet a pua. I see so many guys calling themselves puas and yet they cant even build attraction... Keep studying and understanding how women work.

GL
Duke